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Guest blog from Gina Miller: ‘’If you want to make a difference, you have to be prepared to put your head above the parapet’’

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RachelMumsnet · 05/09/2018 12:22

The pursuit of fame for fame’s sake seems a peculiarly modern phenomenon; and having experienced a degree of notoriety since becoming the lead claimant in the 2016 constitutional case against the UK government over triggering Article 50, I find it harder than ever to comprehend why anyone would actively seek it.

I am aware, however, that in today’s world, especially with social – or as I call it, anti-social – media, if you want to make a difference, you have to be prepared to put your head above the parapet – and that often means accepting a certain level of attention on yourself.

It was my father who first made me understand this. After starting out as a petrol attendant aged 14, with very little schooling, he became a barrister through sheer determination, intelligence and drive, before going on to become Attorney General of Guyana. When he came back from work, my father would talk to me about the cases he had heard that day, not shirking from telling me of those times he felt he had let people down, or had not been able to achieve what he had hoped to. This was particularly emotional for him as a criminal barrister in a country that has the death penalty.

He had considerable weight on his shoulders – among the many cases he took on, he defended a number of political activists who were wrongly accused under the dictatorship of Guyanese President Forbes Burnham – but his belief in what he was doing prevented him from stepping out of the often-harsh limelight. He showed me that you can be in the public eye and maintain your core values – and how one person’s actions can genuinely make a difference.

My parents sent me and my brother to England to escape the increasing civil unrest in Guyana under Burnham, so it is perhaps unsurprising that the erosion of civil liberties has always been something that I have spoken out about, knowing the damage that can be inflicted on a nation as those liberties are destroyed.

There have been other personal experiences throughout my life that have forced me to face up to harsh realities: the ending of two marriages, one of which resulted in me fleeing with my daughter while my violent partner was out of the house; that same, miraculous daughter – Lucy-Ann – having been starved of oxygen at birth, has brain damage, which means she has the reading age of a six-year-old despite being 30 this year; dealing with everyday sexism and racism when working in the City; and the next-level abuse and threats I have experienced since taking the government to court.

There’s no denying that those moments – which I talk about with great honesty in my memoir, Rise, hit me hard. But if they taught me anything, it is that you must care about yourself enough to keep going and speak up for yourself when no one else will. That is something that is often easier said than done, but if you keep using your voice in those difficult moments, like a muscle it will get stronger; you will get stronger.

If I ever need to remind myself to keep speaking up, I just look to Lucy-Ann. Her name means ‘light’, and through my darkest times she has been just that to me. She has a very direct way of thinking: if she sees someone sleeping rough on the street, she wants to invite them home; to her it is that simple. When I was receiving abuse for the legal challenge over triggering Article 50, Lucy-Ann said, ‘But that happens a lot, mummy. Quite a lot of people don’t like you’, which made me laugh. Her straightforward approach is refreshing and helps ground me. It is also thinking about her and my other children’s futures that keeps me going when I start to flag, or question if what I am doing is worth the vitriol aimed at me.

My father showed me how one person standing up for what they believe can achieve remarkable things. But he also taught me that sometimes it simply isn’t possible to do it alone. What I believe in more than anything is individuals who want to do the right thing speaking up and coming together – rising together – for the better good. There is strength in numbers, and the more we can find unity over the issues and worries facing us today, the sooner we will create the brighter future we, our children and grandchildren desire and deserve.

Gina Miller is the author of Rise: Life Lessons in Speaking Out, Standing Tall & Leading the Way (Canongate Books, £12.99 hardback). She joins us here on the bottom of this guest post for a webchat on Thursday 6th September at 9pm. Post your questions here in advance if you can’t make it on the day.

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GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:02

@Chocolala

Thank you for standing up for the law.

Dear Chocolala - the rule of law is a cornerstone of a stable democratic society - we must all defend it. Just look how Trump, Erdagon and Orban are attacking the rule of law in their countries.

lalalonglegs · 06/09/2018 22:03

Thank you very much. I shall frame it Grin

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:07

@Secretsquirrel252

Thank you for standing up for the law.

Do you ever feel resentful that you as an individual had to be the one to push for something that should have been done by politicians and civil servants?

Dear Secretsquirrel252 - I don't feel resentful. I feel angry that I had to invest so much of my safety, time and money into a fight to put MPs right back where they should rightly be - in the democratic process. But instead of having the robust debate about what Brexit really would mean, they failed to have the backbone to debate with honesty and ask the hard questions. They just became spineless rubber stampers.

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:08

@2BorNot2Bvocal

I agree with the title of your blogpost and appreciate that you did that.

What are the smaller actions that you do to help others find that courage / make a difference? (In hope of ideas many of us without wealth or profile could emulate.)

Dear 2BorNot2Bvocal - it's all in my book!

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:11

@gendercritter

Another person who thinks you're amazing.

Did you ever genuinely fear for your life because of your actions regarding Brexit? I think women in the public eye are treated so badly - I can't imagine how you coped.

Dear Gendercritter - again it's all in the book, including the Viscount who compared me to an animal and took out a £5,000 bounty to have me run over. Women in the public eye must stand up in solidarity and not accept that it comes with the job - I've heard too many say 'it's normal'.

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:12

@alardi

I'm in your fanbase, too. The rule of Law is important!! Thanks for being brave.

😊

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:14

@earlgreymarl

How do you stay calm, focused and productive on a day to day basis?

I've learnt over many year of being an activist and standing up - in my book I hope I can pass on some of what I've learnt

earlgreymarl · 06/09/2018 22:17

Thanks Gina, shall definitely read it. Good luck on all your endeavours!

BigChocFrenzy · 06/09/2018 22:17

Many thanks, @MNHQ, @RachelMumsnet for inviting Gina Miller Thanks

An excellent choice and a really good Webchat
An amazing woman

BigChocFrenzy · 06/09/2018 22:18

Many thanks, Gina Thanks and best wishes for your continuing legal actions

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:20

@Caffeinesolution

Hi Gina,

Thanks so much for what you are doing, and as others have said, you're a real inspiration. I'm so looking forward to reading your book. Was there ever a book which inspired or really moved you - as a child or adult? I'd love to get a few recommendations from you to add to my list Smile

A few books that live long in my memory include 'Anna Frank', 'Behind the beautiful forever', The Count of Monti Cristo', Mary Beard's women and Power'. Hope you enjoy my book

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:21

@earlgreymarl

How do you stay calm, focused and productive on a day to day basis?

I talk in my book about techniques I've developed to cope - hope you find them helpful

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:24

@MargoChanning

Hi Gina.

Some of the strongest, most resilient women I know are mothers with disabled children. How has your own experience as a mother to your disabled elder daughter impacted on you? Did you ever have to fight for her to get the support she needs?

Thank you for everything you are doing.

Fighting for my daughter 30 years ago is when i discovered my inner lioness - most mothers of disabled children discover their's. Again - in the book

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:27

@TooMuchPenis

The level of sexual and racial violence to me and my family I was not.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm even sorrier that I am not a tiny bit surprised. Do you have any thoughts on what could be done regarding safety online and trolling abuse?

My case against the Viscount has set a precedent so people can be prosecuted for social media inciting racial / sexual violence. There is also a thorough investigation and review of the law being undertaken by the Law Commission at present .

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:28

@lalalonglegs

Hi Gina - I think I win the no. 1 fan prize, I have a framed photo of you on my wall Blush Smile. My question is, in your opinion, what is the one action any individual can take in stopping Brexit?

I'm looking forward to reading your book.

I'm blushing - gosh! In answer to you question - watch this space...

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 22:31

Good night all - hug those you love

Hazardswan · 06/09/2018 22:45
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Motheroffourdragons · 06/09/2018 22:48

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Melassa · 07/09/2018 08:20

So sorry I missed this! Gina, you are an inspiration, you’re in my daughter’s hall of fame of strong women to aspire to be like. I will be buying your book as soon as it’s available out here (I am abroad) and I wish you well in whatever path you decide to take going forward. I would definitely vote for you (not that I can, disenfranchised British emigrant here - perhaps your next campaign? Restoring the vote to Brits abroad). Heck, I would even trust you with my pension fund!
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lexer · 07/09/2018 08:51

What a wishy washy superficial interview. All that woman did was thank posters for saying they liked her and try her damndest to sell her flipping book.

twofingerstoEverything · 07/09/2018 10:15

To be fair, she wasn't asked many questions, so what could she do lexer?
That's what happens when you hide Brexit stuff in a corner of MN, I guess!

catlady3 · 10/09/2018 21:27

Thanks is Gina for the response! And well pleased to have won a book! Whoop!

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