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To feel slightly put out by DH's lovely surprise?

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GinIsABreakfastFood · 24/12/2015 07:41

Ok, firstly I want to clarify I did not look for my present on purpose! Xmas Blush

Basically DH and I agreed that we would only do tiny token presents this year so that we can have a mega holiday later on. We agreed a set limit, which I found a huge struggle as I bloody love giving presents and spoiling people, and have spent the past few months trying frantically to pick up lovely, thoughtful little bits and pieces within the £20 limit.

Was feeling quite pleased with myself until.... Was packing to leave for family for Christmas and noticed his smart work coat which he won't need was a bit grubby so thought I'd leave it with the dry cleaners so it's fresh for next year, and found a mega expensive piece of beautiful jewellery hidden in the pocket.

DSis has helpfully pointed out that this happens in Love Actually and it turns out the husband has bought the gift for his mistress.... Hmm

Pretty sure it is for me, thanks, Dsis, and it's lovely, but soooo not what we agreed.

We have got to leave in the next 20 mins to drive to remote Scotland for massive family Christmas so no time to get him anything else to even the balance. Which means that when we open presents in Christmas morning, in front of about 30 people, I will get Tiffany diamond earrings, and he will get socks and a robot bath bomb. AIBU to feel absolutely mortified, a bit cross, and completely love my darling DH for the beautiful surprise, but also a bit want to kill him?!

Should I just buy £500 worth of petrol station tat at at the services on the way there?! Pretend I forgot his main present at home and lie about what it is?!

HELP!!

OP posts:
guinnessgirl · 24/12/2015 20:13

Aaaah, I think it's lovely and wouldn't feel even slightly guilty. He obviously wants to surprise you and make a fuss of you without you feeling you need to reciprocate. Enjoy it!

BarbaraofSeville · 24/12/2015 20:44

I've been educated. I never knew that Tiffany earrings cost so much.

That would explain the reason why a colleague was so massively devastated and spent all evening flapping about it when she lost one of hers fuck knows why she was wearing them in a normal working away in the week situation.

LapsedPacifist · 24/12/2015 20:55

Totally agree with the restaurant reservation / tickets for theatre/ gig/ comedy club etc yutpr suggestions. Just give him an extra card with a hand written note re. whatever you manage to organise online in the next 24 hours! Grin

lanadelreya · 24/12/2015 20:58

have spent the past few months trying frantically to pick up lovely, thoughtful little bits and pieces within the £20 limit

it took you months to come up with a pair of socks and a bath bomb erm..... Confused

JoMalones · 24/12/2015 21:01

Shamelessly place marking.... OP what time do you open presents?!

steff13 · 24/12/2015 21:07

On a Love Actually note - look away now if you haven't seen it - Emma Freud recently tweeted all the way through a showing and revealed that Rowan Atkinson was supposed to be an angel and that's why he took so long with the wrapping of the jewellery - he was trying to stop Alan Rickman from buying it for his slapper colleague.

That's interesting, didn't Rowan Atkinson also make it possible for the little boy (Sam?) to sneak through customs at the airport to see Joanna before she got on the plane? He was doing good deeds all over the place.

MumOfGorgeousness · 24/12/2015 21:10

Be happy and grateful that he wants to spoil you even if he broke the rules of your gift exchanging, and don't feel bad. I don't understand the need to spend lots because someone else spent lots, he must love you and want to spoil you. In which case, he'll be more than happy with the gifts you've so carefully selected for him.

theredlion · 24/12/2015 21:15

On the subject of Love Actually sorry OP it's come out recently that Liam Neeson's character was possibly in love with Emma Thompson's character all along too.

I hope we meet again Karen

GlitteryFluff · 24/12/2015 21:19

place marking

Hope they're for you OP! Just accept graciously.

lalamumto3 · 24/12/2015 21:37

Place marking too

MistressoftheYoniverse · 24/12/2015 21:47

Place marking three! Grin

BloodyDogHairs · 24/12/2015 21:51

Place marking four Xmas Grin

MumOfTheMoment · 24/12/2015 21:58
magimedi · 24/12/2015 22:01

PM 5

MiniLop · 24/12/2015 22:02

Place marking 6! Ooh how exciting OP! Grin

FantasticRik · 24/12/2015 22:16

Just wanted to say that I miss Terry and June, and I am absolutely not placemarking. Honest.

TheBestChocolateIsFree · 24/12/2015 22:25

New York! When? Wrap up super warm if it's before April, and pack comfy shoes for walking miles.

(Stealth place mark. Hoping that DH has bought a sweet but not wildly budget busting silver pendant or keyring)

FreakinScaryCaaw · 24/12/2015 22:31

Oo NY will be lovely.

Salene · 24/12/2015 22:32

OP what time do you get up and do presents..?? Just trying to plan my day, will I have time to check for update or have to do sons presents first 😜👍🏻

BifsWif · 24/12/2015 22:34

I'm jealous. And place marking.

Agadooo · 24/12/2015 22:37

PM too 😯

Passthevodkaagain · 24/12/2015 22:48

PM Blush

ErnesttheBavarian · 24/12/2015 22:52

Fingers crossed for you. I absolutely would not buy him anything else though. For many reasons.

Dumbledumb · 24/12/2015 22:57

I second the comfy shoes! Been to NY a few times for work and holidays and haven't got bored yet but you will cover a lot of ground!

FYI there is a Tiffany's there if you decide you want something to go with your earrings! ;)

DiscoDancer · 24/12/2015 23:14

Place marking! Hope you love it whatever it is OP and if you agreed on a £20 budget then I wouldn't bother with anything else.