Because of my shyness I came out of a chip shop with a portion of fish...

[MysticTed]

Instead of a cone of chips.

Which is what I asked for but was too embarrassed to correct the woman serving me.

So I ended up eating a massive battered cod on its own for lunch.

Can you please share any silly scenarios you've been in because if your lack of assertiveness to make me feel I'm not alone!

[SusanTheGentle]

People. My goodness. Please tell me you've all since been on assertiveness courses!

I of course am perfect and have never, for example, once paid a massive bill that should have never been mine and never claimed it back in expenses because I was too young and shy and new to kick up a fuss.

[MelvinThePenguin]

I went to the dentist this week and she took some x-rays and then made a mould of my teeth.

During both x-rays and the moulding, her implements were pressing into my gums so hard it was bringing tears to my eyes and I wanted to scream. I said nothing.

[StigmaStyle]

You know when you want something in a shop and they don't have it, but they helpfully direct you to somewhere else that might have it?

If I don't have time to, or don't want to, go where they've told me, I still go out of the shop and head off in the direction they've sent me. Then have to turn around and sneak back past the shop hoping they don't see me.

It's so stupid but I'm scared if I don't go where they sent me they might follow me out try to correct me and it will be too embarrassing.

I have also bought things I don't want because I haven't dared say "nooo I've changed my mind!"

I'm a professional in my 40s, feminist and supposedly assertive but I'm scared of shopkeepers!

[ThisIsNotARealAvo]

Once I asked for 2 kilos of tomatoes in this fruit and veg shop I used to go to in Battersea. I meant two pounds and he was asking me if I was sure but I was too embarrassed to say I had got it wrong. I just muttered something about some tomato chutney and never went back.

[HeyRoly]

I once accompanied a friend to give blood. I unthinkingly took a number from someone at the door, despite having no intention of giving blood myself.

I was only 18 and couldn't bear handing the number back and looking like an unfeeling arsehole, too mean to donate blood. So I ended up going through the whole process and ended up fainting dramatically before I'd taken a bite of the biscuit they gave me.

My friend was deemed ineligible and got out of it

[DarkDarkNight]

I feel like I've found my people.

When I was doing my A-levels I had to go to an evening class and got on a bus on the wrong side of the road. Despite knowing I was going in the wrong direction I didn't just get off at the next stop because somebody I knew was in the bus. I could still have made the class on time but instead I took the bus all the way to the next town because I didn't want to look like a tool.

[ProseccoMamam]

Paid for a gym membership without going to the gym for 11 months because the 1st month that I did actually go I tripped on the treadmill and couldn't face going back.

Dropped £10 in a busy street and left it in case anyone stared at me while I was picking it up and though it wasn't actually mine.

Hid from the window cleaner because I didn't have the exact change to give him and I didn't want to inconvenience him by having to wait for him to dig out £2 change for me (looking back I inconvenienced him more because he had to wait 6 weeks to be paid double and spent a good 3 minutes knocking on my front door for the street to watch)

Crashed my trolley (hardly grazed them at all, they had a flowey skirt on) into someone else in the supermarket and then sat in the asdas toilets crying at how terrible of a person I was-I didn't do my shop and rarely go to that Asda now

I have extreme anxiety, if you couldn't already tell

[DarkDarkNight]

In fact I am so self conscious on public transport I struggle to get off at stops that are actually convenient for me if it means walking down the aisle while the bus is moving. I get off at busy stops instead in case I fall.

[FairNotFair]

Drank a large cup of (strong, black) coffee because I was handed it in an already awkward social situation and didn't like to say no. I hate coffee, it gives me a headache and then makes me sick.

[2ManyDicksOnTheDancefloor]

I once bought a large piece or Parma ham from Lidl thinking it was going to be £8.99, bargain I thought! When I paid for my shopping it came to over £40, i’d only bought the ham and one other thing. Turns out it was £8.99 per kilo. I was too embarrassed to admit my mistake so took £40s worth of ham home and had to admit what I’d done to DH. He was not impressed, he doesn’t even like Parma ham!

[sunshinestorm]

Who else has gone into the shop for a pregnancy test or a packet of condoms and, despite not needing anything else, filled the basket with a load of random things to buy to try and detract the attention away.

[user1492958275]

Someone stopped to have a good moan (and a bit of a shout) about how my son pushed hers over during break time recently and was saying it's not the first time etc etc.

I was so shocked at my sons behaviour I didn't even know how to comment, it was completely out of character. I was trying to ask her questions but I kept being interrupted by her and was aware that it was drawing a bit of a crowd and a fair few people were watching/listening in.

I kind of stood opened mouth and THEN she used the name 'Logan' (that's not my sons name) and stupid me, I ended up just apologising and walking away even though at least HALF of the people standing there must of known that wasn't my sons name.

Stupidly, I felt more relief that my son wasn't the bully!

I've been forcing myself to go to school at the normal time for days. Just to try put on a non embarrassed face. But I haven't seen her there since so who knows !!

Maybe she will turn up on this thread....I'll forgive you...if you forgive me, angry lady.

[Hassled]

Bastard Logan :o

[1Potato2]

Thanks for these guys. I have Avoidant Personalty Disorder. I once pretended I hadn't seen my then boyfriend (now Dh!) whilst passing him in a busy street. Fear of confrontation/ drawing attention to myself perhaps?

[pigletpie29]

I asked for a peppermint tea at the work cafe today but got just a normal tea instead (with no milk.) I just drank it until my friend noticed and asked why I was drinking black tea when I'd ordered peppermint - I was hoping she wouldn't notice...but the guy behind the counter was new and I didn't want to hurt his feelings!

[moutonfou]

I was called the wrong name (and everybody in the room knew it) by a uni tutor for a whole term because I was too shy to correct her on day one.

It wasn't even a slight error (e.g. Kelly rather than Kerry). It was a completely different name.

[Yerroblemom1923]

Oh yes, like the embarrassing item was an "afterthought" while you were grocery shopping..."now let me see...we need leeks, ham, bread, milk.....oh and while I'm here I might just grab a pregnancy test as well!" Yup, been there.

[NormHonal]

Oh, here you all are!

Yep, have done about 90% of these.

[AliceLutherNeeMorgan]

In my old job my boss spelled my name wrong on all the HR forms. It meant my email and phone ID that flashes up both were spelled wrong. I didn't dare say anything so lived with being mis-spelt. But by the time I left, lots of colleagues I still worked with in my next job carried on spelling me wrongly, and by then I couldn't say anything.

I had to actually get married, to rectify that...

[NormHonal]

Realising in my early-40s that everyone is wrapped up in their own dramas and that no one gives a shit has been SO liberating.

[dolphinbbq]

I walk through boots on my way to work, one morning the security guard caught my eyes and I felt compelled to buy something as I thought since I was empty handed he would think I was a thief.

I walked out of boots with a meal deal for lunch.. I had brought my lunch with me that day. Waste of £4.

[CakeNinja]

Spent £400 on a bloody beautiful cape when I was pissed shopping in ted baker and the man chose it for me and said it suited me
Pathetic 😂😂
Ridiculously, I had picked up some coats and saw the price and thought, "hmm, I'm not spending £270 on a coat that isn't even waterproof and doesn't have a hood!" Didn't even look at the bloody price of the cape as just presumed it would be less than the coats what with it literally being a bit of material with arm holes cut out! Still no hood and a mix of cashmere and lambs wool so completely impractical but so so beautiful. I have no regrets!

[dolphinbbq]

@Smeaton Daily. 😂

[CakeNinja]

Smeaton regularly
Usually whip out my phone and have a pretend conversation with someone who needs me back the other way
What a loser!