Best Mantras To Keep You Hanging On When Things Are Shit

[PacificDogwood]

I am supporting a RL friend through some shitty times - no real end in sight

She said the exact same thing I recently saw posted by a battle-experienced, wise MNer :
"Keep putting one foot in front of the other, and keep breathing in and out."

Pace yourself.
Be kind to yourself and look after yourself.
This too shall pass I may have used that one rather a lot in my own head
Que sera, sera.
Let it go.
You cannot change somebody else's behaviour; you can only change your response to it.

I am sure there are many more.

They are all quite trite truisms, but not any less true for all that.

Please add your own - anything at all that kept you hanging on when times were tough and no light at the end of the tunnel was forthcoming.

And I do hope you did come out the other side and don't need your own mantras anymore.

'Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life' from Psalm 23.

My son has had a lot to deal with lately, and the Invictus line about being 'master of my fate' and 'captain of my soul' has helped a lot.

Also, the idea that he hasn't got to hold on to or make sense of every emotion he's felt. He can simply feel some of those big emotions and worries, acknowledge them, and let them pass by. The important ones that stick around are the ones that need attention.

Caring about what people think of you is pointless. Most people don't even know what they think of themselves.

When writing the story of your life, don't let anyone else hold the pen.

Failure is a bruise, not a tattoo.

Get up, dress up, show up but never give up.

Never hope for it more than you work for it.

Whatever your past you have a spotless future.

Im sorry I cantthin of anything to contribute that hasnt already been said. I hope your friends finds her end in sight soon.

Thanks to all those who have - Im quite aware I can often be glass is half full - always in rush to the next thing (even by the hour) So I have found many of these to help me stay positive (to enjoy life a bit more) keep things in perspective (stops me worrying) and draw strength from when needed.

Some of them I found on MN originally. What a lovely thread.

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I'm sorry I can't think of anything to contribute that hasn't already been said. I hope your friend see the end in sight soon - whatever that maybe (from OP only)

Thanks to all those who have contributed - I'm quite aware that I am often glass is half full - always in rush to the next thing (even by the hour). So I have found many of these help me stay positive (to enjoy life a bit more) keep things in perspective (stops me worrying) and draw strength from when needed.

Some of them I found on MN originally. What a lovely thread.

Feel the fear and do it anyway. Maybe not the best in her circumstances but when something scares me I find it helps.

I find a good loud singalong to Gloria Gaynor 'I Am What I Am' to be wonderful therapy.

Lyrics:

"I Am What I Am"

I am what I am
I am my own special creation
So come take a look
Give me the hook or the ovation

It's my world that I want to have a little pride in
My world and it's not a place I have to hide in
Life's not worth a dam
Till you can say, hey world, I am what I am

I am what I am
I don't want praise, I don't want pity
I bang my own drum
Some think it's noise, I think it's pretty

And so what if I love each feather and each bangle
Why not try to see things from a different angle
Your life is a sham
Till you can shout out loud, I am what I am

I am what I am
And what I am needs no excuses
I deal my own deck
Sometimes the ace, sometimes the deuces

There's one life and there's no return and no deposit
One life so it's time to open up your closet
Life's not worth a dam
Till you can say, hey world, I am what I am

I'm a terrible worrier, and have wasted many hours and many tears worrying about stuff that hasn't come to pass.

My ever wise DH always says "Don't worry about stuff that hasn't happened yet. Worry about that when it happens, and it might never happen, so don't waste your time!"

He's so right.

Another one from him is that you can't change what anyone else thinks or does, you can only change yourself and how you deal with it. That has helped me a lot.

I saw a post card saying something like this (but better) a while ago...

Worrying is useless: if it can be changed, then do something about it. If it can't be changed, why worry?

I'm very ill right now and realising all my trivial worries and concerns from healthly life were just that - trivial. Can't wait to get well so I can embrace my lovely life, fab job and caring, kind DH with open arms!

I like the quotes on how to handle life like a dog. Like these ones:

Never stop enjoying life. Dogs always look for the good in the new day; they wake up with a wagging tail and an eagerness to greet the day's events. So can you.

Another one I've just found is this:

How to Handle Stress like a Dog:
If you can't eat it, or play with it - then pee on it and walk away.

I haven't read the thread so this may have been said already.

My mantra when things are tough is very simple, and comes from Finding Nemo.

It is : "Just keep swimming…"

My DS showed me something like your one Peonies (on his tablet the other day) - he probably knows I've been worrying about stuff that can't be changed - a family bereavement

It was in the form of a flow chart with "Are you worrying about something that can be changed? .... Don't worry

Are you worrying about something that can't be changed? ... Don't worry

He is fab! When I'm counting my blessings he's high on the list
Just turned 13 BTW

"When you're going through hell, keep going."

Self Portrait - by David Whyte

It doesn’t interest me if there is one God
or many gods.

I want to know if you belong or feel abandoned.

If you know despair or can see it in others.

I want to know
if you are prepared to live in the world

with its harsh need
to change you.

If you can look back
with firm eyes

saying this is where I stand.

I want to know
if you know
how to melt into that fierce heat of living

falling toward
the center of your longing.

I want to know
if you are willing
to live, day by day, with the consequence of love

and the bitter
unwanted passion of your sure defeat.

I have been told, in that fierce embrace, even
the gods speak of God.

© David Whyte, from Fire In the Earth 1992

"When writing the story of your life don't let anyone else hold the pen"

That's a good and interesting one blueemerald

If you are going through hell keep on going.

"Fear not the future, weep not for the past."
Shelley

"Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment."
Buddha

or
more succinctly
Here and now.
a thing I often need to remind myself of. May have been said already though.

Peonies

My Mums favourite saying -
'Nothing lasts forever'
It's very simple,but I do find myself thinking if it when things are shit!

"I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much." Attributed to Mother Theresa but disputed.

"One day this will make a great story"

"Sometimes the learning curve is a touch on the steep side"

That is a good one chicken - I also think that when times are good to remind myself that I need to enjoy myself as you never know when it'll change.

My sister swears by screaming I AM A DIVA as loud as possible. She made me do it in the middle of town on a night out when I was a little drunk and feeling sorry for myself. I ended up collapsing into hysterical giggles so it did work

Be proud of your scars.
They are a reminder that you were stronger thsn whatever life threw at you.

(I think Marilyn Monroe said that)

Be proud of your scars

That's a good one - shame MM was not able to take enough comfort from any of these...

If it was her who said it.

she had a gallbladder op and there's an iconic photo of her showing off the scar.
I'm pretty sure she said it. or re-quoted it.
will google.

great line whoever said it