To feel slightly put out by DH's lovely surprise?

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Ok, firstly I want to clarify I did not look for my present on purpose!

Basically DH and I agreed that we would only do tiny token presents this year so that we can have a mega holiday later on. We agreed a set limit, which I found a huge struggle as I bloody love giving presents and spoiling people, and have spent the past few months trying frantically to pick up lovely, thoughtful little bits and pieces within the £20 limit.

Was feeling quite pleased with myself until.... Was packing to leave for family for Christmas and noticed his smart work coat which he won't need was a bit grubby so thought I'd leave it with the dry cleaners so it's fresh for next year, and found a mega expensive piece of beautiful jewellery hidden in the pocket.

DSis has helpfully pointed out that this happens in Love Actually and it turns out the husband has bought the gift for his mistress....

Pretty sure it is for me, thanks, Dsis, and it's lovely, but soooo not what we agreed.

We have got to leave in the next 20 mins to drive to remote Scotland for massive family Christmas so no time to get him anything else to even the balance. Which means that when we open presents in Christmas morning, in front of about 30 people, I will get Tiffany diamond earrings, and he will get socks and a robot bath bomb. AIBU to feel absolutely mortified, a bit cross, and completely love my darling DH for the beautiful surprise, but also a bit want to kill him?!

Should I just buy £500 worth of petrol station tat at at the services on the way there?! Pretend I forgot his main present at home and lie about what it is?!

HELP!!

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haha no thank you for telling the terry and june story.

I wouldn't worry about everyone else noticing his lavish gift vs your cheaper robot soap gift - with 28 other people opening presents I would imagine the room would be too busy to notice what others are giving / receiving.

Hoping they are for you and you get your lovely 'surprise' tomorrow op.

If you didn't open the box then you can't be sure there actually is jewellery in there.

My Dh has form for misdirection when it comes to giving gifts. He once wrapped a necklace in a shoe box then a towel so it looked like a large gift under the tree. Although it would be pretty mean to give someone a tiffany box without any actual jewellery inside

I totally understand what you mean.

It was my birthday recently and despite agreeing we wouldn't get each other expensive birthday/Christmas presets DH got me a beautiful Tiffany bracelet.

I absolutely love the bracelet but feel awful that I didn't get him anything!

Maybe you could book some theatre/concert tickets or something?

So you still don't know what's in the box?

You may be in luck, still could be £20

Don't do yourself down OP. You kept to the agreement, he didn't.

Ooh yeah, I hope it isn't something for sil to match her lovely earrings!

That's ok greenwood....I watched it too..... (Although it wasn't as good as George and Mildred)

I hope it's a tiffanys box with £20 inside instead of jewelerry

I really hope this has the happy ending I'm expecting.
That Love Actually scene is ringing in my ears. STOP!!!

Whatever it is you should accept it graciously and don't go changing your present because of what you anticipated.

And who gives a fuck what other people think.

You spent months looking for a thoughtful present and bought him socks?

I'd be pretty pissed off unless you can afford for him to go way over budget like this- and it doesn't sound like you can.

If it is Tiffany diamond earrings then £500 wouldn't have bought one of them, let alone the pair. Anything they have that properly looks like diamond earrings (as opposed to more costume styles) starts at about £2,000.

I am exactly the same getting out the door. I have a wash bag permanently packed. No scrambling about at the eleventh hour with a still damp toothbrush from our morning tooth cleans and trying to squash in shampoo bottles.

You really shouldn't worry what other people think unless there is some massive back story and his family think your a gold digger or something like that.

I'm slightly confused as to how you know it's a beautiful piece of jewellery if you didn't open the box?

I'd suggest opening presents just the two of you. Dh and I always do that if we're away for Christmas anyway.

Sorry typo £1,000

Looking frantically, imperial.

Just smile and accept graciously. He in violist loves you very much and wanted to spoil you for that reason. NOT so that you can reciprocate. Enjoy it. You. are a very lucky lady.

Why would you automatically assume that he's bought you identical earrings to your sister or whoever (not having undone the bow or looked inside) and then left them in the pocket of a coat you were going to take to dry cleaners the day before Christmas Eve but which is now such an integral part of his wardrobe that he's now taking it with him?

Maybe he's looking after them for a colleague.

I wouldn't get him anything. He obviously wanted to buy this for you and just be pleased. I want a mega expensive piece of jewellery but I won't be getting one despite mega hints.

He's going to get the shag of his life. 😈

DH snd u aren't doing presents this year. Although I have got three small things

So it may just be a case of breaking the rules! like the time we weren't doing presents and dh bought me an iPad!