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To kick these people out?

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CompletePushover · 10/01/2014 18:24

7 yrs and this is my first AIBU, and I'm so cowardly I've name changed Grin

So... After years of renting crappy places dh, the 4dcs and I have finally bought a lovely house.

It's great. Needs loads of work doing on it. Lots of potential, completely neglected and now ours. The people who had it before us had some problems and had criminally neglected their animals. The house comes with a field.

Now begins the lovely story. A few years ago Some people passing by saw how neglected the horse in the field was and took it upon themselves to look after it. They did amazing things, built him a shelter, bought him food, trimmed his hooves, all of it.

The horse is a stallion and unbroken but of nice temperament. But it means he can be flighty.

Move on a year and one of the group has taken on most of the care and bought their own horse who now lives rent free in the field.

Two weeks before completion the owner tells us we will be inheriting a cat and that the horses are staying (he's gifted the stallion to the other horse owner)

So... We panicked until lovely horse person came to our door and seemed very nice, and we said they could stay until Easter and then we'd see (rent free).

This all seemed ok, but there have been annoyances: There's no where else to park but in our drive, when we want to wander around the field with the dcs we have to struggle through two horses and it's a nightmare, and now finally we have bought out longed for dog and I can't walk him on my field without someone with me because I can't carry a baby and a puppy and fend off the horses on my own, in December we were told they use one of our sheds for feed, And there are other people who are part of the group who have not introduced themselves to me, but who go on to my field regularly.

So this evening we've let the horse owner know that beyond the end of march we want our field back. At the moment I've used it twice since we moved in and I want to use it daily.

They're not happy. I tell a lie, one is not happy, the other is completely understanding.

I know they did a good thing, I know they put work into the field (shelter and fencing) but I also know they've had free pasture for 18 months in return, and I think it's become a picnic spot for them all.

AIBU? And should I be growing a backbone, because I'm already trying to think of a way to section off some of it, which I know would only end up delaying the inevitable? I'm also worried because I'm in no way insured to have this all going on on my property.

I want nice things for the people who have done good, but at the same time I want to enjoy my home. I also have PND and desperately want to be outside but can't cope with being around people. Just to throw that in there.

OP posts:
poopadoop · 21/01/2014 16:07

delurking - I know this is keeping your mind off other issues, but just wanted to add you mind yourself, and if this is in any way stressful, get your solicitor and dh to handle it. You've done so well so far

RenterNomad · 21/01/2014 16:29

Pictures of the fuckwitted parking? I take it there is enough space there for them not to cause an obstruction?

However, as for the business of turning around in your driveway, I think you can let something like that go without losing face/ credibility. Don't hesitate to ask us if there's something you can't face, like this, as you will get even more ill if you take evrrything personally.

Pixel · 21/01/2014 16:52

I've seen several people mention that it would be unfair to move the horse as he's been in the field his whole life, but has he? I don't remember that being said (but it is a long thread!). How would the people know if they can't even seem to agree on his actual age? For all we know he might have spent half his life moving around and be used to it.

gimcrack · 21/01/2014 17:17

Delurking here, too. You're handling this really well. I can't get over the petty behaviour you're having to deal with. Keep thinking of how it won't be long before you have that lovely field to enjoy.

Jux · 21/01/2014 17:29

Photos! Nails or barbed wire across your drive, just accidentally dropped there, of course. What a silly moo! It's so juvenile she doesn't merit proper insults.

GlaikitFizzog · 21/01/2014 17:41

Do you know any stock car racers? They don't mind bashes and bumps on their cars. Next time she parks fuckwittedly give them a call for a drive by bashing!

Honestly, if they are rescinding their ownership of the stallion, then they should be taking the other horse away immediately and you can get on with dealing with Shergar however you see fit.

I know little about horsey stuff, other than what I learned from Black Beauty and Mr Ed, but if you put up an abandonment notice about the stallion, then a second notice underneath it telling them they are fly grazing the second horse, maybe they will get the message you know that you a talking about and shift. Unlikely, but at least you are doing things by the book.

They have moved the goalposts by denying the stallion, you are well within your rights to move yours. Every time they try to pull a fast one shorten the get out date.

Have you actually arranged for a plougher (totally just made the word up) to come along on 1st march?

And I am more then happy to come along and stare them out. I'm a bit afraid of horses, so it will be from the comfort of behind the gate/fence/windscreen, but I do a good death stare!

Blatherskite · 21/01/2014 18:15

"blocking one lane of traffic on a blind corner" Now there's so parking the Police would be interested in!

UncleT · 21/01/2014 19:47

Dreadful piss-taking which has only got worse and worse. At least though, as pointed out by others, things are a bit clearer.

  1. Move the deadline forward.
  2. Have the stallion euthanised and removed.
  3. Get an injunction forbidding them from setting one toe on your land and blocking your access.
  4. Photograph and record EVERYTHING in furtherance of the above.
silverten · 21/01/2014 20:12

Bloody hell. What a pisstaker.

Nothing much to add OP other than YANBU, and you have inspired me to start kicking the arses of my piss-taking neighbours.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 21/01/2014 20:28

Silver Grin just stay rational. For the first time ever I have been irritated by someone using my drive to turn around. This is not something that has ever irked me before, and I don't intend to become someone who is bothered by turners!

I have calmed down, taken a deep breath and counted to 10.

She is very silly. Very very silly. I think we have succeeded in making this place less comfortable for them. This is a very good thing.

I'm not going to rise to pettiness. I'm going to snigger at it instead. Every time I come across a little dig at me, I'm going to Grin and be proud that someone cares enough to go to the trouble to try to wind me up. This is my plan. It's a good plan.

Flibbertyjibbet · 21/01/2014 20:41

Yes it's a great plan. And as my dad always used to say 'smile at your enemies, it confuses them'.

When she is winding you up an d trying to get a reaction out of you, just smile sweetly at her. It used to have a spectacular effect on the sociopath neighbour at our last house.

The important thing here is to keep your dignity and let all her shenanigans wash over you. It's your field, she took the previous owners for a ride and she is angry that her freeloading has come to an end.

I wonder if she is suffering a major attack of loss of face. Probably brags to her friends that she has two horses and lets the other people think its her own field. And now they will find out that she is just a squatter.

In fact why don't you ask her why she insists on squatting on your land Grin don't forget to take a pic of her face!

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 21/01/2014 21:54

They're actually slagging us off as mean on the message board associated with the ad Sad

I really am not dealing with this.

4horsesforcourses · 21/01/2014 21:58

link the message board to mumsnet, 457 people laughing at them may make them see sense soothe your soul

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 21/01/2014 22:02

I would love to, but it's got my location on it and I'd hate to see what kind of mn freeloaders would turn up to take advantage of me Wink Grin

But yes that would cheer me up a lot.

swampytiggaa · 21/01/2014 22:03

I would be tempted to respond to that message by publicly commenting that actually you have been providing free pasture for their animals and paying for the water they used which is far from mean. But that as they ate unhappy you are bringing the date forward that you wish full access to your property and they now have one week to comply.

If the cheeky fuckers are going to call you mean act mean.

Tbh I think they have been very lucky. Am sure if we had been in that situation my husband would have given them a weeks notice and would then have emptied the shed dismantled the shelter put a barrier across the drive and cut their water off. Maybe I should send him over with a screw driver and sledge hammer?

Good luck x

MidniteScribbler · 21/01/2014 22:07

I think that they have now done their dash. Publicly criticising you despite all you have done is now grounds for removing their belongings from your property, immediately. I would put a note on every gate in the field demanding an exit date of 7 days from now and that the gates will be padlocked on that day.

4horsesforcourses · 21/01/2014 22:07

I would put children in your field and their beds in your shed, all electrics hooked up to your meter via a botch job. The children would graze your kitchen field until old enough to hot wire your car back to London.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 21/01/2014 22:07

Swampy, here's my problem, the people may be bastards, but the horses deserve a chance. If I give them a week then the stallion will definitely end up PTS, if I give them longer then there is more of a chance that he can actually find a new home.

I know I'm my own worst enemy.

Could I borrow your husband and his sledgehammer please?

4horsesforcourses · 21/01/2014 22:08

Just write 'TWATS'. then switch off the computer and have a drink.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 21/01/2014 22:08

Horses thank you for making me laugh :)

FrankelInFoal · 21/01/2014 22:10

I'd be tempted to post on the message board too. Nothing controversial/offensive but matter of fact. State that you have allowed them to stay FOR FREE for x months and that you now wish to use the land for your own purposes. Finish it off with a statement that any further comments about the situation on the message boards will be regarded as libel and will be referred to your solicitor.

4horsesforcourses · 21/01/2014 22:11

You're welcome, I do though have two endearing teenagers which may, if bored by a field for company, do a good job of scaring them off. Say they are moving in. DS could have the wheels off her car in minutes...ensuring it was in the layby first with the wheels and other parts as a fun trail to locate it.

mistlethrush · 21/01/2014 22:12

Good suggestion Horses!

I think that Chris should arrange a MN camping event... complete with an electric fence that keeps the horses in a restricted part of the field!

frownyface · 21/01/2014 22:14

fuckyouchris-hold your head high in the knowledge you are not doing anything wrong. Anyone with half a brain will be able to see what scrounging fuckwits these people are.

Look at all these posters agreeing with you and re read whenever they are getting you down..think of your lovely meadow :) all the best...I do feel for you

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 21/01/2014 22:15

Camping event it is :) bring all livestock, hamsters, guinea pigs, stick insects, water buffalo, all welcome!

Frankel I'm not sure I want all the nutters to know who I am.