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This will probably get me into trouble... but how can you have money worries...

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emkana · 02/09/2005 08:59

... when the wife is a full-time GP and the husband a solicitor? I'm just reading "What about me?" by Kate Figes and the narrator in the book is the GP and she moans about not having enough money to buy a decent car or to fix the roof. Now, I estimate that the combined salary of that couple would be about £150.000 a year, wouldn't it? How can that not be enough????????
I know, I know, the woman is the narrator of the book and so it's subjective and you spend what you have so it never feels enough and all that...
but still it puts my back up, am I supposed to empathize with the narrator now over her troubled lot or what???

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giraffeski · 02/09/2005 19:55

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stitch · 02/09/2005 19:55

emkana, i am in a lousy depressed miserable mood right now. my life is shiite. i have nothing except mumsnet. so if i want to click on something that i found interesting earlier, then i willl.
and if that is argumentative, well tough. i cant yell and scream at the people in rl, so i am doing it in cyberspace, whilst feeling very sorry for myself

expatinscotland · 02/09/2005 19:57

If I gave into misery about our dire financial situation I'd have had a nervous breakdown ages ago.

SherlockLGJ · 02/09/2005 20:06

GS

Cracking post

LGJ

giraffeski · 02/09/2005 20:13

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Pruni · 02/09/2005 20:17

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QueenOfQuotes · 02/09/2005 20:23

"If someone wants a huge mortgage "

oh yes I'm sure there's loads of people just gagging to get massive mortgages......

And as I mentioned before circumstances can changes very quickly (and drastically) meaning that someone who could previously afford that big mortgage (or even a small one) and to run their essential cars suddenly finding themselves unable to pay.

From the outside it looks like we're doing well, ok it's not a 'very' flash car - but it's 2004 Mondeo....... One could argue "well sell it". We probably would if it wasn't for the fact it's on a hire purchase scheme - so if we sold it - we'd have to give all the money to the place we bought it from - thus leaving us with no money OR a car!

Lol Expat - re the nervous breakdown - I know how you feel

harpsichordcarrier · 02/09/2005 20:32

Pruni! thank you. I am sorry if I offended you but it is all breastmilk under the bridge my dear

I would offer you a big kiss on the lips but you get plenty of that from your MIL I understand.
HC xxx

SherlockLGJ · 02/09/2005 20:32

HC

PMSL

SherlockLGJ · 02/09/2005 20:33

Run Pruni run~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Pruni · 02/09/2005 20:36

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sweetkitty · 02/09/2005 20:45

I was the one who was moaning about my relatives going on about how much their houses are now worth, I wasn't getting at anyone on this site, I too have benefitted from the rise in house prices, it is because of the equity in our flat in London that we are able to move to Scotland to a bigger house and I have the added bonus of being able to be a SAHM, OK we are going to be struggling for a few years until I can earn again but it's our choice as a family.

I was actually have a moan at my relatives who are obsessed with house prices, they mention it every time I see them, personally I find house prices/mortgage conversations boring. One of my cousins actually said one day he was driving his nervous flier father to the airport and was joking don't worry Dad your house is now worth 120K I'll move into it and sell mine. Even as a joke I found this in bad taste but thats my cousin obsessed with house prices.

PeachyClair · 02/09/2005 20:46

Moozoboozo 9so)- yep we're with the crippled rent bit too! For some reason people seem to see it as a lesser expense than a house. It's a roof, we need it. Can't buy (no way dh earns enough and we got into probs when he was redundant back along and lost the house we had).

It IS all about expectations. We used to earn £30k between us, DH earns £17800 now but don't feel any more broke, we always felt broke.

MIl called recently to tell us we were rich and should give her money. She and BIL earn £20k (they share a mortgage and all bills). We earn less and have 3 kids, but apparently our rent doesn't count, coz only a mortgage is 'necessary'!

So I guess it's all in your own head and down to the way you see it. Wouldn't mind her wage tho. - maybe when I graduate?

Why can't I see it?

PeachyClair · 02/09/2005 20:50

Just been reminded of Sis who claims to be unable to addord a car that lasts longer than six months, but is in a £500 pw hotel abroad for a fortnight!! Makes me and Mum larf, so she does!!!

compo · 02/09/2005 20:52

Very interesting thread. What always amuses me is the threads on here about how poor people are, but they still post on their PC, with their braodband connection, all hunky dory

sweetkitty · 02/09/2005 20:53

I would sell DP rather than lose my internet connection

compo · 02/09/2005 20:54
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QueenOfQuotes · 02/09/2005 20:54

yes compo - we've got broadband - thanks to an NThelL cock-up we've got it free for one year........plus it's VITAL for us with our business - if we want to have ANY chance of it succeeding we MUST have a computer and internet connection.

Fio2 · 02/09/2005 20:59

yes Queen of Quotes but on another thread not so long ago you stated that God did indeed pay your bills for you.......

QueenOfQuotes · 02/09/2005 21:02

I said God gives us the means to pay the bills.

As yet, despite having had no income at ALL at the end of July, and only a tiny amount during August we're uptodate on all our bills. No letters on the doormat and the knowledge that we'll have DH's full salary at the end of this month (as well as only having to pay half the mortgage amount too).

And TBH - I'm not sure of the relevance of that comment anyhow?

PeachyClair · 02/09/2005 21:22

Broadband is essential for DH's second job. Thank goodness.

We're not poor. We're investing in the future. ie we're willing to do this for a finite time whilst I study. it's much harder I would think when you have no way out.

giraffeski · 02/09/2005 21:29

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nikkie · 02/09/2005 22:20

I feel I am pretty lucky as I am a single mum and work 2p/t jobsbut I own(morgage) my own house(bought when they were cheap).
Can't run acar but do get to use my mams a lot. My mam and family have been good when I split and needed to sell my car and get loads fixed on the house they helped me.
Now I have enough for day-to-day stuff but can't afford hols abroad or UK really and big luxuries(though I have sky and net(not bb) though may get rid of sky!)

expatinscotland · 02/09/2005 22:29

My father bought us this PC to communicate with him b/c he lives abroad. My second job is self-employed and the broadband is business expensable. Otherwise we wouldn't have it.

Lonelymum · 02/09/2005 22:35

This discussion is crazy. Money worries are money worries whether it is 29p for a tin of beans you can't afford or a mortgage of over £1000 a month.

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