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Guest blog from Gina Miller: ‘’If you want to make a difference, you have to be prepared to put your head above the parapet’’

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RachelMumsnet · 05/09/2018 12:22

The pursuit of fame for fame’s sake seems a peculiarly modern phenomenon; and having experienced a degree of notoriety since becoming the lead claimant in the 2016 constitutional case against the UK government over triggering Article 50, I find it harder than ever to comprehend why anyone would actively seek it.

I am aware, however, that in today’s world, especially with social – or as I call it, anti-social – media, if you want to make a difference, you have to be prepared to put your head above the parapet – and that often means accepting a certain level of attention on yourself.

It was my father who first made me understand this. After starting out as a petrol attendant aged 14, with very little schooling, he became a barrister through sheer determination, intelligence and drive, before going on to become Attorney General of Guyana. When he came back from work, my father would talk to me about the cases he had heard that day, not shirking from telling me of those times he felt he had let people down, or had not been able to achieve what he had hoped to. This was particularly emotional for him as a criminal barrister in a country that has the death penalty.

He had considerable weight on his shoulders – among the many cases he took on, he defended a number of political activists who were wrongly accused under the dictatorship of Guyanese President Forbes Burnham – but his belief in what he was doing prevented him from stepping out of the often-harsh limelight. He showed me that you can be in the public eye and maintain your core values – and how one person’s actions can genuinely make a difference.

My parents sent me and my brother to England to escape the increasing civil unrest in Guyana under Burnham, so it is perhaps unsurprising that the erosion of civil liberties has always been something that I have spoken out about, knowing the damage that can be inflicted on a nation as those liberties are destroyed.

There have been other personal experiences throughout my life that have forced me to face up to harsh realities: the ending of two marriages, one of which resulted in me fleeing with my daughter while my violent partner was out of the house; that same, miraculous daughter – Lucy-Ann – having been starved of oxygen at birth, has brain damage, which means she has the reading age of a six-year-old despite being 30 this year; dealing with everyday sexism and racism when working in the City; and the next-level abuse and threats I have experienced since taking the government to court.

There’s no denying that those moments – which I talk about with great honesty in my memoir, Rise, hit me hard. But if they taught me anything, it is that you must care about yourself enough to keep going and speak up for yourself when no one else will. That is something that is often easier said than done, but if you keep using your voice in those difficult moments, like a muscle it will get stronger; you will get stronger.

If I ever need to remind myself to keep speaking up, I just look to Lucy-Ann. Her name means ‘light’, and through my darkest times she has been just that to me. She has a very direct way of thinking: if she sees someone sleeping rough on the street, she wants to invite them home; to her it is that simple. When I was receiving abuse for the legal challenge over triggering Article 50, Lucy-Ann said, ‘But that happens a lot, mummy. Quite a lot of people don’t like you’, which made me laugh. Her straightforward approach is refreshing and helps ground me. It is also thinking about her and my other children’s futures that keeps me going when I start to flag, or question if what I am doing is worth the vitriol aimed at me.

My father showed me how one person standing up for what they believe can achieve remarkable things. But he also taught me that sometimes it simply isn’t possible to do it alone. What I believe in more than anything is individuals who want to do the right thing speaking up and coming together – rising together – for the better good. There is strength in numbers, and the more we can find unity over the issues and worries facing us today, the sooner we will create the brighter future we, our children and grandchildren desire and deserve.

Gina Miller is the author of Rise: Life Lessons in Speaking Out, Standing Tall & Leading the Way (Canongate Books, £12.99 hardback). She joins us here on the bottom of this guest post for a webchat on Thursday 6th September at 9pm. Post your questions here in advance if you can’t make it on the day.

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user1499173618 · 06/09/2018 12:56

Thank you, Gina, for your dignity and courage. You are an example to us all.

2BorNot2Bvocal · 06/09/2018 14:36

I agree with the title of your blogpost and appreciate that you did that.

What are the smaller actions that you do to help others find that courage / make a difference? (In hope of ideas many of us without wealth or profile could emulate.)

woman11017 · 06/09/2018 14:48

Questions: How would you word the People's Vote questions?
What constitutional and legal parameters would you apply to the carrying out of the result?
What safeguards should be in place to ensure that the campaigning and voting is free and fair?
Thank you.

gendercritter · 06/09/2018 15:16

Another person who thinks you're amazing.

Did you ever genuinely fear for your life because of your actions regarding Brexit? I think women in the public eye are treated so badly - I can't imagine how you coped.

lexer · 06/09/2018 15:22

BiscuitBiscuitBiscuit

alardi · 06/09/2018 15:39

I'm in your fanbase, too. The rule of Law is important!! Thanks for being brave.

Violetparis · 06/09/2018 19:33

Are you considering standing in the rumoured Lib Dem leadership contest if the party changes their rules about non MP's being able to stand ?

earlgreymarl · 06/09/2018 20:45
  1. Before you took the case to the supreme court, did you attempt to lobby government or parliament members first with a soft approach, and if yes, what ways did they use to put you off?

  2. do you have advice for dealing with small efforts of resistance against the right thing , particularly with government and civil servants.

Also - thank you. You are inspirational. Can't wait to read the book.

earlgreymarl · 06/09/2018 20:48

Also - what other concerns do you have about Brexit and the separation of powers of the executive, legislature and judiciary and checks and balances?

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 20:57

Good evening dear ladies (and any men who have joined us) Thank you so much for joining this Webchat and I'll do my best to answer you all. G

RachelMumsnet · 06/09/2018 20:57

Thanks for all the questions so far. Everyone who joins the discussion will be entered into a draw to win one of three copies of Gina's book Rise: Life Lessons in Speaking Out, Standing Tall & Leading the Way. Winners will be announced at the end of the webchat.

A big thank you to Gina Miller for joining us tonight to answer questions. Welcome to Mumsnet Gina and over to you...

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GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 21:00

@derxa

I am sorry for the abuse you received. However "The pursuit of fame for fame’s sake seems a peculiarly modern phenomenon" Why did you do it? You must have anticipated the furore that you caused. I voted Remain by the way.

Dear Derxa
I’ve been a transparency campaigner in the financial and charity sectors for over 10 years and as such have been seen as a wrecking ball so furore I was expecting. The level of sexual and racial violence to me and my family I was not. I have now come across many people, especially women in greenrooms and pre- shows who sincerely regret courting fame.

earlgreymarl · 06/09/2018 21:01

How do you stay calm, focused and productive on a day to day basis?

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 21:01

@Daddybegood

Gina. Regardless of remain/leave the people of this country owe you a huge debt of gratitude just for keeping parliament sovereign. You have clearly explained why you did it but how utterly frustrating and horrible was it to deal with online racist sexist trolls harassing you and dealing with a bias far right media labelling anyone who disagrees with them as traitors etc? ....Thankfully you weren't deterred and please keep going as history will be very kind to you. Can you become our PM?

Dear Daddybegood
You are most generous and I’m so pleased you appreciate the motives behind my legal actions. But going into the dysfunctional world of politics we are witnessing today is not where or how I believe I can be of most service.

redsummershoes · 06/09/2018 21:02

dear gina, thank you for chatting to us.
my question: you always appear very calm and unfazed and articulate. where/how did you learn to do that? I would just start to cry I suspect

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 21:03

@Helmetbymidnight

Thank you, Gina for all the work you have done and continue to do. You are an inspiration.

Dear Helmetbymidnight - your kindness, along with the love of my family keep me going - I very much hope my book lights a fire in you that means you can inspire others.

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 21:05

@UnderHerEye

Gina,

Can you help women speak out about their concern that reforms to the GRA will lead to the erasure of womens rights which are currently protected under the Equality Act ?

Please??

Dear UnderHerEye

There is great danger that after a hard or no deal Brexit women in the UK will be hit hard. Either through a risk of losing hard-won equality and human rights protections – eg employment rights and funding for women’s services, equal pay for equal work, part-time workers being treated the same as full time workers (predominantly women). But also due to the fact that women tend to be disproportional affected in economic downturns, and the loss of staff in social care so women will have to become the carers.

The government has promised protections in the Equality Act will continue to apply once the UK leaves the EU, but this political commitment is not included in the Withdrawal Bill.

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 21:08

@redsummershoes

thank you gina you are an amazing woman and role model and you have my full admiration!

Dear Redsummershoes - love your name here. Thank you. There are and have been so many amazing women - we must take the time to remember and thank as many as them as we can.

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 21:10

@FannyAdmin

Thank you Gina. What an inspiring and strong woman you are. I'm really looking forward to reading your book.

Dear FannyAdmin - I really hope you enjoy the book - its' me emotionally naked in the hope it will make the reader feel the bonds of humanity not the barbs of derision

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 21:13

@Cheesecake53

Gina, thank you!

Dear Cheesecake53 - and thank you for taking the time to reach out to me

MargoChanning · 06/09/2018 21:14

Hi Gina.

Some of the strongest, most resilient women I know are mothers with disabled children. How has your own experience as a mother to your disabled elder daughter impacted on you? Did you ever have to fight for her to get the support she needs?

Thank you for everything you are doing.

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 21:14

@balljuggla

Gina - you are an amazing woman. Thank you so much for everything you have done.

Dear Balljuggla - I very much hope you enjoy my book and reflex on what makes you amazing too

BigChocFrenzy · 06/09/2018 21:15

Gina I am very grateful to you for bringing these court cases to (try to) make the government act within the rules

  • but I wish we had a written constitution with safeguards, so that you didn't need to do all this work.

You are very brave to keep fighting, despite the dreadful threats that women in public life face,
especially when they are opposed by the political hard right.

GinaMiller · 06/09/2018 21:17

@Hazardswan

Gina thank you for being so brave, I know these words get overused a lot but you actually are an inspiration.

Cheers to HQ Mumsnet for the guest blog as well.

Dear Hazardswan - My thanks to Mumsnet too - and thank you for taking the time to say thank you. It is never a waste or overused. If only we all took more time to say 'thank you', 'sorry', 'I love you'....

TooMuchPenis · 06/09/2018 21:19

@lexer you Ok hun?

if you voted for Brexit because you cared about "parliamentary sovereignty" you should have supported this all the way. Or are you one of those boring people who doesn't actually know what that means but just wanted to kick the furriners out and use an excuse that sounded vaguely less racist?