Getting stuff done! ADHD, Autism, Depression, Anxiety, PDA and Overwhelm Accountability thread

[Springingintolife]

Heya! I was recently on a thread for getting things done, and it went a bit quiet. So I decided to start a fresh one. Get your woes out on here- let everyone know what you need to do for the day- and take it easy on yourself.

You know, those little things- like changing the toilet roll on the toilet roll holder, calling the docs for an appointment- which everyone else seems to effortlessly breeze, but can be a real challenge for some of us, with whatever is going on in your life or mind.

You don't need to be diagnosed to join us!

Hahaha me too. I've started forcing myself to pick up plenty of ready meals recently because I know I'll end up not cooking anything fresh and ordering a take away.

Talking of cooking, if I'm in the kitchen I'll have the radio on and will be scrolling on my phone inbetween doing dinner. Talk about multi tasking 🙈😂 I literally can't cook without stimulus it's so bad.

May I join please? It has been great reading this thread. Makes me feel less broken!

Today I have done two loads of laundry. Sometimes I do too many loads and then comes the sorting and folding bit which becomes too much so the clean clothes live in the basket 🫣 So I’m trying to keep it manageable.

I've still got clean washing, not folded, dumped on the chair 🙈 it's been staring at me for 4 days 😆 .. another thing I need to work on, putting washing away!

I know that feeling...I'll do like two months of laundry in one day then it all ends up in a pile for weeks and weeks until the next load needs cleaning again. Trying to get it more manageable.

Same here...sometimes I find it so hard to break my concentration from the TV to go and do the washing up, knowing there's no TV in the kitchen...I could solve all this by getting a small TV in the kitchen.

İ think I've had a breakthrough today guys...or hopefully the start of one. I did some journalling and realised that one of the things which stops me from starting things is a fear of that feeling of things changing around me. Most probably from so many moments in my childhood and life where things fell apart around me. I've decided I deserve those positive changes though and am trying to focus on telling myself it's a positive change, not a negative one, and try and get to that point....saying that it's taken me all day so far to do a few loads of washing, and fold one small when I was meant to be decluttering and packing for a house move.

I'm sure part of the problem is being so hard on ourselves and not taking little accomplishments as a win maybe? I think we need to reward ourselves for doing things no matter how trivial they seem 🤔

This makes a lot of sense...I was brought up with a lot of expectations placed on me, so whenever I achieve things each day, I never give myself any credit, only get frustrated at myself for not having been able to do more.

Same! Had a lot of expectations put on me too and always made to think whatever I did was never good enough 😩 especially my father.
Has anyone got an adhd diagnosis as an adult? Is it worth pushing for a diagnosis? I don't know what difference it would make.