How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

Why not do an independent IQ test if it is that important to you, Gymnast. There are plenty online, just google.

People should not be defined by their IQ

Medical guardianship seems rather extreme to me. However it is not a good idea for you to think of becoming pregnant while still living with your mother. Work on being independent for a while.

Good luck.

Very good post, LeastOfMyWorries.

For us at least, medical guardianship is a way of ensuring support, advocacy and autonomy for the person who is the subject of it. It's not to take over and make decisions for them. It's meant to be empowering, not controlling. (Not that say that other people in different situations don't need someone to make the decisions for them).

You cant judge the people using that support service just by looking at pictures. There will be a range of people with different abilities, just like in the rest of the world. You dont have to date someone with a learning disability but it will be hard to find someone with similar maturity to you who doesnt have a learning disability.
Again you dont have to date someone who is the same maturity as you but long relationships often work better when people have lots in common.
I am not tellkng you what to do because you are clearly a very confident lady who knows her own mind.

I'm shocked at this, and IQ tests are nonsense.
You need to get yourself some help outside of your family.

Are you serious? But I took a sexual consent test and I passed it. I never had any complaints of typical guys dating me so you are wrong for saying my mental age is 10-13 when there is no such thing as mental age. I have every right to date anyone I want. What are your thoughts?

Women who are seemingly well are also taken advantage off and manipulated.
Who are you to decide who should have kids?
What exactly are you going to do forever, infantalise someone that might need a little support?
Many women need support, why not just help?
Gosh I'm glad the UK isn't like that 😔

We can't really assess your exact mental age on her OP. The issue isn't necessarily with consent if you feel you consented fully. What I'd be concerned about is that you may fall foul of a man who isn't acting with honourable intentions and you might not be able to read those cues. You could be used and very hurt if that is so.

You do have the right to date. You have the right to be independent if you are capable. You have the right to have sex with full consent of both parties. What you don't have the right to do is bring a child into the world that you can't support independently and that you may be relying on your mother to pick up a good chunk of the care or financing of that. With rights comes responsibility. It wouldn't be fair to choose this for your mother without her express consent (if that is how it will be).

You keep asking people for their thoughts, then ignoring those thoughts.

You have not answered any questions which would help us to understand your situation.

My thoughts are you write like a young teen - not just in the way you construct your sentences but in that you clearly do not really understand the issues.

You keep contradicting yourself (saying one thing, then saying the opposite).

If you can't understand why you are vulnerable, this is more evidence that you are, in fact, vulnerable.

A 16 year old can consent to sex. That doesn't mean that any and all sexual relationships would be good for her.

You've never had complaints? In your previous posts you say:

would any guy accept me to date if I act younger? When I tried to date no guy accepted that now

I won’t ever find a guy to date because I attempted to date before and got broken up with because me and him didn’t mentally connect and he even said that I talk younger then I am and he didn’t want to deal with that. Same thing as other guys when I tried to date. They didn’t even want to be together with me.

You're contradicting yourself, which may be part of your condition, we can't tell, but we can only go off what you've put here, and the fact that you haven't managed to sort this out for yourself in real life, which might suggest your mum is right. If she's not, then you should get the relevant tests and make the moves to live independently and prove yourself. If she's right, that won't be possible.

@Gymnastxo96

Are you going to follow up the links to support in your area, OP?

Do it today, I think that local support will open doors for you, perhaps even make it possible for you to move to somewhere new.

https://autismsociety.org/contact-us/

Have you talked to your mother, OP? If my DD was raising the issues you were, I would talk to her about her concerns, go through the reports with her, pay a professional to go through the reports with her, organise a re-evaluation from scratch if she wanted that. I believe she has the right to choose that and be reassured. I would also inform her that if she feels I am stopping her being independent, what her options for more independence are. II would support her to transition to those options if that is what she chose, and make sure it was working out for her. f you haven't talked to her though, you haven't given her that chance to address your concerns.

What time is it where you are OP?

Whats your job and what hours do you work?

@Gymnastxo96 We are sharing our thoughts, you don't seem to be taking any of them on board at all.

Sexual consent is a very different thing from planning parenthood. I think @sunshinestar1986 you might mean to aim your post at me- who am I to decide who should have kids- I'm just a random on the internet. But one who knows how hard having kids is, and partly because I was a young mum, and my eldest has severe disabilities (not related to my age!) I know exactly how hard it can be and I would want to stop someone I love being in a more difficult position than they need to be, which I think is where the OP's mum is coming from.

I haven't meant to Infantalise, or cause offence but I just spoke honestly- OP sounds like a typical mid teen stamping her feet at her mum in a "I want xyz and who are you to stop me" stage, in this case a baby, while not having a regular partner and still living with her mum- surely to most people this doesn't exactly sound ideal?

"I'm not trying but if it happens it happens" I mean really?

Yeah but I have every right to date who I want and I had no complaints that the guy was a creep for dating me from people I know. And mental age doesn’t exist. It’s not mandatory for me to date someone the same as me. I want to date someone typical. No one complains where I live that I would be dating someone typical. I will act more mature. I’m an adult. It’s not illegal!!

A psychologist gave you a sexual consent test? I haven’t heard of such a thing. As for mental age, it’s a very real thing and autism affects it deeply.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5845818/

It is 100% not my goal to upset you; please speak to your mum and psychologist more about what “mental age” means.

Again, I do NOT say this to be mean or cruel. I say it as a jumping off point to start a conversation with your psychologist and mum. Ask your psychologist about mental age or research it yourself. Good luck @Gymnastxo96

Yeah they are able to give a sexual consent test and I passed. I have every right to date who I want. Just because I’m autistic and act younger doesn’t mean a guy will be a creep for dating me am I right ?

Yeah they are able to give a sexual consent test and I passed. I have every right to date who I want. Just because I’m autistic and act younger doesn’t mean a guy will be a creep for dating me am I right?

You're missing mine and a lot of people's points, which says a lot, but also makes this thread somewhat futile. Take the advice to get some answers IRL, and focus on taking the steps to establish your own capacity for independence first and foremost before getting distracted by the matter of dating and babies.

They might have evaluated your capacity to consent.

A guy might not be a creep for dating you but you are more vulnerable to those who are creeps.

I found OP's posts easy to understand the firdt time I read them.

You have said the men you date have found your being young for your age an issue, and dont want to date you because of it. Sounds like they are good people.

Some men may take advantage of you, they would be creeps.

Hopefully you will meet the right person for you, and you have the right to date whoever you want if they feel the same. You have said the men you have dated do have an issue.

Yeah some men do have an issue and some men don’t. It would still be ok do date a guy who will not have an issue with my autism and mental age? No one complains that the men I date are creeps. What are your thoughts? I’m an adult and able to pass a sexual consent test. I can consent to sex.

No, you’re not necessarily right. Lower mental age does NOT mean you cannot date, or even be sexually active, BUT it does mean you are a lot more vulnerable to creeps. I think @pinkdelight is correct; you’re missing a lot of what all of us are saying. Please speak to your mum and psychologist in real life, as they will know you best and hopefully have your best interests at heart.

Ok but there will be a guy that I date that won’t be a creep if I get to know him? My therapist says I should get to know guys before I date him.