I've read most of this thread, and have been really surprised by what the doc has had to say. I did quite a bit of reading and thinking about whether to co-sleep or not, and decided I would because of the benefits to baby and mother, in terms of not getting up in the night, attachment, etc. I really thought I had made the right decision, and have been really taken aback at the strong message put across by the doc. However, due to the great questioning by mumsnetters, I think the holes in the research have been revealed, and really now I just have more questions than before, but am still going to stick with bedsharing and probably will for future babies.
At the moment we do a 'side-car' thing too, fortunately the cot we bought was the same height as our bed, so we just took one of the sides of the cot off and hey presto, loads of space! Rolled up towels fill in the gaps. However, we've also tried bedsharing just in the bed with bed guards, but that was a nightmare, and also with my dh in another room (bliss with the lack of snoring!), and also with ds in his own room for the first half of the night. Eventually we went full circle and reinstated the side-car, and it's just perfect... or was until ds learnt how to walk, stand etc, and now I worry about him falling out - so if anyone has any tips on how to solve this one and still keep the side-car I'd love to know! Otherwise we'll drop it back down into a full cot just to keep him safe for now.
I think the comment from the person who'd had their babies in Japan is fascinating and highlights so many of the issues with applying the Doc's research data to bed-sharing. There's so much more research that needs to be done.
I also have read about how the carbon dioxide that is released from the mother's outbreath triggers breathing in the baby, did someone just make this up or has anyone else heard this? And also that when mother takes a deep breath, so does baby, and I always thought this synchronised breathing was one of the things that made co-sleeping a preferable option.
Hmmm.. I'm kind of in a quandary, feeling slightly duped by pro-co-sleepers, and dissatisfied with the anti-bed-sharers... And don't have the time to wade through and analyse the original research papers!