Crematorium Technician here

[CodLiverOil556]

I see lots of threads about cremations and Crematoria. I'm currently a crem tech so please ask me questions and I will endeavor to answer them.

[DonDrapersOldFashioned]

Why’ve you bumped this 6month old thread, toptheginup?

[Toptheginup]

Because I want to read it later

[FascinatingCarrot]

top Its been mentioned on an AIBU thread, so Im assuming theres a few who havent seen this before now.

[Toptheginup]

That is where I seen it @fascinating

[Notsurewhat1981]

Do you have any personal spiritual thoughts on it you'd care to share ? For example , when my mum and dad died I put their ashes together then set some aside as my brother wanted them buried and I didn't want to let them go, equally I wanted a ring made into glass. He managed to scare me out of this saying it's an ancient thing think that the souls of bodies or ashes with 'some missing ' never truly rip. Any vibes on that ?

[Vebrithien]

@kermitrulesok sorry to bother you, but I wondered if you ever had to deal with the remains of miscarriages? I've got to have surgical management of a missed miscarriage, and we've opted to have he remains cremated. We've been told that the hospital Chaplain will say a short multi-faith prayer, and that there will be several cremated together. But I don't know what will happen next. Will there likely be any ashes, and if so, is there a standard place that they might be scattered? If they are scattered, who does it? Can't cope with taking my little miscarriage home, but I'd love to know if there is somewhere that their ashes would go, that I could visit. Thank you.

[CodLiverOil556]

Hey @Vebrithien you would need to get in touch with the bereavement midwife and see which crematorium they deal with. They will have a record...good luck and sorry for your loss

[TheVanguardSix]

Veb you need to ring patient affairs at the hospital. They’ll guide you. That’s who helped me when I went through a similar situation.

[Vebrithien]

Thank you. I know our local crematorium well, and I do hope that they go to this one. There is a beautiful children's garden there. I will ask when I go back into hospital.

[Vebrithien]

Thank you Vanguard and Kermit I would never have known who to contact, but I phoned patient affairs at my hospital, and they've put me in touch with the bereavement midwife. She was very kind and was able to tell me exactly what would happen, where the ashes would be scattered and when. Thank you again for signposting me to the correct place.

[CodLiverOil556]

@Vebrithien you're very welcome...I hope you can get some closure by visiting your little ones final resting place x