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Because of my shyness I came out of a chip shop with a portion of fish...

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MysticTed · 26/09/2017 20:33

Instead of a cone of chips.

Which is what I asked for but was too embarrassed to correct the woman serving me.

So I ended up eating a massive battered cod on its own for lunch.

Can you please share any silly scenarios you've been in because if your lack of assertiveness to make me feel I'm not alone!

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ShotsFired · 28/09/2017 16:39

@maddiemookins16mum In a butchers on Christmas Eve. Asked for a rib of beef to feed up to 4

One of my family made the rookie mistake of seeing fancy turkeys on sale for (say) £20, so decided to grab a bargain and get a biggun.

Went to collect on Christmas Eve....£20/kg. Cost him about £80 or something outrageous. Wasn't even that amazing either.

OneWildNightWithJBJ · 28/09/2017 17:03

I thought I was the only one who did these things! The earliest one I remember is being at a birthday party and not liking the cake I'd got, so, rather than saying sorry, I don't like it or just eating it anyway, I decided to sit on it!

Mumof3wunnerfuls · 28/09/2017 17:06

Sat in the wrong film in the cinema and ummm stayed Shock

OneWildNightWithJBJ · 28/09/2017 17:09

Just thought of another. I was walking along Oxford Street after work one day with a colleague, when I got stung by a bee. I'd never been stung before and was worried I might have a reaction, plus it was stinging and my arm was going a bit red, but I never said anything as my friend was talking and I didn't want to interrupt!

amusedbush · 28/09/2017 17:20

AngeloMysterioso

😂😂😂

maddiemookins16mum · 28/09/2017 17:22

also, tomato sandwiches. I hate real/raw tomatoes. I'd rather eat my own hand than eat a raw tomato (but finely chopped tinned ones are fine in Spag bol etc, I adore Heinz tomato soup and like ketchup on occasion).
16 years old, had left school and was working. Quite a shy, introvert teenager (1979) though.
Was invited by older cousins (say 3 or 4 years older) to go up the road and stay with them in Scotland for a week (we lived in Berks at the time). Hugely excited. Got the train up, took like 8 hours.

Get to Aunties house say 4pm. Got given a cuppa and a tomato sandwich. Not cheese and tomato, just tomato (with butter obvs).

I still recall to this day seeing it, with those awful seed/pips poking out the side of the bread.

I was too nervous, shy to mention I hated tomatoes - plus I didn't want to be rude (in addition to the tomato sandwiches there were Scottish Snowballs). I recall picking up the sandwich and gingerly nibbling the corner. I actually managed about a third of the sandwich (which was a quarter of a two slice sandwich) before my rather brusque, scary auntie said 'are you alright hen?', to which I answered meekly, I don't like tomatoes and was told off (in a nice way) for not saying earlier. It's funny the things you remember.

Shodan · 28/09/2017 17:59

Sometimes I can be quite assertive- until I'm faced with an unfamiliar drinks machine Blush The number of times I've gone thirsty rather than embarrass myself trying to work out the buttons/combinations etc.

One time I made ds1 show me how the machine worked in a different Nandos. He laughed so much at his poor mother...

notfeelinguptothis · 28/09/2017 18:03

The other week I went in a newsagent and bought a drink clearly labelled £1 and two chocolate bars clearly labelled "2 for £1". I was too meek to argue when charged £2.20.

Joke's on him though, he gave me £3.80 change from my fiver!

Thingsiseeinmybathroom · 28/09/2017 18:08

I got roped in to applying for a house of Fraser store card so that I could buy some Chanel Foundation I didn't need.

Got rejected for the store card and was too much of a ninny to say I couldn't afford £25 for something I didn't really need. I mean, the sales girl said I was an 'english rose' ffs... I'm clearly not, I'm just a complete sucker!!!

wanderings · 28/09/2017 18:18

I used to have lots of stories like this - started in childhood, until my mid twenties. My mum sent me to buy a battery when I was eight, giving me the old one. I couldn't bring myself to show the old one, so I asked for the kind I thought it was. I walked away from the shop, checked it - it was the wrong one. But I couldn't face going back into the shop; I decided to handle my mum's disappointment that I'd failed this task instead.

I was eventually cured of this when I took on a job of training people, but at first, I found it very difficult to point out when they were doing something wrong, especially if they were older than me. But I had to learn, or I would have failed the exams. I still find it difficult sometimes, but I do it. If I meet someone whom I suspect is too timid to say what's on their mind, I often say "you don't seem happy with that", because in their position, my younger self would not have spoken up.

I do feel very anxious about asking for help if it displays my ignorance; I blame a primary teacher who named and shamed children for asking "silly questions". When I first went to the cinema, I didn't know about the adverts before a film starts (my parents never took me to the cinema), and eventually I plucked up the courage to ask a staff member if I was at the right screen; this was a monumental task though, especially as he seemed astonished.

This thread is fascinating, and I have a lot of sympathy, but I'm not laughing at all. I'm often very stony-faced when characters on TV or radio put themselves out like this. I'm still angry about Tom in The Archers telling the police that he was driving and ran someone over, when it was actually Helen who did it when she was drunk, but he was too weak to stop her, and then to dob her in. (And that was several years ago!)

allwomanR · 28/09/2017 18:26

I had my windows done earlier in the year- lovely company great fitters but the put the clear rather than frosted top panel in the wrong bathroom (not that it matters much) but I was too embarrassed to create an awkward situation as it was clearly too late when I spotted it!! Confused

The80sweregreat · 28/09/2017 18:26

( in the past ) yeah, hairs fine thanks..
Came home, washed it and cried..
Found a decent hairdresser last four years though.

woosey35 · 28/09/2017 18:43

I once ordered a Baileys and Coke at a bar. I was young and naive and thought "yup a spirit and a mixer'! The bar man questioned me and asked if I was sure.. "Baileys and Coke??" I confirmed that was absolutely the drink I wanted....

Until he handed it to me and the Baileys had curdled and separated from the Coke!! I paid for ur and slipped away from the bar quietly. I even pretended to sip a bit out of the straw as he gave me my change!!Blush

houghtonk76 · 28/09/2017 18:51

Sat through half of Labyrinth in cinema wiv my sister instead of Short Circuit b4 we realised / got up courage to leave - we were prob round 8-10 years old.

#totallyshowingmyagehere
#doesanyoneelserememberthesefilmsormoneypitwithtomhanks?

sonsmum · 28/09/2017 18:58

when i was on a field trip with school (30+yrs ago) 'up north' we had an afternoon to research 'living in village'. We (6 of us) knocked on a door and were greeted by a nice lady who invited us all into her house to talk to us. I couldn't believe she'd let a bunch of strangers in!!!
She made us all a coffee. I hated coffee but was too polite to say, so had to force this drink down.....there was a milk available in a jug and I kept topping my mug up with milk to dilute the coffee. This worked to dilute the coffee taste, however shortly after leaving the house I was desperate for the loo and we didn't find one for some time!! I can still feel the discomfort. I was literally bursting!

andypandy60 · 28/09/2017 18:58

I went to a Family Planning Clinic in Singapore a good few years ago for condoms, because of the accent I misheard the cost and ended up with a gross (144) I was very young and too embarrassed to say anything.

CaptainHammer · 28/09/2017 19:06

I’ve read through all of these thread and agreed with most of them! Especially the not using drinks machines, I still feel awful that I didn’t get my mum a cup of tea when she was in hospital as the machine was too complicated to use :( (I text my DH to come earlier so he could get one for her instead)

@houghtonk76 Labyrinth, Short Circuit and Money Pit are some of my favourite films!

awaynboilyurheid · 28/09/2017 19:12

OMG itsgood same thing happened to me in M and S thought the cherries were reduced and at the till she said something like the cherries are £12 is that okay? and I feel peoples eyes on me so I said airily Oh yes the children love them!
and seethed all day.

notgivingin789 · 28/09/2017 19:13

Ohmygoodness ! Shock

I am exactly like this ! I didn't know they were people like me ! I thought I was the only one...: didn't know it was a shyness trait.

I was sitting down on the bus, on my way home, I stood up to stretch my legs but a woman mistakenly thought my seat was vacant and sat down on it. I looked at her and she noticed me and said "oooh.... was you sitting down here ?"... I replied "Nah, I'm getting off the next stop". I then proceeded to get off the next stop ( even though my stop is 6 bus stops away ! But I didn't want to look like a fool so walked all the way home).

BoredOnMatLeave · 28/09/2017 19:15

When I was 17 in Ibiza I ordered a pitcher of woowoo and they gave me a pitcher of wine. Bad enough but it cost like €80 which was my whole budget per night. Obviously I just paid and took my wine.

Also my first dentist appointment I went without my mum and he asked about my pets, I said I have a snake. He said how big, I said 4m (I meant 4ft), he went on about how massive that was for the rest of the appointment and I just couldn't tell him I made a mistake and meant foot.

Dominithecat · 28/09/2017 19:17

Oh I so need to open a mega expensive cherry shop,
Aside from that, I stuck a job for 5 months, I hated it even at the interview stage. I knew I wouldn't like it but was offered and kind of bullied into taking it. Because the agency would make money. Sigh never again.
Even to this day I get called the wrong name. It's not a usual name but it is easy to say. But I get a different version despite me telling these people several times now, so I just nod these days and smile. Think like Dani, they call me danieta
I too get a fake text when going the wrong direction, I look at the "text" sigh loudly mutter 'kids' and about turn.
I have bought stuff I really didn't want just to save face, I got conned into a reading, the spiritual kind, once, cost £20 I didn't have and I don't believe in that crap.
Thank god for age, you realise everyone is caught up in Their own stuff and really doesn't care.

MetallicBeige · 28/09/2017 19:19

Our school used to provide a bus to those of us who lived in the next town. They were those big 80s/90s coaches. My stop was one of the last on the route. For some reason on this particular day, everybody else had got off the bus before it got to my stop.
I was tiny back then, 11 years old and very timid. The driver obviously didn't spot me and carried on past my stop and I assume was heading to the depot. I was mortified, I eventually made myself stand up and get his attention. His face Grin
He was so so lovely and apologetic and turned the coach around and dropped me at my front door.

Years ago, my husband, his brother, and I all worked in the same organisation - different departments.
I was waiting in the corridor waiting to go into a meeting when bil's manager approached me and started chatting, saying "oh you're bil's wife aren't you?" I just sat there and grinned. I don't know why!! To add to the torture he stayed and chatted for a while, he then asked me had I seen bil as he was around the department etc etc. I prayed he wouldn't come around the corner.

Bil has never mentioned it, I've never mentioned it, my husband likes to remind me of it. 😂😂

MrsPinkCock · 28/09/2017 19:20

18 years ago I dated someone for 4 months without knowing his surname.

I think he presumed I knew and after a couple of weeks it seemed rude to ask Grin

Moedervantwee · 28/09/2017 19:20

Whilst on holiday in the Netherlands last year, my friend wanted to look around a mining museum, we paid our entrance fee and then found out it was a guided tour , all in Dutch. We looked attentively at the guide, chortled when everyone else did and tried to sneak off after about an hour, only to be yanked back and put in front of a DVD where we watched two films, all in Dutch. I think a few of the Germans in the party guessed our secret, but didn't let on

juggler4 · 28/09/2017 19:34

I can't have a cleaner even though my house desperately needs one, because the whole 'employing someone else to scrub my toilets' is just the most excruciatingly awful concept. I did have one for a while but we used to dash around the house cleaning like lunatics before she came, so she didn't see how messy we were. The whole thing was just too stressful.