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To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby" enclosed in *Baby naming ceremony* invitation?

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doubleshotespresso · 12/06/2013 23:38

So some close friends (who married in church), but now claim to be atheist are holding a naming ceremony for their 8 month old first baby in an hotel.....

The invitation is beautiful with a map, timings "event closes at 11pm"?

The gift list ranges from £30-to £300, all items for the mother, cosmetics, trinkets, jewellery, pampering breaks, personalised hand-bound stationery and photo albums...

Anybody know the drill for these naming ceremonies? Are we supposed to guess a gift for the baby? Or just congratulate the mother for deciding on a name?

I have read this a dozen times and am staggered beyond belief-DP read it and fell into hysterics....

My gut tells me to go along with Jo Malone scented nappies or something.

Somebody please tell me this is not normal?!?!?!

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doubleshotespresso · 15/06/2013 13:48

I think we may have wine this evening..........

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SauvignonBlanche · 15/06/2013 13:57

Enjoy! Wine Grin

FrogGreen · 15/06/2013 14:00

Been lurking but just popped in to say wow doubleshot and would you like to be my friend?

I hope your friend will be able to have a good giggle over this story some time when she's feeling more sane calmer with the new baby.

And I think you really really need to refer the wedding planner guy to this thread so that he can see what he did to your poor friend!

Nessalina · 15/06/2013 14:07

Well, thank goodness!! Really pleased that you got the poor lass sorted out - it definitely shows that honesty is the best policy!
Well done you and good luck to her! Flowers

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doubleshotespresso · 15/06/2013 14:15

frogGreen thank- you yes I will be your friend! I have a feeling when I do meet this said planner the compulsion to thump him with my biggest handbag will be overwhelming..... His card states he takes calls 7 days a week. We have left him a message.... Watch this space.

Just put friend to bed for a nap (baby has a cold and I don't think either have slept in 2 weeks!) boys have lunch now so am attacking the floor and pretending the mud is the planner.

Then I will put together a note for all guests that my friend can agree later and we can send it out asap to stop anybody buying from the poxy gift list. Then we will be phoning everybody as well.... Just to be safe.... She spoke this morning to her in-laws who were initially up in the rafters but were amazingly sweet when all was explained..... But annoyed she had not asked for help when she clearly needed it. . .

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amazingmumof6 · 15/06/2013 14:33

not read thread - but it is not normal.

gold-digger comes to mind

SauvignonBlanche · 15/06/2013 14:38

Read the thread!

MumnGran · 15/06/2013 14:41

Flowers and more Flowers
Expect the calls will be a major strain, but once done .... I hope your friend will feel better, and realise what a treasure you are

FairPhyllis · 15/06/2013 14:43

Yes! I knew it must be a rogue planner!

Well done OP - you've done a really good deed for your friend.

Mumsyblouse · 15/06/2013 15:04

You are a great friend, not just for sorting this out but seeing she was struggling and taking her in for a bit. That first year is just so hard. So glad you didn't avoid her which would have probably been what I did and missed the real thing that was going on. Hope it goes ok from here on in.

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doubleshotespresso · 15/06/2013 15:31

mumsyblouse if I am honest your post has really hit home. I have just realised how I came into this so late.... (Would normally have had lengthy tea sessions discussing all this sort of thing but.... ) i lost a baby about a month ago (not the first time ) so I have been very out of the loop if things recently and I think she has probably avoided enthusing about all these plans out of respect when actually I could have done with somethng positive to focus on..... Maybe I have avoided her a little bit too.......

The important thing is now to get her back on track and rested, we can sort this out I am sure, but yes I could not avoid this. I just knew that none of this was her style at all. It worried me so badly....

Nearly finished the note for guests.... Tried to pitch it with humour and humble honesty..... Will wait and let her read it when she wakes up in an hour or so..... Just got a call from her DH who is trying to get back from work tomorrow evening (up North at mo) to add support. That will be such a help if he can... Though I think he will need to go back for a couple of days early next week....

And the baby has stopped crying and is sleeping!!!!! For more than two hours now..... !!! All good so far....

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ZillionChocolate · 15/06/2013 15:40

Aw doubleespressoshot, you sound bloody lovely!

RandomMess · 15/06/2013 15:41

Aw What a lovely lovely update, so wonderful that you've helped your friend escape the grasps of the Elton John event planner Smile

FrogGreen · 15/06/2013 17:11

doubleshot you are amazing. You have negotiated this impossible situation (which I would have failed at, honestly I could never have done as well as you have,) shown your friend such kindness and support all while dealing with your own loss... not simple... I am a little bit in awe.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm sure the other guests will see the funny side and the baby will end up with a better naming day than would have been otherwise (certainly very memorable.)

SauvignonBlanche · 15/06/2013 17:18

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your baby doubleshot Sad Flowers

Pouncer1 · 15/06/2013 18:01

You sound like the most amazing friend, I wish I had a friend like you.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss :( I hope time will help and soon you will have your own LO. Big hugs.

roadkillbunny · 15/06/2013 18:49

Tears in eyes and a late supper after reading this thread.
You're an amazing compassionate friend.
I hope everything comes right for her and as for the planner, depending on what happens when you speak to him I would consider naming and shaming in the event planning world (what ever that may be, I am thinking on event planning message boards and the like).
Flowers to you both.

pigletmania · 15/06/2013 19:39

My god op your an amazing friend. Can you be mine too Smile. That weddin planner sounds like Fraaaaaank from Don't tell the Bride with Steve Martin Grin

Anja1Cam · 15/06/2013 19:49

doubleshot you are a star and a true friend! I've been ploughing through this thread this afternoon, amazing! Glad it can be sorted and it was not a case of 'mumzilla' Well done and now put your feet up Wine Wine (maybe not too many though) before the phone marathon.

amazingmumof6 · 15/06/2013 20:18

piglet I love Fraaank.

that film is one of my favourites

WouldBeHarrietVane · 15/06/2013 20:22

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headlesslambrini · 15/06/2013 20:28

double you sound like a true friend, one which many people on this thread would love to have, a truly unique person. Your children and Dh are so lucky to have you. I really wish I knew you in RL Smile

I would also be getting your friend registered on here for more support as well. Tell her we would love to have her and if she would like to post in AIBU in relation into what she would like to do to the planner, I'm sure she will get some suggestions which will put a smile on her face [ grin]

HotCrossPun · 15/06/2013 20:40

Doubleshot I hope you are going to get some kind of rota organised after this thread.

You have a lot of new friends to accommodate Grin

sweetestcup · 15/06/2013 20:43

Im so glad you have been able to talk about it with your friend double and things are ok, I often am aghast at some of the stuff I read here and people cant or wont actually TALK to the people concerned, ok some people are scared of confrontation, upsetting others etc but nothing can actually be sorted out unless people talk to each other.

scottishmummy · 15/06/2013 21:08

thank christ you never listened to the dump Her,she no good to you crew
dispensing hot headed yo you go sista advice
glad pal got opportunity to explain her situation,and all ok