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My husband’s long and arduous weekend. Handholds needed for him

376 replies

CalpolDependant · 16/04/2023 19:16

Just a quick post, while our dinner cooks. My husband has had such a long and trying weekend. Let me know if you have any messages of support that you would like me to pass along.

He’s been on a 48 hour stag do bender. It’s been particularly tough on him because he’s 42 years old and has high blood pressure. God bless him.

There have been pub crawls, smoked meat cookouts, distillery tours where they tasted 25 different spirits, poker games and much more. And my husband has pushed through like an absolute saint. He didn’t go to bed until after 4am on both nights and has even lost his poor little voice from all the karaoke. He did 2 Cher songs! Wow!

I’ve had an easy weekend of it, in the homestead. Looking after 3 kids and getting all the washing done after our family holiday. Had a full day of work on Friday. Caught up on some DIY in the evenings too. General relaxation.

Which is why, when my husband arrived home this afternoon at 4.45pm and said he would be going up to bed for nap, I was happy to do the kids dinner and bedtime on my own.

The poor soul. Please keep him in your prayers and thoughts.

OP posts:
mindutopia · 16/04/2023 20:58

Dh has been away since Wednesday helping a family member move (who to be fair, probably didn’t need much help but is a bit of a baby and Dh a bit of a softie 🙄).

He arrived home after a 7 hour drive at 6:30 tonight and I pretty much haven’t seen him or the dc since. He’s doing bedtime while I eat my dinner in peace and I likely won’t rise out of bed tomorrow before 9am because it’s his bloody job to sort the kids out for school after 5 days away and he knows it. I’ll swan out after the school run for a coffee and start my work day.

LadyMary50 · 16/04/2023 20:58

Goldbar · 16/04/2023 19:50

I don't want to be precipitate, OP, but maybe the time has come to put him out of his misery? Sometimes we keep them around just for ourselves when the kindest thing would be to let them go.

This post is getting hilarious😂😂

itsgettingweird · 16/04/2023 21:00

Grimeduster · 16/04/2023 20:42

Does he ever get time off? There are two of you in this marriage op and it's important that you both get equal relaxation time. If I was him I'd stay home with the kids next weekend, cook, clean, wash, hoover, mop, garden, DIY, ferry kids about and take care of the pets, and you can go out for 48 hours with your mates and see how you like it.

🤣🤣🤣👏

Justtrying · 16/04/2023 21:00

Oh, bless. Hope you get some me time, soon too.

LemonTreeSkies · 16/04/2023 21:00

Cosycover · 16/04/2023 19:54

Not all heroes wear capes.

😁😁😁

viques · 16/04/2023 21:01

I think he should be immortalised in a movie version of his life, Brad Pitt might be able to bring true gravitas to the subject.

I would have suggested Jack Nicholson, but sadly I think he lived his life like your OHs weekend, and it shows. there’s a moral there …….

Hibye23289 · 16/04/2023 21:02

Wow brought a tear to my eye. So brave, what an inspiration. I wonder if we could contact Carol Vorderman and nominate him for a Pride of Britain Award? True heroism shouldn't go unnoticed. Thankyou, shall clap on my doorstep tonight.

Mumsnut · 16/04/2023 21:03

Can you get a friend to fake a ‘fraud call’ from his credit card provider asking about a £2,000 charge for drinks in a strip club over the weekend? They should of course ask to speak to his wife in case she used the card …

Blanketenvy · 16/04/2023 21:03

Oh gosh, poor lamb, it's hard but it is really important for him to spend as much time with the kids on what could be his last night, it's possible he might not pull through. Maybe the kindest thing would be if they all snuggled together for the night in bed, I know it's hard for you but you could take yourself off and sleep elsewhere, just to let them have that quality time together, maybe the kids will want to tell him a lot of stories they've made up, or perform a short play alongside their musical performances.

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 16/04/2023 21:03

It took me far to long to realise you was being sarcastic 🙈🤣🤣

isthismylifenow · 16/04/2023 21:04

I think now is the right time to haul out the whistles you took away from the dc and hid for this very type of emergency.

LadyMary50 · 16/04/2023 21:04

Soleiro · 16/04/2023 20:10

I've just been doing my bit clapping outside the house for him, op, lease he deserves.

😂😂😂Ive laughed so much I may had done a little widdle.The thread that keeps on giving👏👏👏

averylongtimeago · 16/04/2023 21:05

Perhaps I can send you the harmonicas I wouldn't let my DH give to the grandkids last Christmas?

Namechange224422 · 16/04/2023 21:05

So brave!

Possibly the dinner you have lovingly prepared won’t be up to the job of supporting him after such an inspiring feat.

Could the kids prepare a special tray for him all by themselves?

Homemade pizzas, veg they’ve grown themselves, baked treats? No need to wash hands….real men like dh aren’t fussed about the odd bit of snot….

Imnotachap · 16/04/2023 21:06

I've been single a long time, put off men after so many bad experiences. However, hearing about your DH has reminded me there are some really really good guys out there. If I could find a chap half as wonderful as yours i'd feel like the luckiest woman alive.

tokka · 16/04/2023 21:06

Life in the fast lane, eh? 😂

InSpainTheRain · 16/04/2023 21:06

What a trouper he is!

LizzieVereker · 16/04/2023 21:07

Shall we think of a symbol that we can all collectively display in our homes to show our support for him, like the NHS rainbow? I was thinking, a massive aubergine 🍆 or something? I’ll put one in my front window right now.

ShowUs · 16/04/2023 21:07

I don’t get the passive aggressiveness.

Is it because of envy?
If so why?

Because you don’t have any friends or because your DH wouldn’t let you?

MoserRothOrangeandAlmond · 16/04/2023 21:10

Ah OP I hope you haven't tired him out jumping on his bones/boner!
He's had a stressful/tiring weekend and you may tip him over the edge.
Keeping him in my thoughts and prayers.
The serenading would have done him good also!

sjxoxo · 16/04/2023 21:13

He might catch covid from all that mingling aswell so deffo get the dressing gown of doom ready for that, or just classic man flu also could be a possibility if he’s overdone it. Just one thing after another isn’t it!!! Hope he appreciates that he can wallow in clean clothes and a nice home after all your relaxing time out. Hand hold for all involved!!!! (Make sure you get an actual rest and don’t hesitate to stay in a lovely hotel for a few nights when you have the inkling) Xxxx

ImSoShiney · 16/04/2023 21:13

Nominated for classics, this is brilliant 😁

Ichosetheredpill · 16/04/2023 21:15

Hahahaha this has helped me. DH took DS and his friend to the farm park on Friday, where he spent three hours on his phone with a coffee while they were on soft play because it was raining and when he got home he literally went straight to bed (5pm) because he was exhausted. I’d been at home all day with baby DD and was so bloody cross with him 😂

fairgame84 · 16/04/2023 21:15

LemonTreeSkies · 16/04/2023 21:00

😁😁😁

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They truly don't.
Real heroes wear the DGOD.

I imagine a navy or black ensemble, with a hood to shield his weary head of course.

Dymaxion · 16/04/2023 21:16

I really think you need to get serious for a minute, your DH is absolutely at risk of developing pressure damage, I doubt he has the energy to change position by himself, could the children pop up and slide a cushion under one of his buttocks so he is tilted by 30 degrees ? It could make all the difference. It would need to be repeated every 20 minutes on each side. Its the least you can all do to protect his skin integrity at this difficult time. Thoughts and prayers OP Flowers