Only child out of loop.

[biryani]

I have an only D, just turned 11. I have never yearned for another, and dd has never been remotely interested either! However, I have an ongoing dilemma and wonder if anyone else finds the same thing.? My problem is the difficulty of finding company for her. She's very friendly and sociable and always on the go. But in the school holidays, she's constantly craving her friends. They''re usually away, with other children or otherwise engaged. I'm always offering to take them places but get very little takeup. I'm not a cliquey person and I feel that my lack of social involvement with the other parents has resulted in her being excluded. Any one else experience this.? I Feel really sorry for her sometimes, but am I overreacting?

Hi I wouldn't blame yourself, she obviously loves being with other kids which is great. Are there any clubs she could go to during the holidays to mix with others?xx

biryani, I think I could write your post a few years down the line. This does worry me. I fear that if DD ends up feeling lonely it will be because of my own social incompetence.

Like you, I do arrange playdates, we meet friends whenever we are free etc. Like your DD, mine enjoys the company of other children.

On good days I think I'm doing all I can, and certainly more than I am naturally inclined to do. At the end of the day our DDs are not us. They may even turn out to be the most cliquey people in the world!