To ask for your best examples of brass-neckedness to entertain us all on this dull day?

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I've got one from decades ago.

My older brother was about 18 and going out with a girl of about 16.

It was pretty short lived as she seemed to be a bit spoiled etc. and they were only teens after all.

My brother was the one who ended it but girl seemed to think Mum was behind it.

Mum wasn't but she had asked to girl to help bring in washing during the rain when she stayed over at our house one weekend as mum was in the middle of something when rain started.

This was apparently a criminal act to ask someone for a bit of help so girlfriend moaned to brother (who I think had got rather exasperated by her anyway by this point) and he ended it.

Apparently this did not go down well.

Next thing, her little sister phoned my Mum and castigated her for being the cause of all this! Little sister would have been about 14 and mum would have been about 45!

That didn't go down well either.

I read a rather minority subject at university, and there was generally only about one of us in the college per year, so we were fairly chummy and shared resources. However, when the first-year told me (then a 4th year) that my essay had been marked as a first, I was VERY unimpressed by the attempted buttering up. Given the expression I gave him then, I was pretty shocked when he asked again for an essay and seemed shocked at my refusal! Lazy so-and-so, he got himself into Cambridge, so why couldn't he continue writing his own essays?!

People can only take the piss when you let them. Well done to all those who tell them to sling their hooks.

Ok, just remembered a really good one.

My mate (who is lovely) lent someone some money, because this other woman had a sob story about being kicked out of her home and struggling. She then lent her car so this woman could move house.

My mate was in an abusive marriage, and really, seriously having a shit time - but she figured friends support each other.

This other woman took her car, got a parking ticket on it ... and then refused to pay the ticket as it wasn't her car. She went silent about the money and pretended to be shocked and aggrieved when it was brought up. My mate was properly skint at this point, and coping with breakdown of her marriage and moving halfway across the world, so it's not as if she could spare the cash.

We only found out when we discovered she'd been approaching loads of us with the same hard-luck story. It'd be lovely to believe that people only take the piss when you let them, and if only you stand up to them it'll be ok, but unfortunately, some people's brass neck knows no bounds. We all confronted the scammer, but she brazened it out. The really sad thing is, she has children and she is exposing them to all of that, which is pretty shit.

I remember that LRD, weren't they both Mumsnetters?

Dunno, but my mate was (and AFAIK is, though not seen her post in a while) on here. The other woman was more likely just a bit of a scammer.

Reminds me of a lot of the trolls we've had on here, though. I can't get my mind around people who do that.

I remember a brass neck MNer.

Around christmas a few years ago, pleaded poverty, gave a very good story, a whip round via paypal was organised...lots of lovely mners contributed, even a food shop was arranged IIRC.

a few months or weeks later was caught on a thread talking about a brand new car she just bought.

I was telling a colleague today about this thread and she told me about when she got married a couple of years ago.

She had arranged for someone to come along and do hair and makeup for her, her sister and her mum. She also offered it to her future MIL who accepted. MIL then proceeded to invite five other female friends to have their hair and makeup done without consulting the bride. Not only that but she told her friends the bride was paying. It was only on the actual day that she told the bride she'd invited these friends which apparently caused all kinds of problems as obviously the hair and makeup people weren't expecting an extra five customers and everything was rushed.

When the bride asked her to contribute, the MIL got very arsey and said bride was getting it done anyway so couldn't see the problem, plus she didn't see why bride's family should look nicer than her friends.

See, I know I'm supposed to find these funny - but a lot of them just actually make me cross.

Anyway: in my final year at uni I shared a flat with a girl who was an utter darling but also - perhaps fey would be the kindest way of describing it. She grew up in the wilds of some moorland place and just didn't really understand, or cope with, modern life. I really didn't understand how incapable she was of coping with things till later...

Also during my final year I met and fell in love with DH. We made plans to get married a few months after graduation. Then I found out my mum was dying and could not fly out to be at our wedding and so DH and I decided to get married where she lived instead. We talked this over with Dear Flatmate and she said she could easily get someone, in fact knew of someone, to take over our room and pay rent etc, ok all sorted. (It was frankly all a bit of a rush once we found out mum was dying.) So went over, got married, very quickly pregnant, and soon also grieving as mum died. Stayed a bit longer to sort out probate etc and help grieving siblings.

Got back to find that DF had stopped being able to cope without me there and had gone back to wild moorland. The person she had got in to share the flat had never paid a penny (contributing to lack of coping). When we arrived to sort out the flat there was a strange crusty asleep on the sofa who opened one eye at SiL (who had come to help clean) and said, "I hope you are not going to disturb me!" After giving very short shrift and sending her off with a flea in her ear we cleaned up - place had been turned into an utter dump; the bath was like a pig feeding trough. Eventually, when it looked nice and tidy, blokey who was supposed to be staying and paying rent turned up. We told him he had to leave - he was most put out. Just had time to have a nice bath and put a massive black ring around the tub again before leaving (without cleaning). I was a couple of thousand into my overdraft and had a CCJ from the water company from unpaid bills (I'd left a DD at the bank as back up should DF not find someone, or Crusty Blokey leave or something - no intimation that he was intending to just stay, fill up flat with crusty mates and never pay a fecking thing.) He said he'd pay up what he owed but never did - I still see his name on social media as we obviously have uni mates in common and I still get The Rage (over the bath as much as anything else, bizarrely - SiL had scrubbed it so beautifully...)

This isn't half as bad as many here, but it still irritates me...

Returning home from a lovely holiday in Ireland, we got a late ferry at the end of August, and of course it was pretty busy. Having arrived quite early, I was pleased to get a bench seat in the film lounge for me and the 2 DC while DH sat a little way off in an armchair (as he didn't want to see the film) that gave him more legroom.

The ferry was packed by the time a young back packing couple arrived, only to discover of course that there was no room anywhere. After a couple of minutes, the young woman very politely asked if she could sit on the end of 'our' bench. I got the DC to move up and the three of us were just about ok.

Until however I stood up to get something out of a bag for DD2, and when I turned back around, the young backpacker was now lying along the bench seat, taking up most of it, with her face turned away from us and her earphones in. The DC were now perched on the edge!

I tried talking to her nicely, and even tapped her arm, but she just totally ignored me. Short of physically pulling her off the seat there was nothing else I could do.

Just remembered another- I'd just had a baby and I'd been given lots of very expensive and delicious chocolates. A friend came over and spotted them. She are quite a few then on leaving, said " have you got a bag, as I'd love to take some home with me, you'll be watching your weight now you've just had a baby!" I was so amazed I said, whilst watching her take about 20- umm, dh likes them..

Oh, she also changed her baby whilst she was there and I found the pooey nappy bag behind the sofa after she had gone. I pulled her up on it, and She said she thought I had a cleaner so it didn't matter

I grew up in a relatively small community. A woman working in the same industry as my parents phoned my mum one night absolutely distraught. Her eldest daughter away in uni had got herself 'in trouble' and she needed money she didn't have to make this trouble go away, but no one must know as it was all so shameful (I never found out the nature of the 'trouble')
My mum being kind/soft immediately wrote her a cheque (several hundred, we could afford it but not pennies). Woman and daughter suddenly seem to have even more designer clothes than usual. My mum confides in mutual friend. Who has heard same story and also written a cheque.
Basically woman had run up debts buying designer clothes for her and daughter. Panicked, couldn't pay debts so phoned up everyone she knew with sob story about daughter's 'trouble', got loads of money from people, brought more clothes (don't think she even paid off the debts!)

Some pretty brazen brass neck comments in the past from Mumsnetters about what they want the site to be like/change to/revert back to.

Considering the site is free at POA, the demands, complaints and over sense of entitlement can be alternately hilarious and

:)

My favourite ever was in Rome, queuing in St Peter's Square to get into the Basilica. Loooong queue, hot day, but people are joining the back and waiting fairly patiently... except two nuns, who started at the back of the line, but talking animatedly to each other and looking very innocent, kept sidling forwards and slotting back into the queue.

They were behind us when we joined, but cleared the line in under 10 minutes - we all just grinned wryly and allowed them to continue unchallenged while we ordinary folks waited for nearly an hour. I think the assumption was that nuns are allowed to queue-jump at the Vatican

Could write a book on my SIL who believes the entire world revolves around her and other human beings are mere minions put on earth to serve her. One of her best/worst was when she was driving her fiancée (now ex!) to the train station. They were running late, which was down to her taking ages to get ready. She was speeding, got caught on camera and received a fine through the post. She fully expected her fiancée to pay the fine as it was "his fault" that she had to make the journey at all! Just a drop in the ocean.....

Smilesandpiles I remember a thread a Christmas or two ago where a MNer was sadly saying about what an austere time she was having and how she couldn't afford the food shop, or something. I pm'd her and sent her £20. She seemed so nice and so grateful.

Oh! I don't think I have ever told anyone about this... christmas presents from BIL/SIL

We always gave it thought, when we were still acting politely. One year we got her a voucher for the local salsa club. She had tried it on holiday and loved it. I included a CD and wrote up a card with the pubs/venues that held dance nights. For him we did what we always did - walked into the most unlikely shop we could find and bought the most horrendous shirt we could see. They always looked hideous in the shop but he always looked absolutely great in them - always! Even the pink monstrosity with matching tie... the photos of him in that get up are really good,.

DH got a lighter and I got... oh you have no idea how much this hurt at the time. I mean, what kind of woman does this to another woman?... I got the plastic necklace you get as a free gift with your first catalogue order! I kid you not.

I had my revenge... I wore it to her birthday party and gushingly told people who had given it to me

Thorpster, you and I should get together to write 'SILs from Hell'. I had to be careful what I posted about mine on this thread as I didn't want to be identified, but she is legendary.

I used to work selling hot food at a famous food market in London. The food critic AA Gill came one morning, ordered some food and then sauntered off without paying. He was wearing women's sunglasses too. What a bellend.

Never underestimate a nun I always say.

When we were in Rome and visiting various chapels etc. to see the artworks they were very fierce!

Nomama, that's brilliant!!!

How did people react to that?

& did your SIL find out that you'd told everybody?

Last year, my dh and I leant my father £3k, with the promise he would pay it back in X months.
X months plus some passed and I text him to ask if/when we would be seeing the money.

He text back saying that things were tight and to be patient and "oh yes, would we be able to lend him the same amount again, just for a month"!

Erm, no dad, we won't

pants not surprised... always thought AA Gill looked like an entitled twat.

Just thought of another one!

We live in a cul-de-sac which links to several others by footpaths between the houses. Several houses are along those paths with no direct road access. There is an older chap who runs private music lessons along the path that runs outside our house.

Few winters back I drove home in horrible wind and rain after work to find a 4x4 parked in my drive outside our house. It wasn't a car a recognised, and DH was driving a dirty great van at that point, so I knew it wasn't him. I parked behind it after waiting with my indicator going for a while, and tapped on the window.

A rather snotty woman was in there, and when I asked her to move she refused. She was waiting for her PFB to come out of the music teacher's house. I suggested she wait not 10yards up the hill so I could park in my drive, and she looked at me like my head was swivelling!

"I can't let him walk in the dark on his own!"

I pointed out he wouldn't melt it he got wet, and that if she didn't move she was going to be blocked there by me, and then an angry white van man, and neither of us would move until after we had cooked, eaten and washed up.

She moved then, in a huff, but has never been seen again!

And now DH has asked me to add one from him!

Our old neighbour was a bit of a perve. DH came home spitting-chips once, saying the neighbour had greeted him outside and said "if you are looking for Donnakim, she's sunbathing out the back in that white bikini"

Our garden is NOT overlooked by their house! How the Effing Jeff did he see me?!?

At uni, one of my housemates had a horrid boyfriend. Really argumentative and annoying. He also kept eating everyone's food and would switch the communal TV on really loudly in the night. Turns out he was living with us, after being thrown out of his flat, in breach of our lease, and both him and her thought it was perfectly acceptable he didn't contribute to bills and ate our food.