tea room 36 - Teh Alpine Chalet

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Welcome to the Tea rooms newest incarnation. A cozy log cabin with a roaring log fire, comfy chintz sofas and a dedicated man about the house, our Butler, Mellors. Out of the windows you can see sparkling white snow gently drifted up under the green Christmas trees and bright blue skies. Children can all be packed off to play healthy outdoor stuff while we stay snug n warm in here with our mulled wine, tea,artisan hot chocolate and other beverages served in mugs, glasses or buckets.

The usual rules apply - no fisticuffs. And no messing with the aspidistra.

Arnica is a good thought MT

I managed to hobble to school with the YD :)

I am full of trepidation for tonight....
(Travel is sorted: we will now take the car to the railway station, train into town then get a taxi up to Relate)

(Mind boggles - how do you break a toe singing? Unless of course your friend kicked a prop or something)

Yes, arnica and a pack of frozen peas sounds good. And sending you positive vibes for tonight, Donki.

She was 'gripping the floor' through her shoes with her toes...

Typical. Yesterday was one of 'those'days.
Broken toe
Relate cancelled the appointment (counsellor ill -fair enough)
Went to the YD's transition IEP review and the person who said they wouldn't be there (senco from secondary school) was. Not bad in itself. Indeed good - but H wanted to see him and hadn't booked time off.
YD refused to go riding because we were waiting for MiL to arrive as YD-sitter for the evening.

It had it's good parts too - met two gorgeous kittens and saw a good friend.

?Puts out breakfast buffet - with fresh fruit salad and left over cherry pie from yesterday.?

How's your toe feeling? And have you got another appointment set up?

I was thinking about you last night, Donki. I hope you're okay this morning.

We have an appointment with Relate on Wednesday.

My toe is ok if I rest it - which is only a problem because I could really do with going and doing something physical to work off the pent up emotions.

H is 'out'again tonight - so will only come home around 6.00pm tomorrow.

I'm glad you're not having to wait too long for the appointment, Donki.

Could your toe cope with swimming?

GRRRRRRRRR (Holds hand)

That's worth thinking about Maud. I think my toe would cope with swimming sooner than walking - but that right now it just needs to stay still. What told me it was broken (apart from the pain) was crepitus...

Thanks MT. I find it really hard to cope with when he goes to work and I know he is going to see the OW. Words fail me when I try to think of words to describe her. I just want to howl in an inarticulate rage.

Its totally and utterly understandable Donki - frankly I don't know how you're being so restrained, although I know that at least some of it is for YD's sake - and the rest because you believe that the man you love is still there, somewhere...

Have any of his friends managed to speak to him at all about this?

One good friend has told him he is a fool. He hasn't talked to any of the others.

And probably won't. He will be afraid of what they mighy say.

It will be yet another set of conversations that he files under "too hard".

Have you contemplated booting him out and telling him that he can come and look after YD at certain times and then off? It might make OW's place seem less attractive - and possibly make him seem less attractive to OW too (hopefully).

I have certainly considered telling him to bloody decide and get it over with ... but that he still has to do his share of parenting.

If H chickens out of coming home tomorrow (because DM will be here) before the Relate meeting, I will be

To say the least.

I'm a fairly weak swimmer, but I find it physical enough that it takes my mind off other things.

I can see, Donki, why you might want to boot him out. This splitting his time between two homes must be agonising for you. Could you set a deadline, or might that just propel him towards the OW?

I just don't know, Maud

One of the hardest things is feeling so powerless in this situation.

Yes, I think that's what is so difficult. Setting a deadline would give some of the power back to you, but it might precipitate a decision you don't want.

I will wait and see what happens tomorrow night. Which may just be me going back by myself to sort my own feelings out and decide what I want to do.

?Puts out soup, cheese and assorted rolls - and butter on the sideboard?

?Stokes up fire?

?Starts to dust the aspidistra - and then wonders where Mellors and the NMBs are...?

I saw them all on frying pan duty Donki.

How on earth do the NMBs wield a frying pan?

I have had a lazy morning resting my hurty hoof and playing a silly (and old) computer game to take my mind off things.

Have you had a go at the 2040 game? There's a thread somewhere....

Some of the NMBs have got hold of those single 'fried egg' or 'pikelet' pans that are tiny. The rest appear to have rigged something up out of strings and whisks and things that aims to drop rather a large one in an arc so that it hits the back of the head firmly....