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Adoption: my baby's 16 today

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roisin · 15/09/2005 18:27

As many of you know I had a baby adopted at birth a long time ago when I was a student. He was born 16 years ago today; so it's been a tough day for me.

A few good friends have always remembered and sent me emails or messages, but no-one has this year. Dh hasn't even mentioned it
I hope my 'birth son' has enjoyed his day!

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cod · 15/09/2005 18:30

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spacecadet · 15/09/2005 18:30

oh im so sorry, i hope he is having a great day where ever he is.
{{{hugs}}}

Yorkiegirl · 15/09/2005 18:30

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Rowlers · 15/09/2005 18:31

Not sure what to say.
We have an adoption in the family and I always wonder where that little boy is and what he's doing. But he wasn't my son so it's not so hard for me.
Have a glass of wine to celebrate his birthday. I'm sure he's very happy, maybe he's thinking of you too?
That probably doesn't help does it?

Nemo1977 · 15/09/2005 18:31

hugs to you

Fio2 · 15/09/2005 18:34

hope he has had a lovely day and I hope you do too It must be very hard. i remember you mentioning him before and I always think of how open and honest you are about him with your family and friends and think it is lovely. My nephew is never mentioned in our family and I think it is really sad and infact i am quite concerned my other nephew is going to find out off someone else and be devastated

take care of yourself xx

cod · 15/09/2005 18:34

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Fio2 · 15/09/2005 18:35

sorry for waffling on. i also meant to say, please dont feel so sad that people have forgotten, i am sure it isnt intentional. How about ringing one of your friends up to chat about him and this? would that make you feel a little better?

Jimjams · 15/09/2005 18:36

awww give him a toast tonight roisin. xxx

harpsichordcarrier · 15/09/2005 19:07

I don't have any words of wisdom for you roisin, but wanted to say that I am sorry you are having a tough day. I have several friends (all much older than your son - I am of that generation) and without exception they think of their birth parents often, so I'm sure you are on his mind too.
thinking of you

RTKangaMummy · 15/09/2005 19:10

I was adopted at 6 weeks and think about bm quite alot and so am sure he will think of you today too.

I 2 years he can come and find you

Have you registered with NORCAP?

Raise a glass for him tonight, {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

steffee · 15/09/2005 19:11

I hope you're ok roisin, and can manage to have a good day. Agree with thoughts that people haven't intentionally forgotten and I'm sure if you mentioned it to your dh or to a friend they would be happy to have a chat.

Nightynight · 15/09/2005 19:18

Happy birthday, roisin's eldest!

Nightynight · 15/09/2005 19:18

and a virtual hug to you roisin. that must have been a very hard thing to do.

Milge · 15/09/2005 19:31

I wad adopted too and always hope my bm is thinking about me on my birthday, so your message has made me feel better - thank you. I hope you get through today.

Milge · 15/09/2005 19:31

I wad adopted too and always hope my bm is thinking about me on my birthday, so your message has made me feel better - thank you. I hope you get through today.

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roisin · 15/09/2005 19:32

Thank you all for your kind words - you've made me cry now!

RTK - Yes, I'm registered with Norcap.

I work at secondary school now, so I've spent my day looking at Yr11 boys ... and mostly thinking well I hope he is nothing like you! LOL!

Cod; I'm pleased to hear you're not omniscient! I don't know anything about him now.

No contact adoption, since papers were signed when he was 3 months old.
His mum's a psychiatrist and his dad's a teacher. He has an older brother Matthew, 2 yrs older, also adopted. That's all I know.

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motherinferior · 15/09/2005 19:34

Oh sweetie, I'm sure he's thinking of you too. And I too think he will probably make contact with you.

Nightynight · 15/09/2005 19:52

wish you happier birthdays in the future roisin. not much comfort now though I guess.

edam · 15/09/2005 19:57

Agree with MI - I bet he's thinking about you. My mother's adopted and always thinks of her bm on her own birthday.

frogs · 15/09/2005 20:23

(Hugs) roisin.

I'm sure he's having a great day, and one day it'll mean a lot to him to know you were thinking of him each birthday.

Blossomhill · 15/09/2005 20:26

Hi Roisin

As you know my adopted sister contacted us 3 years ago. We are very close.

I do know however that every year until then on the 6th Feb my mum felt exactly how you do.

Hugs to you xxxxxx

RTKangaMummy · 15/09/2005 20:42

Roisin good idea about NORCAP

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roisin · 15/09/2005 21:01

Thank you everybody

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yoyo · 15/09/2005 21:02

What a difficult day for you Roisin. I hope one day you are able to tell him how much you have thought about him over the years, especially on his birthday.
Do remind your Dh - you need a hug.

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