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Shall I pull my daughter out of nursery

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Franny0696 · 25/10/2021 07:11

My daughter is 13 months and has been at nursery since 10 months old. Since she has started she’s had covid, foot & mouth, bronchitis and now croup. She has not had a break I feel so awful for her. She’s had so much time off. I am at the stage where is it even worth sending her to nursery, I know they pick up everything but I have sent her at the wrong time with everything going on?

I work 3 days a week 1 day in the office, mys sister is able to have her on the 1 day I am in the office. Do I wait until she is two? we go to baby ballet and have baby friends just sick of her being ill :(

I’m stressed and I don’t know what to do?

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

rainbowandglitter · 25/10/2021 07:13

What would you do the other 2 days a week? There's no way you can work and look after a baby at the same time (if your employer even allowed it).

WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 25/10/2021 07:15

She’ll get all these things at some point whatever you do. Hopefully you’ll have a clear run now. Being at nursery will be better for her development than being stuck at home while you ignore her to get on with your work.

LivingLaVidaBabyShower · 25/10/2021 07:16

I would persevere personally

Its "only" been 3 months and its better to build immunity and get sickness done and dusted when younger. Although i confess i didnt realise foot and mouth was still a thing!

CocaColaTruck1 · 25/10/2021 07:17

It's completely normal I'm afraid for them to get ill so often when they first start.
We had 6 month of it.
Apart from catching everything nursery is a great place for them, persevere

SickAndTiredAgain · 25/10/2021 07:18

There’s no way you can work from home with a 13 month old. It’s normal for them to get ill a lot when they start nursery, whenever they start. It wouldn’t necessarily be any better when she’s 2.

Groovee · 25/10/2021 07:18

I didn't send my Dd to playgroup until she was 2 and a half and she was like this too. Always ill. But they soon build up their immune system. It does feel never ending though.

Franca123 · 25/10/2021 07:24

I would persevere. They have to get these bugs at some point. Better now than when they start school. My youngest has been ill since she was born from bugs my other child brings back from nursery. Been awful for her and really hard going for us too. I do think post lock downs have made the amount of bugs circulating much worse.

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Franny0696 · 25/10/2021 07:25

I've worked 6 months from home with my child and still get work done and time to play with her. She doesn't get ignored, my work are very flexible and understand I have a child.

It's so hard!! I think after being in hospital with her over the weekend with croup it has generally scared me.

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fretnot · 25/10/2021 07:26

I’m also wondering this exact same thing, OP. My 16 month old started in September and has had four different illnesses in a row; just finished a round of antibiotics and due back today. I have so many misgivings! My older two didn’t have anything like this experience when they started nursery. It doesn’t feel “strengthening” for their immunity when it’s one thing after another, it feels like they are being ground down and the next thing comes while still low from the last!

Tillymintpolo · 25/10/2021 07:28

It’s totally normal, if she doesn’t get it all now then she’ll get it when she starts school

ItsSnowJokes · 25/10/2021 07:28

Completely normal for the first year when they start childcare. My 7 month old was so ill that first year of nursery. Now at nearly 5 I was hoping when she started school it would have put paid to all the bugs as she had immunity from nursery, alas the pandemic has lowered everyone's immune systems from all the distancing and she has been so ill since she started school.

CocaColaTruck1 · 25/10/2021 07:30

It's so hard!! I think after being in hospital with her over the weekend with croup it has generally scared me.

Ah no! I hope she's on the mend, croup can be very frightening.

It's hard as you feel they don't get a break but it does start to slow down.
But she will gain so much from nursery.

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Franny0696 · 25/10/2021 07:34

Yeah most definitely nursery is so beneficial hence why I want her to go, just don't want the next year of her life just being ill every month and not going to nursery.

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boomwhacker · 25/10/2021 07:36

I'm not sure I agree with many of these posts. One of my children didn't attend nursery at all- didn't get any of the bugs listed in the OP and never has (she's 15 now!). My youngest daughter did go up nursery but didn't have any of these illnesses either (she's 8 now). Honestly OP, your child is very young. If she doesn't have to be in nursery I'd take her out and find another where they know how to wash their hands

Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov · 25/10/2021 07:38

My son is the same and he's not in nursery. He's getting it from the older two. I remember when ds1 went to Montessori ds2 was floored with everything that was brought home but with ds3 it's much worse I think because of all the lockdowns this is his first time being exposed to anything. So it's going to happen whenever they start mixing.

mynameiscalypso · 25/10/2021 07:38

@Franny0696

I've worked 6 months from home with my child and still get work done and time to play with her. She doesn't get ignored, my work are very flexible and understand I have a child.

It's so hard!! I think after being in hospital with her over the weekend with croup it has generally scared me.

I think during the pandemic, most employers have been a bit more flexible but I don't think that will last plus as they get older, it gets much harder to work at home with them. I have a two year old and whenever I've tried to get anything done when he's been home sick or it's my non-working day, it's pretty much impossible these days whereas a year ago, it was okay. They sleep less, they're way more mobile and into everything and much more noisy and demanding.

Keepingcomfy · 25/10/2021 07:41

I'm going through this too. My 10 month old started nursery at the beginning of September. Since then he's had 2 bouts of sickness and diarrhoea, a heavy cold and right now he has conjunctivitis. It's not just him that's poorly either. My partner has been unwell, my mum and my sister have the sickness and right now I have bacterial tonsillitis. It's been awful and I've been very tempted to call it a day, but like pp have said nursery is great for their development and it wouldn't be fair to put more responsibility on to my parents. I do feel so sorry for him though

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Franny0696 · 25/10/2021 07:41

@mynameiscalypso I appreciate your post, my employer has always done home/work for the past ten years it's their motto so it won't change ever it's how they work. My work isn't constant throughout the day so it's quite easy doing both. My husband has his own business so I'm in and out the house all day which is nice as sometimes he is home by 1/2! It's definitely not easy but I quite enjoy it being able to do both!

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jobsagudden · 25/10/2021 07:42

It's really awful but every child gets this when they start nursery. Both of mine were ill not stop for about 6 months after starting.
They will need to pick these things up to build their immune system. It's awful for both of you but will happen whenever they start in a setting with other children. You're probably through the worst of it now.

GoodnightGrandma · 25/10/2021 07:43

I would pull her out until she’s two if you can work it this way.

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Franny0696 · 25/10/2021 07:43

@Keepingcomfy it's so awful isn't it. I feel guilty if I was to call it a day as she likes it but there are other routes to go down, child minding etc.

I know they are always going to be ill regardless of the age, but the world we are living in right now it's the last thing I want my child to go through!

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RedMarauder · 25/10/2021 07:44

You could change to a childminder but there is no guarantee that your child won't be sick it depends on the other mindees.

My DD goes to a child minder part-time and was ill once in just over 2 years for less than 24 hours. She spent last year with the same mindees including older after school ones. She also started nursery in September so now goes to a mixture of CM and nursery. She has been sick every other week on nursery days.

CocaColaTruck1 · 25/10/2021 07:46

@GoodnightGrandma

I would pull her out until she’s two if you can work it this way.

Just be the same then, my DS started at 2 and he had it all

InTheLabyrinth · 25/10/2021 07:46

If you are worried about all the illnesses from nursery, why not consider a childminder to reduce the number for of contracts she has?
I think planning on working from home with a toddler is a bad idea. However well you have managed to juggle it previously, it is far from ideal.

Hetyanni · 25/10/2021 07:55

Push through, she will build immunity. Ds has had 3 bugs since September so I get it! Make sure she is up to date with vaccinations including flu. Hope she feels better soon!

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