Do I have a learning disability or intellectual disability?

[Gymnastxo96]

If some of you were here on my last thread you said I had an intellectual disability because of my IQ of 76 and my low adaptive behavior score. Why do some people think it’s just a learning disability? It’s not right? What is my future like?

OP, I write this with kindness, having read all of your recent threads, including the deleted one.
Do you think they are helping you? How? What are you getting out of them?

Would it not be better to concentrate on communicating with people who know and care for you in real life- your mother, therapist, OPWDD, doctor? They have a much more comprehensive grasp of your vulnerabilities, difficulties and strengths, and will be more able to explain things to you, ensuring that you have understood them fully.

Of course anyone is free to post on Mumsnet, but you appear to be placing a lot of weight on what people say, or rather what you think people are saying. So focusing on asking advice from people that know your whole situation might be more useful.

I hope you have a good, and safe, day.

What I meant was that there was no need to pretend you couldn't work out why the PP said you had a mood disorder.
You yourself told the last thread that you did.

Also, I actually don't think that your bipolar disorder is where your problems lie.

Your developmental disorder is what is causing you to have problems interpreting what everyone says. That includes people in real life and posters on here.

You've had one 1,000 post thread in which you failed to grasp what was being said to you, and you've had a deleted thread which was going the same way. Now we're on yet another thread.

Are you really getting any benefit from all of this? I do not believe you are.

Please talk to your mother and the people at the OPWWD. They know you personally and are far better placed to advise you.

Yeah I think that I do but some doctors think I don’t because it overlaps with my autism. I don’t know why.

I really think that I am going to benefit and listen to what everyone told me on the last thread. I will also talk to the people at OPWDD. Also during my casual sex encounters that I used to do some people ghosted me right after. I think definitely related to my disability. Why do you think most guys would ghost someone like me after a casual encounter. Some guys do stick around.

Yeah they are helping me get better and help me live a normal life that I wanted. Some people on mumsnet said no one would ever want to date me because of my disability and how I am and that I should never have kids. Why are they so mean like that?

Because you are vulnerable and open to exploitation emotionally and sexually. Some men will simply just take advantage of your inability to distinguish between genuine affection and those who just want a ons.

Really? Even with my co diagnosis of bipolar disorder also? But not all men who stick around exploit me. They know I have a disability and I got to know them before I slept with them. You think all the men who stick around take advantage of me? They don’t! You are saying the guys that ghost don’t want to be known as taking advantage of me?

Tbh I’m not sure you have the right perspective to judge their behaviour or even your own. If they are with you for their own purposes as the expense of your feelings, safety, finances or reputation and lack any real consideration that is exploitation of your vulnerabilities.

This thread is just the same as the others.

You can keep asking the same questions but you’ll just get the sane answers from posters.

Nobody is being mean, they are being realistic due to your diagnoses that result in you having significant challenges in functioning which is why your mum has guardianship.

Do you have any special interests apart from men, dating, sex and babies? You are fixated on these things and need something else to occupy your mind.

It’s frustrating and upsetting but nobody gets everything they want in life and they usually learn to accept that.

You are not able to understand what anyone is saying and haven’t over three threads. You can keep saying things like “I can have a baby!” but keeping saying it doesn’t make it true.

Support from the OPWDD is intended to last for the person’s lifespan. It is not expected that they will stop needing support. I don’t think you understand what the doctors and therapists are saying. When they say you can be independent, if that’s actually what they said, they likely meant with the support of the OPWDD. Not independent like other people might be no don’t need services.

Really? Even with months after therapy and I have gotten better to spot red flags in a guy? That’s why my mom put me in therapy to learn better safety skills online to have casual relationships again. I am still vulnerable due to that? Due to months of therapy I am able to distinguish between actual affection and those who just want a one night stand. I learned about all this in therapy and passed it.

Yeah I have other hobbies and I have gotten lots of therapy to better my functioning and my therapist said I improved on the challenges and she also said the guardianship won’t be forever. I am very high functioning.

Argh

The fact that you don't recognise your vulnerability is evidence of your vulnerability.

I'm sure that you are doing very well in your therapy, keep going, and maybe show them these threads to get their perspective on your level of understanding?

Do you think continuing these threads is helpful to you?

I don’t think your understanding of high functioning is the same as everyone else’s.

That’s the truth! I have gotten therapy for a reason to get better and I understand my vulnerabilities.

Yeah I have an understanding of high functioning. It’s being able to function as normally and act normal and many people say I pass as normal when I see them. And I look normal too. I also talk normally and go to therapy to work on my functioning and my therapist said I have gotten a lot better.

Yeah I think continuing these threads is good for me. I still don’t understand why some guys will ghost me after causal sex after me doing 6 months of therapy to recognize some guys that might take advantage of me and will help me be less vunerable. I definitely do understand my vulnerabilities and my therapist taught me that.

Why is continuing these threads good for you?

But you don’t act normally or talk normally on here. I can’t imagine you are any different in person. It’s great you’ve got better in your functioning but you still have significant challenges otherwise you wouldn’t have OPWDD giving you support or a guardianship in place. You don’t understand that at all.

I definitely do understand the guardianship. I am much different in person trust me! I act and talk normally in person!

Why? Because I need facts on what my life will be like due to my disability and why I don’t have luck sometimes in the dating world and my ex saying we needed to break up due to me talking in a child level. He wanted someone to mentally connect with him. Some people on here say no normal guy would want to date me due to my level functioning and I need facts.

OP hadn't posted since 31/3 then PP started repeatedly tagging her this morning - seems to me that she should probably be left alone by other posters

Well if your ex broke up with you due to talking on the level of a child that points to you NOT acting normally in real
life. You contradict yourself constantly and can’t see that you are doing it.

You say you need facts but you don’t like the facts you are given and argue they aren’t true. It’s pointless trying to get through to you unfortunately.