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One-child families

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Tearoom (the 38th) - some help taking off the dust sheets?

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HelloMist · 20/12/2019 00:53

I like the idea of a tearoom again, mentioned by MaudAndOtherPoems on another thread. Can anyone that remembers the old ones help us get the place looking welcoming again? Equally if you are new to the tearoom idea like me and would like a place to pop in for ongoing chatter rather than specific threads, welcome. Make yourself a drink.

< Turns coffee machine back on, pulls dust sheets off the sofas, opens the blinds >

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Cappucinoextrachocolate · 20/12/2019 08:40

Can I join? Oh, don't mind me, I'll help myself with a biscuit for that coffee....

summ3rs · 20/12/2019 13:59

Hellomist. I’d love to pull up a chair and join too! I love what you’ve done with the place and the cupcakes look delicious! 🧁 xx

BooseysMom · 21/12/2019 19:45

@HelloMist.. may i join you too please? I reckon there are a lot of us out there who would love the company of other one child parents

MonaChopsis · 21/12/2019 19:46

I've brought along some homemade mince pies, everybody please help yourselves...

DobbyTheHouseElk · 21/12/2019 19:47

I only lurked before. But I’ll happily help you dust down the worktops and get the cushions plumped up.

armsandtheman · 21/12/2019 19:51

I've brought milk! Love a cuppa

BooseysMom · 21/12/2019 21:00

@MonaChopsis.. oh thank you! I love mince pies esp homemade. You are clever and kind

summ3rs · 21/12/2019 21:10

This is such a lovely idea. I’m just wondering what the opening hours are? X

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HelloMist · 21/12/2019 21:55

Oh lovely, it has filled up since I last peeped in! Welcome everyone, I'm glad you've joined us.

< Tucks into a mince pie > thank you, Mona. Just what I needed actually, am currently (if I can be in 2 places at once) sat in a hotel room in the dark and quiet waiting for DD to fall asleep before I start rustling any hotel biscuits! Yesterday it was the last day at school - the end of her very first term, as she's in reception. We're staying near my mum to help her (she's recently had a hip replacement).

Summ3rs the tearoom is open all hours but I'm afraid it is self service and the milk or goodies might run low late at night.

Thank you for pitching in Dobby! Welcome, BooseysMom.

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midgetjen · 21/12/2019 21:58

I'm new but would love to join in too if that's ok? My son has just finished his first term in reception too. Is anyone else finding the pre Christmas excitement for them coupled with end of school excitement is making them a bit feral or is it just mine!?

TheTrousersOfTime · 21/12/2019 22:06

I hardly ever post but would love to join in with you. DD has also just finished her first term of reception! She was massively overtired today but wanted to play let's pretend all day and wouldn't just stop and sit quietly. It was exhausting!

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HelloMist · 21/12/2019 22:09

Of course, midgetjen.

DD has been a bit overexcited and silly a lot of today! But it's partly visiting relatives and the novelty of the hotel etc. Probably end of school and Christmas coming up add to the out of the norm feeling too! How's he finding school, settling in OK?

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summ3rs · 21/12/2019 22:10

My little man starts Reception next September but all the pre Christmas excitement is certainly making him very lively.

MonaChopsis · 22/12/2019 12:52

BooseysMom you are obviously a woman with good judgement

DD is nine now, nearly ten, and was talking yesterday about plans for when she grows up. After years of me struggling with not being able to give her a sibling, it was lovely to hear her say she would only want one child, as she really enjoys being an only!! I grew up with siblings so it's been hard to realise that she now sees being an only as a positive, whereas I always saw it as a negative for her!!

armsandtheman · 22/12/2019 15:25

My dd is poorly today so I'm definitely needing caffeine to keep going. We've made cakes for Santa that I'm hoping will last until Christmas Eve.

Deer1981 · 22/12/2019 15:45

Can I join too guys! :) x

BooseysMom · 22/12/2019 15:58

@HelloMist.. thank you. It's good to be here

@midgetjen.. DS has def gone a bit feral as the big day draws nearer! It is making me feel glad he's my only!

@MonaChopsis. Ah, thank you! So kind of you to say.

Your DD sounds very grown-up and sensible. I was the same in that i kept seeing being an only as a negative for DS but as i've been coming to terms with it i'm really seeing all the positives. I'm lucky in that he never expresses interest in having a sibling and it's much better for my stress levels and purse strings!

bookworm14 · 23/12/2019 16:53

Can I join? I have DD aged 4, and we are done for a variety of reasons. We are with family at the moment and it’s lovely seeing DD playing with her twin cousins, but it is reinforcing my view that I couldn’t cope with more than one!!

Jillyhilly · 23/12/2019 19:44

Love the idea of the tea room!

Hello all. My DS is 7. Had him older after thinking I’d never be a mum, so it was always going to be just him. But even so, I know what you mean about coming to terms with the idea BooseysMom. There were times when, being one of 3 myself, I’ve really worried that he is missing out on something important. But for the most part I really can see advantages.

MonaChopsis · 23/12/2019 21:39

I never expected to be a single Mum, let alone one who has been a lone parent for long stretches of time (DD's dad has started stepping up a bit more in the last 12 months so I now get one night a fortnight child free!! Unless he has other plans) For me, having an only as a single parent has been a godsend... I've fount it really tough with one, I don't think I could have coped with two or more! Stretched far too thin as it is.

Except around my waist.

armsandtheman · 24/12/2019 18:59

Happy Christmas Eve everyone. I've baked cakes for Santa but sure he's happy to share

BooseysMom · 24/12/2019 21:04

@armsandtheman.. Happy Christmas Eve!
I have a lovely homemade mince pie i'm saving so would love a cake if you have any spare? Thanks

@Jillyhilly.. thanks for sharing that. I started another thread on here recently asking for help and the response has been great and already i feel a tonne better about our decision to stop ttc. DS is 6 and i had him at 41 so i kind of knew he would most likely be an only.

@bookworm14.. hi and welcome. I know exactly what you mean about seeing parents coping with more than one. I'm older now and it wouldn't be fair to add another at this stage as i'm knackered enough with one 6 year old!!

Wishing you all a very happy Christmas and New Year x

Jillyhilly · 25/12/2019 21:49

Hope everyone has a good Christmas?

We usually have 6 round the table but for one reason and another this year it was just the 3 of us. I wasn’t really looking forward to such a quiet Christmas, but it was bloody brilliant! Completely relaxed, no stress about dealing with my older parents and DS not behaving as well as they’d like... we ate, played on the X box, some board games, watched TV. A really nice, chill day!

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armsandtheman · 26/12/2019 07:45

We had a really lovely day. My dd8 has a horrible hacking cough and it's really affected her appetite so she picked when she was in the mood. The rest of us had a fab spread thanks to M&S that dh just had to heat.

I have an only mostly out of choice so really embrace the advantages. It means we have a great bond and whilst her needs take priority there's space for all of us to do the things we want to. I make sure her friends are always welcome and we do holidays where she can make friends. I sometimes feel guilty she won't have a sister/brother relationship but do my best to make up for it without spoiling her.

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