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To ask for your best examples of brass-neckedness to entertain us all on this dull day?

645 replies

Salmotrutta · 12/08/2014 11:15

I've got one from decades ago.

My older brother was about 18 and going out with a girl of about 16.

It was pretty short lived as she seemed to be a bit spoiled etc. and they were only teens after all.

My brother was the one who ended it but girl seemed to think Mum was behind it.

Mum wasn't but she had asked to girl to help bring in washing during the rain when she stayed over at our house one weekend as mum was in the middle of something when rain started.

This was apparently a criminal act to ask someone for a bit of help so girlfriend moaned to brother (who I think had got rather exasperated by her anyway by this point) and he ended it.

Apparently this did not go down well.

Next thing, her little sister phoned my Mum and castigated her for being the cause of all this! Little sister would have been about 14 and mum would have been about 45!

That didn't go down well either.

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Roussette · 12/08/2014 19:22

Robin Ye Gods did they?! I didn't! but this might come down to my experience of being taken advantage of in very similar circumstances

Nancy66 · 12/08/2014 19:22

Several years ago a couple moved onto our street and bought a very run down house.

They posted flyers through everyone's door suggesting it would be a 'fun community project' if we all pitched up to theirs one weekend and helped them paint, wallpaper, strip floors and generally tart their house up for them in return for absolutely fuck all.

I don't think they got many takers

insancerre · 12/08/2014 19:22

Today at work I had a phone call from a parent who had had their child's place suspended because they hadn't osidcthw nursery fees
Despite having a payment plan which hasn't been followed.
We are talking hundreds of pounds hers
She balled me out because its not fair to her child that she can't come to nursery.
No its not fair. So pay your bloody nursery fees then
Or shall I just not pay my staff this month?
Some people !

oldgrandmama · 12/08/2014 19:23

My best friend was in the habit of asking me to look after her four year old son - he was the same age as my DS. The kid was a bit of a brat -whiney, spiteful and my kid didn't like him, but hell, I'm a good friend so I oblige.

Often she'd leave him with me for the day, because she wanted to go 'Up West' for clothes shopping.

Eventually the shit hit the fan when I found out that far from 'shopping', she was spending those days rolling round in a motel room with someone. My husband.

Voodoobooboo · 12/08/2014 19:24

I have one from my lovely ex boss. She discovered her DP had an OW and all turned into a big drama. They had been together for years and had weathered some tough stuff and everyone thought they were made for each other. Anyway it descended into a pretty acrimonious situation but she was brilliant and held it together well. Until the day, a few weeks after he had moved to the USA with OW and she opened her credit card statement.......... And discovered 2 business class flights for him and OW, including additional luggage on her credit card!
I never did find out his justification for this, but I heard some very choice views from her on the subject!

flippinada · 12/08/2014 19:25

I still can't think of any - some of these are absolute shockers. The one about the dog is particularly awful - I hope the "friend" got his comeuppance.

spanieleyes · 12/08/2014 19:25

My aunt and uncle , who ran a small B&B, once invited my grandparents ( his parents) to stay in the house part for a few days. They had a lovely time and Aunt asked if they wanted to stay on for a few more days-to spend some time with their grandson who had just broken up from school. They did so but were quite surprised at the end of the week to be given the bill!

Roussette · 12/08/2014 19:29

OMG oldgrandmama that is truly dreadful. The betrayal from both Shock

pigglepaggle · 12/08/2014 19:29

MamaLazarou I used to work as a childminder and the amount of times friends would ask if I'd collect their kids from school or help out during holidays and be funny with me when I said no.

I could only have a set number of mindees and yes I charged for them it was my job.

LizLimone · 12/08/2014 19:41

As part of the mothers group I'm in we organize regular social nights out, usually just the 'moms' together so there's no need to arrange a babysitter. Someone volunteers to coordinate the nights out, usually booking a restaurant or wine tasting etc.

A new member joined the group, volunteered to set up the nights out for the year - great, really nice of her we thought...

Her first night out? Well, it was a moms night IN at her house, a good half hour drive for many of us and she pitched it as a moms and dad's night out saying 'hubbies' should join too. This obviously was done so her DH could socialize at home too without feeling awkward.

The icing on the cake was when she decided her good friend was going to cater the evening with 'yummy apps' - at a cost of $20 each Hmm

... So we're supposed to hire babysitters to come and socialize at your house and then PAY your friend for any hospitality offered??? Er, how 'bout no?

Couldn't believe the brass neck of her, especially not even knowing most of us that well! Amazingly about 6 people in the group and their DHs showed up and happily forked over $$ for the privilege... so I guess it pays to be cheeky...

TruJay · 12/08/2014 19:43

oldgrandmama oh my god, that is dispicable, I hope u punched the pair of them! There are actually no words for that.....

VFXdad · 12/08/2014 19:45

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whois · 12/08/2014 19:46

Wow there are some seriously funny/awful stories here!

Can't believe the cheek of some people.

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Salmotrutta · 12/08/2014 19:52

You should have killed her for just saying "hubbies" LizLimone.

That, right there, is bad enough.

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Smilesandpiles · 12/08/2014 19:53

I know someone who royally took the piss with their childminder.

I used to do the school run with her so used to get all the gossip. Grin

Everything from not even bothering to get the kids ready for school/nursery before dropping them off unwashed and unfed with dirty uniform (if any at all), being up to 5 hours late to pick them up, goats in the road being one excuse...goats, in the middle of Manchester city centre...yep...expected childminder to feed, entertain and look after kids with 10 minutes notice. Would drop kids off 2 hours early on a regular basis...nearly always 2 months late with payment..the list goes on. She did this with "friends" and the parents of the kids friends too..needless to say there were a lot of relieved people when they finally moved. Childminder ended up refusing to take the kids, reported her to social services and tried to take her to court (payment made by exh a couple of days the letter was sent).

This is the same woman who used to do the "Run for Life". Twice a year, not even doing it when the race is actually happening...not only did she collect money from it, she used it for a holiday to Mexico. Her own mother even reported her to the police for this and she STILL doesn't understand what she did wrong..when questioned if this rumour was true by the childminder, she not only just admitted it, but bloody BRAGGED about it and what a fuss everyone was making...

This woman not only has a brass neck but no morals to go with it...and this is the tip of the iceburg apparentely...I don't want to know anything else about her.

Smilesandpiles · 12/08/2014 19:57

Oh and when I say drop the kids off early, I mean she would pull up in her car, kick the kids out and drive off. Not even seeing them to the door. I wouldn't have believed it if I and other neighbours hadn't seen it for ourselves.

Smilesandpiles · 12/08/2014 19:57

Kids were about 3 and 6 at the time too.

Smilesandpiles · 12/08/2014 19:59

Reading it back it all sounds so far fetched..honestly, it isn't. I swear, it's the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

AgesOfAquarius · 12/08/2014 20:03

When my oldest child was at nursery I went to collect her and found that she was seriously ill, they should have called an ambulance for her. I rushed her to hospital myself and they sorted her out. She never went back to that nursery. I later got a letter threatening legal action because I hadn't paid the fees in lieu of notice.

pippibuzzmarten · 12/08/2014 20:05

On an overnight bus in India, everyone getting on in dribs and drabs at the first stop- ticketing system was admittedly a bit confused - tickets were numbered but bunks weren't, and some people had been expecting they would be, others had tried counting bunks and taking the one they thought was right. But the end result was that there were enough bunks for everybody and everybody on the bus was okay with this, just went with the flow and got ready for the journey. Except one girl who went ABSOLUTELY SCREAMING MAD with anyone and everyone, demanding demanding demanding that she had a particular bunk. Furious entitled squawking at the driver, the bus conductors, other passengers, storming up and down the bus, with outbursts which were rapidly heading into racist territory. It was dreadful to watch, embarrassing and horrible. Several of us told her to get over herself and many of us apologised on her behalf to the driver etc. Never seen anything like the cheek of it.

Polyethyl · 12/08/2014 20:09

We have a holiday cottage which we rent out, it has a Saturday change over, the cleaner has between 10am and 3pm to prepare the cottage for the next guests, which is a pretty standard set up for holiday lets. We have had to stop ever lending our cottage to friends in need of a holiday because again and again our hospitality was abused. Friends refusing to leave on time. Or leaving our cottage full of filth and rubbish and dirty nappies. Or letting their dogs lunge aggressively at the cleaner. Or whinging when we didn't let them dictate the dates of their free holiday but required them to fit in with the Saturday to Saturday timetable, instead of say Thursday till Tuesday (which would mean two weeks out of the letting calendar.)

The latest is my holiday in two weeks time. I've invited an old friend to accompany me, with whom I have often holidayed in the past. She now lives in the USA so I only see her once a year. She sent me an email saying "Tamara and I will drive to you" to which I replied "who is Tamara?" My friend has invited her 15 year old American adoptive step sister to my holiday, in my cottage with out asking me first. I'm gobsmacked at the brass neck. I 'll go along with it with gritted teeth as it is too late to do anything now as the girl has flown over, but I think less of my friend for the imposition. (With any luck the teenager might be charming - who knows!)

cleanasawhistle · 12/08/2014 20:17

There was a boy who spent a lot of time at my house.
He was my DS best friend so he was company for him.
He was fed ,watered and taked out on a regular basis.
My son never set foot in his friends house.After about 3 years of this the mother offered to take my son out.When she came to pick him up she asked for the £5 entrance fee,
I gave it because my son would have been disappointed but I wasn't so accomadating after that.

Leela5 · 12/08/2014 20:19

I got a Facebook message once from someone who wanted all her friends to help her, as she was struggling paying for the care of her six horses. She really didn't want to lose her horses and so had set up a fund for them and please could I contribute.

At the time I was working three jobs, whilst paying for my travel by train to uni with various hardship loans as my car had broken down and I couldn't afford the repairs. My mum was about to lose her house and my dad was bankrupt.

But still she wanted to know could I help her pay for her expensive animals that effectively were her hobby.

I love horses, but sadly I had to decline as it was more vital to me that I could buy food and prevent my mum becoming homeless.

CrapBag · 12/08/2014 20:28

I have a few, mainly from the same person. Tame compared to most on here though!

A lent a baby item to a friend of mine, and it was lent. A while later when I knew her DS would have outgrown it I asked for it back. Turns out she's leant it to her cousin, no asking or apology. Several times i have said "oh has your cousin still got x" and I get a casual " oh yeah, I'll have to get that back"

My sister, incredibly self absorbed person. First one I get a call one day saying she has left some work in (sixth form) school and can I take her to get it. I don't live near her or the school but thought I would help out. Took me and hour to go a few miles because of the traffic. Turns out she couldn't be bothered to get the bus.

Another time she was at her friends when she phoned our grandad asking if he could pick her up and take her to work as she was going to be late. Turned out she didn't bother to leave early enough, phoned our dad who usually jumps when she wants something and he wasn't available so she got our grandad to do it.

Last year I told my DGPs that I would host Christmas this year for them as they have always had me then my family Christmas day. Then I realised my dad always comes too so I said he'll have to come to mine too, so sister (technically she is half sister and lives with her mum but dad always brings her Christmas day) pipes up " and me, I'm coming too" this is the person who doesn't look at my children, speak to them or acknowledge them in any way with a card or small present (despite me always buying for her over the years). I'm not too keen on hosting her tbh! Bumped into her when we were leaving our nans the other day and my children may as well not have even been there. Our nan has been ill and she didn't even have a card for her. Doesn't help that dad buys presents and just sticks her name on. I would never had been allowed to act like that.

CouncilOfLadies · 12/08/2014 20:30

Sat in a pub garden minding my own business when some bloke holds out his hand towards me. He's holding the dog-end of a fag butt.

"Oi love, do me a favour and put this in the ashtray for me."

I looked at him like he'd just asked me to lick dog cack off his shoe and informed him there was a bin right behind him. He actually had the gall to look put out.

Something tells me that if I'd been a bloke he wouldn't have asked me. Cockwomble.