To think you can't get past 'the ick' im a relationship?

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LIGHT HEARTED Interested in other posters thoughts on 'the ick'.

For those who don't know, the 'ick' is when someone you are dating just starts to irritate you for no apparent reason.
I dont mean normal annoyances, i mean they start to make your skin crawl and their mannerisms just go through you like a knife.
It can just creep up on you without any warning and they can even tick every box and otherwise be a 10/10 partner but unfortunately even them breathing irritates the life out of you. You try to fight it, but ultimately the irritation can turn to anger and make even the best of people become snappy with rage due to 'the ick'.

Ive experienced this once. Lovely bloke, not a bad bone in his body. After about 2 years for some reason still unknown to me i suddenly got 'the ick'. Watching him eat a pot noodle would make my blood boil.. Literally give me the rage. Everything he did irritated the life out of me.
As he was so lovely i tried my hardest to make things work. Until one day i confessed to a friend who told me about 'the ick' and how once it happens it can never be undone. They will irritate you forever. No one knows the cause of the ick.. But its incurable. So i ended it. Felt nothing but relief.

So am i unreasonable to think 'the ick' is a real thing and once it happens the relationship is doomed?

Has anyone else experienced this? What is the reason behind 'the ick'? Why does it usually seem to happen with people who tick all the boxes?

I can't lie, i sometimes read posts on the relationship boards where the OP will say their partner has suddenly said they want out. Whilst everyone else is shouting 'OW' i think to myself maybe they've just got 'the ick?'

@happycamper11

The side of my bed has always been against a wall in every flat/house I've lived in. Didn't realise it was a faux pas

Mine is too, although not out of choice. It's more normal for adults to have a bed that can be accessed from both sides as its traditionally 2 adults accessing it and having a 'side' obviously this isn't always the case but the 'ick' isn't a friend of logic

adults tend to be centred in a room - obviously talking about a side of a bed here not the headboard

Not everyone has bedrooms the size necessary to do that.

Another two... had been seeing a guy for a while and thought things were getting more adventurous in the bedroom when, as we were getting amorous, he tied my hands to the bed. And then he didn't really seem to know what to do and..... fetched some felt tips and drew a smiley face on my chest

I am dying here!

Once, a boyfriend said to me in a wistful/hinty way... 'christmas is just round the corner'. That was it for me.

This is fucking brilliant.

@SirChing I think just a pattern would have been tolerable. We could have salvaged the situation maybe. But a smiley face? It really amused him too. Think he just got the idea in his head, found it funny, forgot the context and didn't think about killing the mood.

I was once sitting on a sofa with a bf, watching the telly, and he rested his head on my shoulder! He was a lovely bloke, and fantastic in bed, but two and a half years just shrivelled up to nothing in that second.

@Scout2016 The fact that he couldn't think what to do with you once you were tied up doesn't speak well of his sexual imagination! I too would have had to end it for that reason alone. It's just so massively unsexy and mood destroying

Well....when I was 18 I visited my aunt's house for the July month and this really nice guy, neighbour of theirs (and cousin of her husband) asked me out for the evening. I had been out with him the year before, he kissed like the angels, lovely smile and taller than me and really nice. When he picked me up he was in a right mood, sulking silently. I spent the evening (stupidly) trying to find out what had happened and make him laugh. Thing is, and I had forgotten this, I suddenly realised his body was long and his legs sort of short!, suddenly he didn't seem so tall or handsome and the other guys seemed much more manly. I rejected his advances later on and earnt his absolute hate, but he no longer was the messiah in my eyes.

Oh and he was wearing a yukkie brown shirt with mustard coloured figurines, he looked like a tasteless midget!

OMG.. Keep them coming people. I am in tears at these. 😂😂😂 brilliant

Loving this thread. For classics without doubt.
Upthread someone mentioned those collected white secretions at the corners of the mouth.
Mackers, my friends and I call them and they are vile. Had many an ick over these.

Maybe Mr Smiley Face thought that's what people actually do when they tie each other up in bed :o

I'm relieved that the bed isn't generally seen as an ickable offence. Maybe if it's a single bed with a poster of a footballer/Kate Bush above it.

Mackers :o

The worst is when a macker has escaped into a beard and can't even be easily retrieved... blaugh

The worst is when a macker has escaped into a beard and can't even be easily retrieved... blaugh

Heave

An Ex opened his mouth to talk to me one morning and the smell had me flung back on the pillow because it was exactly the same smell as opening a bin in the summer.
Occasionally I think of him when I open the compost bin.

I had the ick when my ex-partner was driving along (me as a front passenger) and suddenly he wound the window down, pressed in his left nostril with his finger and then blew so hard that a huge bogie flew out of his right nostril on to the road!!!! 🤢🤢🤢

Jesus @Fallsballs I'm dying!

Oh god, I’m so glad it’s not just me! I’ve felt such a cold hearted cow in the past for unceremoniously dumping various, seemingly nice men.

One ex was on the face of it, tall, dark and handsome and quite ‘blokey’ but he turned up one day in a pale grey hoody, light blue tracksuit bottoms and white Converse and because he’d packed the weight on and grown a huge gut, he looked just like an overgrown toddler, even down to the ‘prancing’ walk due to him having small feet. My ovaries shrivelled up.

Another seemingly lovely, amusing and witty man, who I’d been dating for about five months, started to wear ‘country’ clothes like tweeds and wellies. I then noticed that his face was bright red but his body was ghostly white. Then i noticed that his arse was actually flatter than my ironing board, then it was his bright red, rubbery lips. The final nail was when he used the phrase ‘hokey chokey’ (meaning ‘OK’) I was repulsed. I still miss him as he was lovely and very kind but the sudden revulsion was overwhelming. Even his smell.

I agree that it’s due to childish/unmasculine behaviour. It’s just repellant and it made me feel manly in comparison to them, which is depressing.

@Fallsballs brilliant! That’ll be the maggots on the rotting food.

Oh gawd these are hilarious. The ick is real

I got the Ick with some poor bloke and it wasn't even what HE did...
We were only teenagers so he still lived with his Parents (let's call them Fred and Doris)
I was round one day and ihs mum made a pot of tea for all of us and got out "some new mugs" she'd just bought.
Personalised ones, with FRED, DORIS, name of boyfriend, and BRUCEANDNOSH.
It wasn't a present for me, it was MY mug for tea drinking when visiting.

I don't know why it made me feel so ICKY, I guess it was them deciding I was officially part of their family?

I was slightly put off by his insistence in reading the lead role of a set play we were doing in a thick Northern Irish accent. The character was a Dubliner.

When working in England, a slightly push work colleague (Welsh but with an RP accent) made some comment about Irish travellers and then said "no offence" to myself and another Northern Irish girl; both grammar school educated, middle class background, professionals with very mild Christine Bleakley type accents .. we were a combination of . I'm.sure be still doesn't get it.

*posh

Did he smell like straw, Nights? those types usually do