Neurodiversity thread - for all MNetters who are neurodiverse - ASD, ADHD, Dyspraxia and more.

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Welcome one and all to the new thread. A safe haven for MNetters who identify as neurodiverse, diagnosis or not, and those waiting for assessment. Links available in recent threads. Newbies welcome. We just ask that you introduce yourself

My older two kids are like me.
DS1 is intelligent, loves school work, but only has one friend.
DD has the temper and has meltdowns, she won't speak and avoids eye contact like the plague. yet she recognises her name and will quietly count while she's getting her toys in a row.

DS2 is only 16 months but already I can see his personality developing. He copies every word he hears, he knows when he's done something he's not meant to, and will happily sit and tell you "dette dette did" (dette dette is what he calls dd). I don't know with him if he will be like me. But he's a lot like my brother was at his age and my brother is me all over too.

I guess that depends on whether you want to go the penis route or the clitoris route

Any classicists around? Which is correct, Elves or Elvides? Or something else entirely?

I swing both ways.

That was in response to winged saying she would love it if her kids were like her.

Now I'm wondering whether it's too do with the consonant before "-is". Or something to do with declensions. Dear God Allsmelling, I hated declensions.

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Ok I'm out of my depth in the plurals.

I have no idea what a declension is but it sounds medical.

im back from friend meeting now. I told her but not sure I should have, though she was cool. Though confused. I think I should stick to my normal tactic of telling nobody anything. Then I don't need to stress about what my stupid mouth/brain combo has concocted.

Me too, Sweary - my Latin teacher would be disappointed in me

Declensions? Declensions are instruments of torture designed to inflict suffering on children.

That sounds like a really stressful meeting :( Hate that feeling of stressing and obsessing over what I've said and done - hope you can take your mind off it somehow.

Weetabices? I have found my people!

I really liked Latin and kept it up to sixth form, then did some Medieval Latin for my Masters. Bring on the declensions!

Ooh, I love a good declension. Did Latin and ancient Greek at school (but gave them up in the last two years in favour of lots of maths and science, wish I hadn't). The classical languages were more like maths and the translations like complicated logic puzzles than like modern languages where you had to do horrible things like speak.
We always used to have two exams as well: one with all the usual bits of grammar, vocabulary, history and studied texts and a second with an unseen translation, it was great as you couldn't really revise for it, so didn't have to.
If I could have just done the sciences, maths and classical languages in the last two years, that would have been great, but they insist on things like PE and three modern languages being useful.

Morning all! I had a mad 24 hours so I didn't get chance to check in. I've read the thread back now though. I'll reflect where I can!

I found school tough, mostly socially. It was put down to being an August birthday at the time. I was also a 'know-it-all',

Arse, posted too early!...

The thread has moved on somewhat!

Saturdays are usually my day for doing my own thing in the morning whilst DH deals with the boys but he has to work this weekend so I don't get my usual break.

DS1 is obviously feeling way better. It turned out he had an ear infection, which I'd vaguely suspected but dismissed from the way he was acting. Of course, his pain responses are not always predictable due to his autism so now I feel terrible we didn't take him to the GP sooner. Anyway, that's a blog post in the making!

He's on antibiotics and doing much better but the sudden return of energy means he's very...full on. No peace for me today!

Oh hell I lost a huge post!

Try again. School was tough for me. I tried hard, knew I was bright (had the answers in class) but often struggled academically (thanks to undiagnosed dyslexia). I had a few meltdowns at school but generally was worse at home.

Yesterday was tough. Took 3 kids to the school fair (7, 3, and 2). It was hot, noisy and chaotic. Then DD had a meltdown still wondering about her foaming at the mouth, screaming, kicking about leaving. I'm ashamed to admit I lost my temper and was too rough, she hit her head. Eventuslly I realised she was scared of going out in the dark. Another Mum saw us and helped me calm her down (I was crying by this point!) and we got her out and home.

If that wasn't enough, it was my work leaving do so it was a meal out. In the old days, I'd have got drunk to 'cope' with it but I only had 3 drinks and left by 11. It was enough. Drained today, so is DD so it's a lazy day in front of the TV.

Glad you know what's up with DS BDH! Hope he's fully recovered soon.

Faith

We're at swimming. It's hot and bright and noisy. We were late so I'm flustered and parenting is on display over the changing.

Afterwards it's the school Christmas fair...

Winter bedding sounds good, perhaps a hibernation might be in order?
You've been through a hell of a lot recently

Again bear with me whilst I respond to posts from 5 pages ago...

I was 17 when Trainspotting came out, and it took me 4 tries at watching it all the way through without passing out drunk.

In other news - we're going to look at cats at 2pm!!!! Should I go and buy a box and everything on the offchance I want to bring it home today? They said we could, but we don't have long...

Polter - that is a very stressful few weeks. I agree withCloud's hibernation suggestion

I'm hibernating for the rest of today.

Albadross, are you going to a rescue organisation? Sometimes they have cardboard carriers that they provide for their adoptees to go home in.

Ooh a cat Albadross! I really miss having cats around, but have a flat in which they couldn't go outside, otherwise I would have gone to get one already.

Aww that's lovely Albadross! I know little about cats though!

I didn't have a lot of choice with the school fair, my nephew was desperate to go and his Dad wasn't back in time. I have said any future fairs - two adults if there's three kids! I used ladels myself yesterday! Today has been nice though. Got up with DD and let DH sleep in. Telly and snuggling under a blanket in our pjs! Then we walked into the village and then up to a friend's house, she was selling hand made gifts to raise money for charity so we got a few bits. DD used her balance bike for 2 miles! She's been so good today.

Polter, I hope you get time to recuperate! Bedding sounds lush. Definitely chilly here at present.

We chose the second one we saw - I feel guilty that little Florence just couldn't compete with the 6 month old B&W Leo, who jumped up on to DH's shoulders and kissed us all, before chewing my hand and attacking a toy mouse. I was sold! I'm going to collect him tomorrow so we went to Pets At Home and got one of those carriers that looks like a holdall and collapses down after use. The house is an utter shit tip because of decorating so as much as I wanted to take him today, I thought it best we make it nice and calm and have everything ready.

I also bought a bike today, my first road bike (cheapest one on Halfords site), and a trainer so I can ride it in the house going nowhere because outside is too scary.

On the topic of school - I could read before I went so I spent a lot of time in the hall reading the books alone. I remember stealing a book from the school book fair too. I loved the Mossflower series, and collected books about the occult. I was in my mum's class for a year in primary school too, which wasn't the greatest time. I got told off for talking almost constantly and was told I wasn't trying hard enough when I was sent on those godawful 'able children' courses.

Secondary school was where It All Went Wrong, I was bullied and called racist names even though I was not of a different race, I've never firgured that out. I wasn't getting top grades all the time, but I was always at the side of friendship groups and regularly got dumped by those I thought I was closest too until year 9 when I sort of fell in love with a girl who was going through an awful time with everything and we isolated ourselves completely. I wabted to be like her so much I used to buy all the same clothes, and back then you could send off for photos from gigs that someone else had taken and reprinted (there'd be ads in the back of music magazines) so I had one whole wall covered in badly shot photos of Kurt Cobain. I did ok at GCSE but totally fell to pieces throughout A Levels. My house was across the road from school so I'm pretty sure I was only 'in the group' that my painfully shy and quiet first boyfriend was part of because they wanted to use my house to mess about in lunch break.

I want to read all your blogs btw

Enjoy the kitty, Albadross! We lost (PTS) ours this year, same week as my assessment. I can't cope with the thought of another needy body in the house right now though, so have vetoed any replacement. Will look at something hamstery in a couple of years.