Neurodiversity thread - for all MNetters who are neurodiverse - ASD, ADHD, Dyspraxia and more.

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Welcome one and all to the new thread. A safe haven for MNetters who identify as neurodiverse, diagnosis or not, and those waiting for assessment. Links available in recent threads. Newbies welcome. We just ask that you introduce yourself

Catching up!

Me! I'm the proofreader! I'd guess miseryguts is one word, but I'd go check it in a dictionary. Because that's what the professionals do ;)

Ratty English Lit is great, and these days you can get all sorts of historical and sociological and philosophical stuff in too. Victorians, YA/Children's Lit and feminism are my vague specialities. I didn't have the guts for the doctorate though ... Polter, it sounds like you did really well actually :D.

I hated Trainspotting. I was 20 when it came out, but it was so disurbing and gave me nightmares

Ds2 has another detention. He borrowed his friend's ruler. I'm starting to feel that he is being set up to fail because of school's zero tolerance attitude to things that aren't a big deal. Ugh.

That's brilliant, and so true!

that sums me up perfectly.

Sighh.... Actually, I can do presentations to large groups. I have a Very Perky Persona with Motormouth and Puns. Then I go home and fall apart for a week.

Trainspotting was/is awesome! I watched it on video with my family, three generations, which was quite an experience. I must have been 18ish? My 90 yr old gran watched the whole thing through silently, then said, ''Scotland's changed quite a bit,'' chugged her bedtime dram, and wandered off.

Detention for ruler borrowing? ? what the hell sort of rule is that??

Love it Polt

It's great Rosalie - I'm sure if I were doing sociology I'd manage to get some literature in there somehow! I can't really manage it in philosophy, and with law there was no way, but I've managed to shoehorn some literature into my history, at least, by picking Victorian literature for my research project

I despair. I showed the carton to DP, who stared at it for around 45 seconds, them said, flatly, "oh, it's the coffee, is it, making her like that" NO YOU DENSE TWAT. I explained it to him, which of course totally killed the joke. He just looked at me flatly and said "oh, right". Cue irritating discussion about how I thought it was funny and he didn't, and me trying to explain that I didn't mean scream-my-head-off laughing, just… funny. Nggggghhhhh.

That made me LOL!

Detention for ruler borrowing is beyond ridiculous! Unless it's exam conditions?

I feel rubbish today. Tired from nights, a bit tender round my nethers, like I might be brewing a UTI. Taken a cystopurin and will have loads of fluids today. Still bleurgh.

Rosalie that is so funny about your gran! I remember my Mum being in the room when my nieces and nephew had Pulp Fiction on, and her coming into the kitchen looking perplexed and muttering.

Urgh, I just made a conversational faux pas on Messenger. The person contacted me so I responded, and because she kept responding to my responses I kept talking even though I wanted to stop. Then she sent me a snippy goodbye message so obviously I was annoying her by continuing to message her. I think next time I'll just respond with one of those silly thumbs up emoji thingies and not write anything at all.

Love that cartoon. It's perfect.

I have a dilemma. I have three options when I see my GP on Monday:

a) let him send me to a general psychologist for counselling, and abandon any thought of assessment; most of the cost would be picked up by the health system;
b) insist that he send me to a clinic specialising in autism so I can start assessment, and delay counselling until after assessment is complete; this would cost me a small fortune as the gap fee at the clinic is huge;
c) abandon assessment, and see a psychotherapist who actually has Aspergers and who specialises in targeted therapies for people with autism, under the assumption that I do have it; I would get no assistance from the government but the cost would be less than for option b).

I'm not at all well off at the moment so the financially sensible option would be a), but then I think I really need to know one way or the other and if I don't eat for a while I could find the money for either b) or c) (joking, a little bit), and c) would probably be really helpful but I'd still have the uncertainty. I've gone and got myself all confused and twisted up about what to do. Thoughts?

Er, option d) just presented itself. Tania Marshall practises a couple of towns away from me! Why did I not know this sooner?

Several non-aspie friendly occurrences today

1. at assembly the HT got an important fact wrong. I had to restrain myself from not shouting out and telling her. It is still bugging me and I want to send her an email correcting her - but this isn't a good idea, right? And I just don't know HOW she got it wrong (related to Thanksgiving). But I whinged at her two weeks ago for not having the 2 minute silence at 11am (she talked through it and we had it at 11:05) so she's not very pleased with me at the moment (I also gave her a hard time at governors)

1. I as invited to have a coffee with a girl I know well and two others I know, but not that well. When I got there there were another 3 people I didn't know. And one of them turned out to be a psychiatrist. (who was actually quite nice). But I felt generally awkward with so many people.

1. I am about to go to London to meet my friend who I have not seen for 3 years. she is really really lovely but I've got the "do i tell her about my referral" dilemma. If I do, she'll probably try to convince me I'm not (and I don't want to have that discussion now), and if I don't, II'll feel that I'm being dishonest.

too much to think about.......

God, what an autistically-gruelling day Sweary!

I just got myself a new pair of Bluetooth noise-cancelling headphones today 😊😊 I continue on my mission to own the perfect pair of headphones for every occasion. Need to find a replacement for my Koss Porta-Pros, because oh my miscellaneous gods, I love the sound, but the jack is just far too delicate, even now they use an angled one :( Anyone got recommendations for 80s-style non-closed small-pad lightweight headphones, similar to the PortaPros (or even like the KSC75s, which are much the same as the PortaPros but clip-on, and have the same jack problem)? I need something like this because I like to wear headphones in class but need ones that don't block out much noise. Extra points if they leave space for the arms of my glasses, like the PortaPros or the clip-on KDC75s do. (Earbud and in-ear phones are useless for me - the pain, the pain!) Even more points if they've got a great frequency response and a good midrange. I like a fairly clinical sound, too - not too warm. Bass is good, but obviously not too much.

I corrected a vice-chancellor doing a "welcome to our university open day" talk for having the apostrophe thingy in the wrong place in Qur'an on her PowerPoint. I mean, if you don't know, just leave it out! It makes no phonetic sense to just stick a random mark in there. Or spell it Koran. It's kind of insulting; you wouldn't just type Bibel.

Yeah, I felt conflicted about it, but if it were me I'd want to know (I did just go and tell her at the end, I didn't just blurt out out in front of everybody even though it took all my self-control not to ).

Hello, can I come back in? I've mostly lurked on a few of these threads in the past. Going round in circles about whether or not I might be aspie, kicked off again by that article in the Guardian the other week.

I'm currently having counselling through the local Wellbeing service and one of the things is that I keep obsessing over incidents or faux pas from years ago, at school or uni. Counsellor asks me why I can't let go of these things, and I've thought it's maybe about perfectionism or being able to forgive myself, or (as she thinks) all bound up with low self esteem, but maybe it's because of being ASD? Or maybe all these things are tied up together...

Sometimes I feel like a fraud in RL, and other times I feel like a fraud on these threads because I'm coping that day.

I love correcting people, but manage to stop myself most of the time.

Had a productive day with a friend, and now knackered, peopled out, and have a headache.

I rang school to discuss ds's detention, and I'm really cross because ds now believes he is one of the naughty ones and is fine with that, and (according to him) is messing around more in class, because there's no point in making an effort. I'm going to make an appointment with the SENCO next week to see if we can come up with a plan which might improve his sliding opinion of himself.
Detention over a ruler, FFS

Bibel is making me snigger. I don't know why.... but love the fact you interrupted a vice-chancellor!

i dont know how many times I've been an unintentional smart-arse. But facts are important. Especially if you're a fucking teacher.

Blue, I think feeling like a fraud is normal, it's certainly a reoccurring theme here and on some FB groups I'm on. I felt like a fraud for ages after my diagnosis, and worried that I'd somehow made everything up. Reading stuff here and blogs has helped to stop feeling like this.

I also think it's normal to have better days when things are easier and sensory stuff isn't as acute, and wonder if you've made it all up.

Blue - I definitely feel like a fraud a lot. But then I just compare myself to other NT females and I remember I'm nothing like them, and will never be like them (unless I'm in pretend-mode)