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It's that time of day

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 19:45

Anyone else get to this time of day and can't take it anymore.Still waiting for dh to get in so i can say right they are all yours.He said he would be in at 6.30,still no sign.Ds and dd are running around like mad things and doing everything they can to annoy me.

Already today they have drawn over walls and furniture,ds covered dd in muck from the garden all in her hair,chucked muck all over the kitchen floor and all over the patio.Drenched the patio and made mud pies.I go to stop one of them playing up and the other one is getting into mischeif as soon as my back is turned.

You get to the point where you want to run out the door and I know it's an awful thing to say but their voices just go through you when they are playing up and you just want to scream.

Where do they get that burst of energy from at the end of the day?

And to top it all of i suspect dh has popped to the pub after work to unwind.Agghhhhhhhhhhhh

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BLANKfloozypuddingandpie · 30/08/2005 19:50

I say ring him, drag him back home, and get to the pub yourself!

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paolosgirl · 30/08/2005 19:51

Yep - dh has just walked in the door , and after doing a full days work myself, followed by collecting kids from after-school club, home, sorting out bags for tomorrow, doing the homework, cooking the dinner, doing an internet project with DS and getting them both in to the shower, I'm having half an hour on MN.

moondog · 30/08/2005 19:52

Hmmmmmmmm,started a thread in this vein yesterday.
I reckon you should go to the pub with them and tell him 'Your turn now darling!' before slamming down the carkeys and disappearing into the night.

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 20:00

Wow,that was a quick response,obviously a lot of us out there.

Still no sign of him and he never answers his mobile which infuriates me even more.

Just come on mumsnet and put a dvd on for the kids and turned the lights down low to try and calm them down.If dh were to come in now he would probably say "oh,ain't the kids in bed yet"

Moondog did'nt see your thread from yesterday will do a search.

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moondog · 30/08/2005 20:04

It was in Chat,entiutled 'How long can you deal with your kids without a break' or something similar.

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 20:05

Thanks moondog,need all the help I can get.

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blossom2 · 30/08/2005 20:09

i left a desparate message for DH at work today saying come home early tonight.... turns up at 9.00pm... think he's having an affair or something because work cant be that good or busy... he left at 8.00am this morning .... so pissed off

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 20:16

Mine left at 7.15am today,and still no sign.The kids are now playing me off one againest the other and I can't keep up with it .They won't settle and ds has just chucked a peach all over the dining room floor and dd just copys everything he does.I know they are trying to test me but i am losing it ans am going to go into the kitchen and calm down.

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 20:17

Should say I know being on mumsnet is,nt a good idea when they are likj this but i need to distract myself and get this frustration out somewhere,to you lot sorry!!

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kama · 30/08/2005 20:19

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 20:31

Yes it is Kama.
What gets me is why my dh thinks he has the right to this unwinding time normally 4 out of 5 evenings in the week.

My ds has just opened up the blinds again and put on the big light looking for his daddy to come home and i am trying to get him to sleep.
It's heartbreaking when he just stands at the window going dad dad and i am getting more and more angry with dh and just want to lock myself in the bathroom and cry.

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 20:47

Just to add insult to injury,an e mail dh sent at 4.00pm has only just reached me saying well done.( I suffer from panic attacks and had managed to take the kids to the shop and park today)and that he will be home about 6pm,yeh right!!!!

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moondog · 30/08/2005 21:03

How bloody thoughtless of him mistyblue!

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 22:47

Well,still no sign of him and he is not answering his mobile.
All sorts of things are going through my head,although I have been here before and it's likely he will turn up soon blind drunk and collapse on the sofa.

My cbt therapist who is helping me with my anxiety is coming round tommorrow and I am dreading it.
I feel scared and numb and will have to try and sound positive for our meeting tommorrow .

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charliecat · 30/08/2005 22:50

Lock the door on him insenstive TWAT.

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 23:34

Well,true to form he came in at around 11pm blind drunk and when I asked him what the hell he was playing at he tried to change the subject.
I have been told I am mad as ahatter(because i have been seeing a therapist for anxiety and pnd)
Told to f*k off a few times and been called an a*hole.When I asked why he was still with me then he said because of the children.

I was feeling so posiyive today,having took the children out and my therapist will be so pleased.He has just brought me down again with a bump and my self esteem has dropped again.

Charliecat-I thought about locking him out but knew he would bang on the door and did'nt want to wake the children or for the neighbours to see him making a scene.

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rickman · 30/08/2005 23:38

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charliecat · 30/08/2005 23:47

I wouldnt hide it form the therapist either, tell him/her that you were having a good day till this happened.
Noone would feel good after thier partner has not came home for hours, turned up drunk and been abusive.
Feeling for you xxx

charliecat · 30/08/2005 23:48

Oh and for that time of day I switch a dvd on or let them on the playstation, refering back to your original post.

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 23:49

Hi Rickman,I don't know what to do.This is a fairly regular occurance and the next day he does'nt know what he has said.
He is asleep on the sofa now and I am sitting here dreading seeing my therapist tommorrow as she knows me pretty well by now and I have got to hold it all together and not get upset.
Dh did this the last time I was seeing my therapist went out the night before and got drunk and then came home and told me how useless I was and I ended up in such a state I could'nt face the therapy meeting so cancelled.I can't cancel again tommorrow.

I have tried to talk to his mother when he came home one night threatening he would take the kids from me as I was mad but he took the phone off me.
Upshot was she never mentioned it again and when i rang the next day to speak to her to explain FIL answered and put the phone down on me.

I can't see a way out of this but I have to find one.I can't continue like this for much longer and I am NOT having my children being brought up in this atmosphere.NO WAY,I love them so much and that's why it hurts so much when he does this.

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charliecat · 30/08/2005 23:51

When hes not drunk is he ok?

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 23:54

Thanks Charliecat-My therapist knows me all to well ,I suspose that's her job and she will know something is wrong.

Sorry'I seem to have diverted this away from my original thread title which was meant to be a low key rant.I did'nt know then it would be one of THOSE nights again.

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mistyblue · 30/08/2005 23:54

Thanks Charliecat-My therapist knows me all to well ,I suspose that's her job and she will know something is wrong.

Sorry'I seem to have diverted this away from my original thread title which was meant to be a low key rant.I did'nt know then it would be one of THOSE nights again.

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charliecat · 30/08/2005 23:55

Must go to bed now, hope your ok, DO go to that appointment tommorow x

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