Shall I be Mrs DHname, Ms MyName or what?

[SenoraPostrophe]

so, it's coming up to our first anniversary and I still haven't decided whether to change my name.

The kids have DH's name because it's very unusual, my name is slightly nicer, but harder for Spanish people to spell. Googling my name brings up lots of results, Googling my name with DH's surname produces none. It sounds silly as a double barrel, and we're not posh enough for that anyway. Part of me would love to have the same name as my family, part of me thinks that is letting down the "cause".

what do you think?

also what did you do?

also if I keep my name, presumably I should be Ms. Should i also write snotty emails to sites which do not give me that option?

what does Bruja mean, SP?

I'm another kept-my-own-name. Yes, I know it came from my dad who is another man, but it is MY name, the one I've been called by all my life and I like it. Ds has my name - I was all for giving him both and let him choose which one to use when he grew up. But dh surprised me by not wanting his name to be used - apparently he doesn't like it very much. To be fair, it is very boring!

Dh did think about changing his name to mine, but felt he'd built up a professional reputation and couldn't face the wrath of his mum (father deceased before all this became an issue).

I'm mainly Ms for the 'none of your business' reasons but amuses me sometimes to be Mrs because it sounds like my Gran.

Witch????

Oh, ds has dh's father's Christian name as a middle name. Dh thought that was a way of remembering his late father. MIL said 'Oh, that's a shame, your father never liked his name!'