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To kick these people out?

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CompletePushover · 10/01/2014 18:24

7 yrs and this is my first AIBU, and I'm so cowardly I've name changed Grin

So... After years of renting crappy places dh, the 4dcs and I have finally bought a lovely house.

It's great. Needs loads of work doing on it. Lots of potential, completely neglected and now ours. The people who had it before us had some problems and had criminally neglected their animals. The house comes with a field.

Now begins the lovely story. A few years ago Some people passing by saw how neglected the horse in the field was and took it upon themselves to look after it. They did amazing things, built him a shelter, bought him food, trimmed his hooves, all of it.

The horse is a stallion and unbroken but of nice temperament. But it means he can be flighty.

Move on a year and one of the group has taken on most of the care and bought their own horse who now lives rent free in the field.

Two weeks before completion the owner tells us we will be inheriting a cat and that the horses are staying (he's gifted the stallion to the other horse owner)

So... We panicked until lovely horse person came to our door and seemed very nice, and we said they could stay until Easter and then we'd see (rent free).

This all seemed ok, but there have been annoyances: There's no where else to park but in our drive, when we want to wander around the field with the dcs we have to struggle through two horses and it's a nightmare, and now finally we have bought out longed for dog and I can't walk him on my field without someone with me because I can't carry a baby and a puppy and fend off the horses on my own, in December we were told they use one of our sheds for feed, And there are other people who are part of the group who have not introduced themselves to me, but who go on to my field regularly.

So this evening we've let the horse owner know that beyond the end of march we want our field back. At the moment I've used it twice since we moved in and I want to use it daily.

They're not happy. I tell a lie, one is not happy, the other is completely understanding.

I know they did a good thing, I know they put work into the field (shelter and fencing) but I also know they've had free pasture for 18 months in return, and I think it's become a picnic spot for them all.

AIBU? And should I be growing a backbone, because I'm already trying to think of a way to section off some of it, which I know would only end up delaying the inevitable? I'm also worried because I'm in no way insured to have this all going on on my property.

I want nice things for the people who have done good, but at the same time I want to enjoy my home. I also have PND and desperately want to be outside but can't cope with being around people. Just to throw that in there.

OP posts:
mistlethrush · 21/01/2014 23:30

Unearthly - my 8yo would see your drumming and raise you.... Wink

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 21/01/2014 23:32

I've got a didgeridoo that sounds more like a didgeridon't. I think we can make a decent tribal noise :)

Jux · 21/01/2014 23:33

Just got to poddle off to see if my cats are really just horses in disguise......

We have many tents and sleeping bags, and camping equipment dating from all decades of the last 100 years, I reckon. I'll bring spare stuff, as well as the dragon and dd. DD can help out with kiddie-type musical stuff and I could help with face painting.

DH is in a rock band and a jazz band and solos in true blues style, too. He generally only plays for money though (spoil sport) and hates festivals, so we'll leave him at home where he will spend his time with the amp turned up to 11.

I'm really looking forward to FUC's Virtual Festival.

AnUnearthlyChild · 21/01/2014 23:33

Xpost déjà. I humbly offer to accompany you singing. :)

The wildflower seed is a nice idea, but made me smile. In my old job we were pricing up for a rather wonderful biodiverse wildflower seed mix meadow When I got a price for the seed mix which was ££££££ my rather wonderful straight laced boss blurted out ' fuck me that's more expensive than coke' then blushed to the tips of his ears.

He never lived it down.

AnUnearthlyChild · 21/01/2014 23:35

Oh my a digeridont. Perfect.

I will sing also.

I was so awful I was banned for life from the school choir.

TheABC · 21/01/2014 23:35

unearthly, your DC sounds like mine! Can we compare notes?

I also have a drum and a pyromaniac DH.

Burn shed! Bang drum! Sprinkle seed! And run away at OP's command.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 21/01/2014 23:38

ABC, you'd be the best guests the land has ever seen Grin

Jux, you never know with cats

Unearthly sing away!

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 21/01/2014 23:39

Unearthly Together we can empty that field Grin

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 21/01/2014 23:42

Right then, I'm going to try to squeeze in a couple of hours sleep before Dd wakes me. Thanks for cheering me up. I know I'll be raging about it all at 3am when I can't sleep, but for now I feel soothed.

'Night all.

Mckayz · 22/01/2014 03:43

You are a much better person than me. I'd be writing a reply and telling them what is actually happening. How dare they slag you off when they are getting a free field, free water and a free shed???

Morons.

GiraffesAndButterflies · 22/01/2014 04:45

They're actually slagging us off as mean on the message board associated with the ad

Shock These people are being such bastards to you OP. I hope you get it all resolved soon.

May I suggest a reply on the message board of 'We're so sorry that we can't continue to provide the free pasture, free water and free storage you've enjoyed. However we know from all the work you've put in that you are dedicated horse owners so no doubt you will feel more comfortable when your horse is in a secure, paid for location rather than a situation where they may have appeared abandoned. Obviously any responsible owner wants to know that their horse is welcome and is not simply fly grazing at others' expense!'

I'm sure you don't actually need to use that ^ but I feel better for having drafted a bit of barbed passive aggression on your behalf Grin

SlightlyDampWellies · 22/01/2014 05:56

and add the bit about libel too. Please, pretty please.

I have nothing to offer in the camping stakes I am afraid. I have no talents. :( But I can sprinkle seed.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 22/01/2014 06:14

I've given up on trying to sleep. Stupid insomnia.

Mckays they are 'orrible.

Giraffes, I love it and am very tempted Grin could you add in a bit about being awfully sad and disappointed at the misrepresentation and throw in Wellies' libel bit for good measure.

Wellies, you have slightly damp wellies, what more could you possibly need?

SlightlyDampWellies · 22/01/2014 06:16

Huzzah! Good point!

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 22/01/2014 06:28

I think I'm going to have to give out a prize for best PA response :)

Keywords are "unkind", "don't they know stallions are territorial", "owners just aren't horsey people", "ploughing up land that should be conserved for wildlife". I'll add in any more criticisms as they are levelled at me.

SlightlyDampWellies · 22/01/2014 06:43

what a bunch of fuckers.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 22/01/2014 06:48

Grin I don't think that's passive aggressive enough, wellies.

bubblebabeuk · 22/01/2014 07:14

I really want to post on there bloody message, bunch of self entitled piss taking, tossing wanking shit bollocksed bastards..... that made me feel better lol

WingDefence · 22/01/2014 07:19

Glad to see my much earlier suggestion of a MN festival has gained momentum.

Have you set a date yet FYChris? I need to get on and book my annual leave y'know Grin

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 22/01/2014 07:22

When's good for you wing? Obviously (being the pushover I am) it won't matter if I have plans, I'll simply cancel them Grin

Bubble, you have no idea how much I want to let you all loose on them!

EauRouge · 22/01/2014 07:24

Shock Shock Was it the unreasonable one that posted that? What a grade A wanker. I'd be turning the water off at the very least, they've had it free for months and your reward is being slagged off on the internet. Who the fuck does she think she is?!

Is there anywhere you can hide the horses and then replace them with several hundred cans of Pedigree Chum ready for when Unreasonable Woman next turns up?

I'm in a band, we'll play at your festival. Will learn Crazy Horses especially for the occasion Grin

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 22/01/2014 07:47

Eau, that sounds very appropriate. I'm now trying to think up more horse related songs. I don't think Raw Hide really counts.

Yup, that's the one. I'm appalled. She is a grade A biatch.

Homebird8 · 22/01/2014 07:53

Actually, there have been arrests in the UK following internet harassment even when the victim didn't know the perpetrator. In your case it would be really easy for the police to track down your favourite rescuer if she's said anything that makes you feel threatened or is actually libellous. A fear that her words might instigate action from others would probably be enough. A little warning might not go amiss.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 22/01/2014 07:59

Homebird, that's interesting. I am worried that this could lead to someone deciding to exact some kind of revenge. I'm just hoping their disorganisation would mean they never got around to it. If it gets any worse, or anyone says anything at all threatening, I will contact the police.

Thank you.

Can't believe I wrote biatch Blush

SlightlyDampWellies · 22/01/2014 08:03

That is a reason why you ought to put your stance across on the website they are using. People are hearing one side of the story, most reasonable people will see the situation and will probably abandon all the 'poor horse, nasty people' rhetoric.