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Guest blog from Gina Miller: ‘’If you want to make a difference, you have to be prepared to put your head above the parapet’’

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RachelMumsnet · 05/09/2018 12:22

The pursuit of fame for fame’s sake seems a peculiarly modern phenomenon; and having experienced a degree of notoriety since becoming the lead claimant in the 2016 constitutional case against the UK government over triggering Article 50, I find it harder than ever to comprehend why anyone would actively seek it.

I am aware, however, that in today’s world, especially with social – or as I call it, anti-social – media, if you want to make a difference, you have to be prepared to put your head above the parapet – and that often means accepting a certain level of attention on yourself.

It was my father who first made me understand this. After starting out as a petrol attendant aged 14, with very little schooling, he became a barrister through sheer determination, intelligence and drive, before going on to become Attorney General of Guyana. When he came back from work, my father would talk to me about the cases he had heard that day, not shirking from telling me of those times he felt he had let people down, or had not been able to achieve what he had hoped to. This was particularly emotional for him as a criminal barrister in a country that has the death penalty.

He had considerable weight on his shoulders – among the many cases he took on, he defended a number of political activists who were wrongly accused under the dictatorship of Guyanese President Forbes Burnham – but his belief in what he was doing prevented him from stepping out of the often-harsh limelight. He showed me that you can be in the public eye and maintain your core values – and how one person’s actions can genuinely make a difference.

My parents sent me and my brother to England to escape the increasing civil unrest in Guyana under Burnham, so it is perhaps unsurprising that the erosion of civil liberties has always been something that I have spoken out about, knowing the damage that can be inflicted on a nation as those liberties are destroyed.

There have been other personal experiences throughout my life that have forced me to face up to harsh realities: the ending of two marriages, one of which resulted in me fleeing with my daughter while my violent partner was out of the house; that same, miraculous daughter – Lucy-Ann – having been starved of oxygen at birth, has brain damage, which means she has the reading age of a six-year-old despite being 30 this year; dealing with everyday sexism and racism when working in the City; and the next-level abuse and threats I have experienced since taking the government to court.

There’s no denying that those moments – which I talk about with great honesty in my memoir, Rise, hit me hard. But if they taught me anything, it is that you must care about yourself enough to keep going and speak up for yourself when no one else will. That is something that is often easier said than done, but if you keep using your voice in those difficult moments, like a muscle it will get stronger; you will get stronger.

If I ever need to remind myself to keep speaking up, I just look to Lucy-Ann. Her name means ‘light’, and through my darkest times she has been just that to me. She has a very direct way of thinking: if she sees someone sleeping rough on the street, she wants to invite them home; to her it is that simple. When I was receiving abuse for the legal challenge over triggering Article 50, Lucy-Ann said, ‘But that happens a lot, mummy. Quite a lot of people don’t like you’, which made me laugh. Her straightforward approach is refreshing and helps ground me. It is also thinking about her and my other children’s futures that keeps me going when I start to flag, or question if what I am doing is worth the vitriol aimed at me.

My father showed me how one person standing up for what they believe can achieve remarkable things. But he also taught me that sometimes it simply isn’t possible to do it alone. What I believe in more than anything is individuals who want to do the right thing speaking up and coming together – rising together – for the better good. There is strength in numbers, and the more we can find unity over the issues and worries facing us today, the sooner we will create the brighter future we, our children and grandchildren desire and deserve.

Gina Miller is the author of Rise: Life Lessons in Speaking Out, Standing Tall & Leading the Way (Canongate Books, £12.99 hardback). She joins us here on the bottom of this guest post for a webchat on Thursday 6th September at 9pm. Post your questions here in advance if you can’t make it on the day.

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derxa · 05/09/2018 15:26

I am sorry for the abuse you received. However "The pursuit of fame for fame’s sake seems a peculiarly modern phenomenon"
Why did you do it? You must have anticipated the furore that you caused. I voted Remain by the way.

Daddybegood · 05/09/2018 15:38

Gina. Regardless of remain/leave the people of this country owe you a huge debt of gratitude just for keeping parliament sovereign. You have clearly explained why you did it but how utterly frustrating and horrible was it to deal with online racist sexist trolls harassing you and dealing with a bias far right media labelling anyone who disagrees with them as traitors etc?
....Thankfully you weren't deterred and please keep going as history will be very kind to you. Can you become our PM?

Helmetbymidnight · 05/09/2018 18:25

Thank you, Gina for all the work you have done and continue to do. You are an inspiration.

UnderHerEye · 05/09/2018 18:31

Gina,

Can you help women speak out about their concern that reforms to the GRA will lead to the erasure of womens rights which are currently protected under the Equality Act ?

Please??

redsummershoes · 05/09/2018 18:38

thank you gina
you are an amazing woman and role model and you have my full admiration!

FannyAdmin · 05/09/2018 18:47

Thank you Gina. What an inspiring and strong woman you are. I'm really looking forward to reading your book.

RatRolyPoly · 05/09/2018 19:33

Gina, you have my full admiration for your principled approach to life and congratulations on what it has led you to achieve!

RatRolyPoly · 05/09/2018 19:38

Oh, my question! Did you ever doubt yourself? Doubt that you were doing the right thing, doubt you were going to achieve anything and worry you were going to end up looking silly? What was the guiding light that saw you through those times?

Cheesecake53 · 05/09/2018 19:42

Gina, thank you!

balljuggla · 05/09/2018 19:46

Gina - you are an amazing woman. Thank you so much for everything you have done.

Hazardswan · 05/09/2018 19:52

Gina thank you for being so brave, I know these words get overused a lot but you actually are an inspiration.

Cheers to HQ Mumsnet for the guest blog as well.

Greensmurf1 · 05/09/2018 20:03

How do you keep frustration, disillusionment and compassion-fatigue at bay? The fight to preserve civil liberties and stem the tide of racism, sexism, xenophobia, fascism and other forms of oppression feels never-ending. How do you keep going, and how do you choose your battles?

Thanks!

twofingerstoEverything · 05/09/2018 20:05

Another one who just wants to applaud you for doing what should not have been necessary in a country like the UK. Thank you so much for doing what is right and for being brave and strong in the face of so much vitriol. I had started to despair of this country, but people like you give me hope.
Flowers Star Flowers

TeaAddict235 · 05/09/2018 20:26

I really enjoyed listening to you Gina on Woman's Hour yesterday. It was captivating. I would have loved to hear more about your upbringing and earlier life until your marriages (for that I'll have to buy the book Grin), as I too have heritage from a similar neighbouring country and essentially love to read more from writers with varied backgrounds.

Could you suggest some writers who have inspired you in your lifetime please?

Thank you and keep up the amazing work! God bless

catlady3 · 05/09/2018 20:31

First of all, thank you so much for everything you have done for this country.

Early on in the Brexit process, you said that you were worried that after the French and German elections, the UK government may just walk away from negotiations and crash out of the EU, while blaming this on the EU being unreasonable etc. The EU-blaming has certainly continued, so I'm wondering how you judge the risk of a no-deal exit now, and whether there are any other issues around the negotiations / exit you are particularly concerned about, and where you see the People's Vote campaign fit with all this.

NetofLemons · 05/09/2018 23:10

Gina you are a real hero to me. So principled and very brave. Thank you. Flowers

AsleepAllDay · 06/09/2018 04:58

I'm a Remainer at heart while looking in despair at some of the tactics, I heard Gina on Channel 4 and found her really articulate and principled. She's right about how the abuse she fears most being from the people who make the most effort to send it her way.

That said, the pursuit of fame isn't really a modern phenomena - just look at Marilyn Monroe, Wallis Simpson etc

Anyway, am more interested and may even read the book now! Props to you for acknowledging and talking about how race comes into how some people treat you

Mrsr8 · 06/09/2018 07:31

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woman11017 · 06/09/2018 08:29

^So I will simply say, from me, a woman, a mother, a UK citizen...
Thank you^
That works for me Smile Thank you Gina Miller. Flowers May the road rise with you.

parklives · 06/09/2018 09:50

Thanks Gina for everything that you have done and will do. The haters gonna hate, you are above that.

chloem93 · 06/09/2018 10:17

The amount of treacherous anti democratic fools on this post. This woman is standing up for a cause huh? Trying to take away the power to vote. She's no hero and a traitor. Maybe she should go and live in Brussels as she likes it so much.

Theworldisfullofgs · 06/09/2018 10:21

chloe democracy is about tolerating difference but thanks for the bingo moment.

Gina thanks for providing what the opposition seems incapable of.

twofingerstoEverything · 06/09/2018 10:51

The amount of treacherous anti democratic fools on this post. This woman is standing up for a cause huh? Trying to take away the power to vote. She's no hero and a traitor. Maybe she should go and live in Brussels as she likes it so much.

Maybe all of us 'traitors' should move to Brussels, eh, Chloe. Only one problem with that since you've voted to remove FOM.
You also need to go away and do some reading with a view to understanding what 'democracy' is, particularly parliamentary democracy.

Chocolala · 06/09/2018 11:39

Thank you for standing up for the law.

Secretsquirrel252 · 06/09/2018 11:47

Thank you for standing up for the law.

Do you ever feel resentful that you as an individual had to be the one to push for something that should have been done by politicians and civil servants?