How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

Op, I say this kindly as another woman on the spectrum but I think your mother may be right, your whole post just says how vulnerable you are.
A baby is a huge responsibility - just because you can spell correctly & write sentences doesn’t mean you will cope with the stress & responsibility of raising a child they don’t stay little for young.

Why do people think I’m vunurable?

Yeah I want my IUD out because I want to have kids in the future. And my mom doesn’t think my bf is taking advantage of me

@Gymnastxo96 there are a lot of issues here, aren't there?

Your IUD isn't going to stop you getting pregnant when you're ready to have children, but it is protecting you from having children before you're ready. Being able to care for yourself independently is ideal before you commit to being responsible for the life of a baby.

Your posts here use very simple language, so I'm inclined to believe, or at least not surprised that you have been assessed as having a relatively low IQ. One of my daughters has a low IQ and uses far more extensive language (but rarely really understands it).

The adaptive IQ being so low will be because of your autism, but it doesn't mean you've been misdiagnosed. The whole point of autism is that adapting to change and reacting to different circumstances is hard, which is what adaptive IQ explores.

Adaptive IQ is important because it means that you are more vulnerable in daily life, where unpredictable things happen. It's really key when you're thinking of having a baby at some point because they really don't do things in an orderly manner and if you can't cope with responding to their needs in the moment, they are likely to be neglected at points in the day.

It sounds like your Mum is trying to help you and keep you safe? Are you finding it hard to trust that she's got your best interests in mind?

She doesn’t want me to have it out because she don’t think I am ready for kids yet which is dumb because I want to make that choice!

But you aren't ready to live on your own yet, so how will you care for a baby? How will you provide for it?

Ok yeah you’re right but how does me typing simple language mean my IQ is still 76? It don’t make sense

It doesn't on its own. But your posts on the thread reveal how vulnerable you are because you're 30 years old, not living independently, and want to remove your IUD so you can have a baby "in the future".

Kindly, you are clearly vulnerable. Your writing style is slightly ‘disordered’ and you sound much younger than you are. It sounds like your mum had your best interests at heart

Do you work op? Are you able to provide financially for a baby? Could you live independantly, find childcare? There are lots of other things to thing about when considering having a baby. Perhaps you mum is worried about these things too?

She doesn’t want me to have it out because she don’t think I am ready for kids yet which is dumb because I want to make that choice!

Before you can begin to think about having a baby, you have to think about everything you will need in order to look after a baby.
Where will you live?
Will your boyfriend live with you?
Will you have the money to pay rent and bills and buy all the things you will need for the baby, and later the child as he or she grows up?

My DD, who has a similar ability level to the one you describe, @Gymnastxo96, says 'I can't have a baby because I can't look after myself yet!' What do you think about what she's said? Do you agree with her?

If/when you can live independently and afford to have a baby, then is the time to discuss having one.

I presume your mum doesn’t think it’s a good idea now and, as you are living in her house and not living independently, that sounds like a sensible decision.

Really? How so? How am I vulnerable? I’m not trying to get pregnant if it happens it happens

Really? What age do I sound like honestly? You say I write younger so I am just wondering . I really want to know and how is my writing style disordered?

‘If it happens it happens’ means ‘I won’t worry too much about pregnancy’, aka ‘I’m trying for a baby’ (because you aren’t trying to prevent it).

You clearly are refusing to take on board people’s concerns - you need the support that your mother is trying to get for you

You sound about 14. I understand why you are defensive but it’s clear from your posts that you are not in a position to be independent and you won’t take anything on board

Unless you have a medical problem that prevents you from having a baby, if you have sex you will get pregnant.

Probably better that you keep the contraception in place then seeing as you still live with your mum and are not financially independent!

If you become to be in the situation where you can live independently and can financially provide for a baby, then is the time to think about removing contraception.

Have you ever lived alone?
Do you work?
You are in the US…would you have medical insurance for a baby?

You sound sweet, OP, but vulnerable and young. And, I say this kindly with care, naive.

Babies need a lot of care, love, attention, and maturity to respond to their needs, being a responsible adult with the ability to havd foresight and know what is best.

Even now you maybe feel ready, or might be in the future, can you truly say how you will cope?.As PP have said, you need to pay rent, buy the baby formula, clothes, diapers, medicine, and anything other necessary things. Without a job or place to live, this will be very hard.

I'm not an American resident so don't know how the welfare system works but I agree with others that you are clearly vulnerable, and you're being looked after well by your mom. She clearly only wants the best for you. ❤️

It’s disordered because it reads quite erratically, like a stream of consciousness. It’s not a criticism but you don’t give the impression that you are able to run your life without support.

Nobody is trying to be unkind, but you sound like a young teenager and your writing is very repetitive and circular. You are responding to people but it is very obvious that you aren't taking what they are saying on board and thinking about whether you have maybe got this wrong.

Other things to think about - can you cook? Do you clean and do housework? Are you able to drive? Budget? You need to do all these things when you have a baby, and a lot more. Potentially manage their medication. There is a lot involved and I think your Mum is aware of this.

Have you spoken to her about it? Is this what she says?

And everyone is saying the same things, and we only have your posts to go by. If you have your IUD removed and don’t use other contraceptives (‘if it happens it happens’) then you will find yourself pregnant and there’s no indication you can cope with a baby. In that situation you may have the child taken away.

Hi there,
did you manage to concentrate and try your best when doing the IQ test? if not then perhaps you performed more poorly than your true ability.

did you manage to do well at school? If you got great grades and you have a job now, it might be mistaken results. But if you struggled at school it’s quite likely the IQ is correct.

OP, if you take out your iud and you have regular sex you will probably fall pregnant soon. It’s best to wait until you’re ready for a baby and then have it taken out. If you don’t understand this then I can see why your mum is worried.