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Grown-up Crushes

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aloha · 27/08/2003 14:37

Again, I'm asking for help. Do any of you have/or have had in the past, a romantic obsession or crush. I'm not talking about stalking or anything really crazy, just a passion for somebody - maybe somebody you know or a celebrity who you became obsessed with. Maybe the obsession had an impact on your real life relationship - ie your partner has got fed up with your going on about, say Robbie Williams or Brad Pitt. Just wondering what you got out of it and would you give it up for your man. I know someone who had a long-term obsession with David Essex. His face was on all the tea-towels, travelled miles to see him, joined the fan club etc, and her family were very tolerant!

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ThomCat · 27/08/2003 14:48

Don't try and pretend the person who obsessed about David Essex wasn't you!!

SamboM · 27/08/2003 14:55

Lucky your family was so tolerant Aloha

Sonnet · 27/08/2003 14:56

Yes I have had - real life person (no celeb)
V.detrimental effect on me and my family
am well over it now - closed chapter!!

Northerner · 27/08/2003 15:02

Yes I too had a crush on a real person. I'd not been married long when it develpoed. It was on a client at work, so I had to see him on a weekly basis. I really fancied this guy, and got the feeling he fancied me too. But he was also married. It got to the point where we were flirting dangerously and I was seriously worried that I might have an affair. I had to hand the account to a colleague and stop all contact with him. I now have a different job so I don't even hear about him.

Funnily enough I bumped into him in ASDA recently, and the sparks were still there. Hate myself for thinking it, but I do still really fancy him.

aloha · 27/08/2003 15:19

No, I had a much more embarassing crush on Woody from the Bay City Rollers....but that was long, long ago! My English teacher had a crush on David Essex, but that was also a long, long time ago...

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aloha · 27/08/2003 15:21

Sonnet, any chance of more info? Won't need real names or identifying details, just why you the crush was important to you at the time and do you think it was the man who sparked the feelings or something 'missing' in your own life?

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Sonnet · 27/08/2003 15:46

Hi Aloha,
A combination of the two but with hindsight I could have delt with my feelings had there not been something(unidentifiable) missing in my own life.
Unfortuantly/fortunatly the feelings were returned and as i saw this person on an almost daily basis I lived on a unexploded bomb for three years.

I could go on and on..what happened, how I dealt with it and my subsequant analysis of the situation.....it maybe helpful to me, but don't think mumsnett is the right forum - someone may know me!!

mieow · 27/08/2003 15:56

I have had a crush on a bloke for 8 years. I recently made contact with him via Friend reunited, He knows now that I have a crush on him and he is cool with it, he even admitted to having a soft spot for me. I am married and he has a girlfriend. We both know that nothing can come of it. I am currently trying to mend my marriage after a long period of doubt and the other guy knows this.
I also worked with this guy for 4 years and like Sonnet I was living on a bomb. I'm glad I left when I did, hadn't seen him in years, saw him in April, heart went into overdrive again. Made contact about 2 months ago, told him things I didn't dare to at the age of 16, and now we both know where we stand. He doesn't want to lose me as a friend, as I was one of his "real" friends at work.
Its dangerous contacting people you have a crush on, but I know now that he only see me as a mate and I am happy to be friends with him. At least I haven't lost his friendship.

Sonnet · 27/08/2003 16:07

Can empathise with you Mieow on the friendship thing. Unfortunatly I lost the friendship - 1year on I still mourn the lost friendship!!-

aloha · 27/08/2003 16:13

Does anyone have a positive crush - just one that makes you feel good and makes the day go faster? Or just a phone call that you always look forward to? I have often found that a phone crush melts away if you actually meet the person...

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Sonnet · 27/08/2003 16:17

mine use to be a positive crush - the day went faster....looked forward to the next, when the phone went, text mess etc etc.....

mum28 · 27/08/2003 18:37

ok i'll admit it,i have a thing about archie the inventor in balamory.don't ask me why!

misdee · 27/08/2003 18:40

but archie has hair like my daughter!!!!

i have a huuuuge crush on a mate of mine, i actually told him the other week, his reply was 'u think i didnt know?!!' lol. still speaking so thats a good thing. have known him years.

codswallop · 27/08/2003 18:41

archie is gay tho

mum28 · 27/08/2003 18:47

i think my daughter has a crush on barney the dino!.does that count!

sobernow · 27/08/2003 18:49

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SamboM · 27/08/2003 19:25

Who is Bill Bailey?

spacemonkey · 27/08/2003 19:48

he's the hippyish musician/comedian who took sean hughes' place on never mind the buzzcocks

spacemonkey · 27/08/2003 19:51

(i think he's lovely too)

misdee · 27/08/2003 19:56

i always think of archie as gay too!! is balamory one of the most politically correct programs on tv?

Jenie · 27/08/2003 20:33

It's the terible jumpers and the skirt that make him look gay, oh yes and living in a pink castle can't help.

misdee · 27/08/2003 20:36

the lovely pink jumpers.........

motherinferior · 27/08/2003 20:51

I am Crush City. Have had masses, all my life: encompassing boys at school, blokes at college, people at work, chaps I had to deal with on the phone who sounded nice (and yes, they were almost always a massive disappointment in the flesh) kd lang, Alan Rickman... Did once manage to get off with, and subsequently live with one, as well. They seem to have died down but that's probably because I don't have a life apart from work, childcare and Buffy the Vampire Slayer (and in fact I have more than a bit of a crush on two BTVS actors, as have a number of sensible people I know).

Embarrassing details available on request; as far as I'm concerned it's like that Nancy Mitford quote, 'darling, what else is there to think about, when one's alone'?

mieow · 27/08/2003 21:02

Misdee, having crushes is cool, isn't it!!!!LOL
Oh well, we both know who we fancy!!
PS everyone we're sisters!!!

GeorginaA · 27/08/2003 23:00

Funny ... I have a thing for PC Plum on Balamory...

oh ... he and Tom Cruise... and Michael Biehn before he got old and ugly wasn't bad either.

Oh dear. I'll shut up now.