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"This is a crisis for everyone": How you can support midwives ahead of Sunday's March for Midwives

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JuliaMumsnet · 16/11/2021 16:14

Hello - here's something from March for Midwives (scroll down for what you can do and tell us below if you're getting involved):

"Four weeks ago four doulas were lying in bed on a Sunday morning having a whatsapp conversation about how hopeless we all felt about the state of maternity care. A Royal College of Midwives (RCM) report last month revealed that 60% of UK midwives are considering leaving the profession, and sadly none of us were surprised. We all had stories to share of midwives in tears and birthing families neglected or coerced through their maternity journey.

One of us, Paula Cleary, who lives in March in Cambridgeshire, said that she was considering having a ‘March in March’ to protest against the understaffing in her local hospital. The rest of us all responded that this needed to be everywhere because this is a nationwide issue!

So March With Midwives was born that morning. Becki Scott set up a Facebook group and we all invited our birthworker friends. It grew rapidly, to over a 1000 people that first week.

We quickly realised this was tapping into the zeitgeist. Maternity workers and families were joining the group in droves, anxious to share their stories. The group became an emotional maelstrom as midwives and parents shared their trauma and sadness. We realised these voices needed to be captured so that the powers that be could really understand the depths of the crisis. So we set up an online form for service users and health professionals to write about how the staffing crisis has affected them, either anonymously or with their name.

We rapidly realised we needed help. The group was growing exponentially and we were inundated with people asking us for guidance on all number of things - are midwives allowed to attend? What is the RCM and NMC saying? How do we risk-assess a local demonstration? Do we need insurance and do we need to alert the police? (All questions we have answers to in the group now - just check our announcements and shared files).

We gathered a steering group around us of fellow doulas and midwives. We knew we needed a diverse group that represented parents, lay birth workers, NHS midwives and independent midwives. And, given the outrageous statistics on increased risk of maternal death for Black and Brown mothers and birthing people, we were also determined to include people from marginalised communities so that their voices could be amplified.

We realised we had an opportunity here to gather a diverse range of maternity voices under one banner, so we embarked on writing a manifesto summing up the issues and calling for some simple, emergency crisis management measures.

We also wrote a template letter for people to send to their MPs. We called for everyone to stand up around the country on the same day, at the same time, and called these gatherings vigils, to underscore the deep grief so many of us feel at the broken state of maternity services.

Meanwhile, the group grew. And grew. At the time of writing the facebook group contains nearly 20,000 people. Our Facebook, Twitter and Instagram pages are growing by the day. Our inboxes are flooded with people sharing their stories and wanting to help. A handful of distressed doulas has grown into a grassroots movement with real momentum.

So what exactly is up with the service? To cut a long story short, we quite simply do not have enough of anything - too few midwives, too few beds, not enough resources or time, which leads to not enough energy or compassion for the families needing support. The result? Parents that are damaged by either too much medical intervention or, conversely, falling through the cracks and not receiving the medical care they need. Those of us working with families in the postnatal period were not surprised when research found that up to a third of mothers/birthing people have symptoms of trauma.

As Elsie Gayle, experienced midwife, says, "The inevitability of the 'shoehorning' of maternity care into structures that continue to cause the systematic erasure of midwives, avoidable damage, deaths and long term trauma to families. It pains me to watch British maternity care diminish to its lowest point ever in the pursuit of the economies of scale."

Burned out midwives are abandoning the wrecked ship in droves; physical and mental health in tatters. Recent research found that midwives are increasingly suffering with PTSD. Urinary tract infections are common because they have no time to go to the toilet and they’re often not drinking on shift to reduce the urge to go. The pandemic has merely exposed an existing crisis in staffing and worsened staff retention. Meanwhile, students are also leaving their courses before graduation or shortly after qualifying, as the work conditions are so horrific. This means that the Government’s assurances that many new midwives are being trained is simply not the solution.

This isn’t a looming crisis. We have known about the staffing issues for years. The stuff has now well and truly hit the fan and we urgently need the voices of parents, midwives and doulas to be heard by the government. This is a crisis that affects everyone. We all have loved ones using this service and potentially carrying the ripple effects of trauma into the rest of their lives.

If you want to get involved, this is what you can do:

  • Join the March With Midwives Facebook group
  • Repost our Twitter and Instagram content
  • Make a 30 second video about why you support the campaign and post it with the hashtag #MarchWithMidwives
  • Write to your MP
  • If you can, find your local vigil (there is a map in the announcements in the Facebook group) and come join us on Sunday 21st November at 2pm

Together, we can amplify the voice of those who are so often silenced."

"This is a crisis for everyone": How you can support midwives ahead of Sunday's March for Midwives
OP posts:
RedDogsBeg · 20/11/2021 15:31

@Sittinginthesand

Why are doulas campaigning for midwives? This makes no sense! Why aren’t they campaigning for mothers and babies? Babies don’t even seem to be a consideration. It’s baffling.
Exactly, and why are midwives allowing doulas to speak on their behalf using language they apparently know excludes women and mothers with the result said women and mothers are unlikely to support them. As I said, very Gerald Ratner.
endofagain · 20/11/2021 15:40

Midwives should be standing "with women".
Maya Forstater's case has ensured that no woman should lose her job for her personal integrity and beliefs.
The NHS can't sack every single midwife.
They can't legally sack any midwife for thought crime or using correct language.
Well, maybe they can in Scotland but women there will support midwives if they feel that midwives have their backs.

Izzy24 · 20/11/2021 15:43

Copied and pasted from March with Midwives on social media with permission:

If a workforce is exhausted, sad, scared, on edge, paranoid, pressured, or bullied, these will be felt by service users. They too will feel bullied, pressured, coerced, and afraid. Their birth will have an element of fear and danger, a sense of worry in the background.

How many babies are born in this spirit? How many are born every day into a world of fear?

Our babies education about the world begins in the womb. What are we teaching babies, when we evict 40% of them from their first homes? What are we teaching women about their bodies when we act like they are not to be trusted?

How many more generations of us must endure the idea of our bodies being wrong, bad, inadequate, poorly designed, and flawed - almost as a given?

True emergencies would be rare if we stopped meddling and were more present and peacefully watchful at births. If midwives had time to simply BE with women. To sit in silence with them. To sit without fear. To feel a woman's progress with eyes, heart and hands. To know them not as a complete stranger. Without the need to be data inputting for hours on end. To know that all the modern safety tools and machines are there to back up a midwife's own excellent skills, rarely to be needed, but there for the true emergencies.

If midwives could be WITH WOMAN every time, we would not have a third of women saying their birth was traumatic.

If we didn't medicalise and pathologise every healthy woman and simply cared more deeply, more intensely, more presently for her in labour, there would be more joy for everyone.

Time for joy and love and presence and peace and connection at births is what's missing right now.

Love is the strongest pain killer known to humans.

Technology can rarely be a real replacement for eyes, hands, ears and heart.

I know some fine midwives who somehow still manage to protect humanity at births in spite of the pressures. And it's breaking them. It should not break a midwife to have time to love. We need to fix this.

The exodus of amazing, talented, with-woman midwives is a cause for our collective lament.

Let's reimagine a maternity system that heals and does no harm 💖

#MarchwithMidwives

Sittinginthesand · 20/11/2021 15:44

Red - maybe it’s a fifth column thing and the doulas want to make everyone cross with the midwives so that the doulas can usurp them. And the midwives are just letting them. There must be many times more midwives than doulas.

Sittinginthesand · 20/11/2021 15:47

Izzy - that is much better than the op! But still no clear objective for people to get behind.

AnotherEmma · 20/11/2021 15:47

@Izzy24

Copied and pasted from March with Midwives on social media with permission:

If a workforce is exhausted, sad, scared, on edge, paranoid, pressured, or bullied, these will be felt by service users. They too will feel bullied, pressured, coerced, and afraid. Their birth will have an element of fear and danger, a sense of worry in the background.

How many babies are born in this spirit? How many are born every day into a world of fear?

Our babies education about the world begins in the womb. What are we teaching babies, when we evict 40% of them from their first homes? What are we teaching women about their bodies when we act like they are not to be trusted?

How many more generations of us must endure the idea of our bodies being wrong, bad, inadequate, poorly designed, and flawed - almost as a given?

True emergencies would be rare if we stopped meddling and were more present and peacefully watchful at births. If midwives had time to simply BE with women. To sit in silence with them. To sit without fear. To feel a woman's progress with eyes, heart and hands. To know them not as a complete stranger. Without the need to be data inputting for hours on end. To know that all the modern safety tools and machines are there to back up a midwife's own excellent skills, rarely to be needed, but there for the true emergencies.

If midwives could be WITH WOMAN every time, we would not have a third of women saying their birth was traumatic.

If we didn't medicalise and pathologise every healthy woman and simply cared more deeply, more intensely, more presently for her in labour, there would be more joy for everyone.

Time for joy and love and presence and peace and connection at births is what's missing right now.

Love is the strongest pain killer known to humans.

Technology can rarely be a real replacement for eyes, hands, ears and heart.

I know some fine midwives who somehow still manage to protect humanity at births in spite of the pressures. And it's breaking them. It should not break a midwife to have time to love. We need to fix this.

The exodus of amazing, talented, with-woman midwives is a cause for our collective lament.

Let's reimagine a maternity system that heals and does no harm 💖

#MarchwithMidwives

This is good and well written. And it refers to women and babies!

Probably not written by the same person who wrote the OP.

endofagain · 20/11/2021 15:49

Izzy24

That would have been so much better as a starting statement.

Appledrop · 20/11/2021 16:15

I just jumped onto this post to see how I could support you, that was until I read your opening post, total deflation. No need for me to say why as I think the majority of replies on here reflect my position and thoughts clearly. Can't believe how you midwives are happy to go along with this. You clearly don't support women!!

CharlieParley · 20/11/2021 16:23

[quote PartridgeCoop]@Clymene I'm a patient too, and I'm a woman, but I like inclusive language, even if it's clumsy and not going to be exactly right 100% of the time. I think it's indicative of a service that's trying to think about individuals and I like that. Maybe just a poll of the general public on language use would put this to bed? I am much more worried about staffing than language. Who knows who's more representative of women? I don't. But I was really nervous to post once it got into gender politics because I find it stressful on here, and I suspect a lot of women steered clear because of the responses it got, not the original language. [/quote]
A third of all babies born in England and Wales last year were born to foreign mothers. Many of those mothers do not speak English well or at all. (According to National Statistics that's 1.8% of all women in the UK, or 468,000)

This language excludes them. It makes this topic incomprehensible to them.

Up to 10% of women suffer from cognitive impairments and 2.16% of all adults have a learning disability. (That's over two million women.)

This language excludes them. It makes this topic incomprehensible to them.

About 8% of women in the UK are functionally illiterate. They can understand short texts written in simple, clear language using everyday words on familiar topics. Everything else is a problem. (That's about four and a quarter million women.)

This language excludes them. It makes this topic incomprehensible to them.

Do you feel the need to include these women?

(All in all, about one in ten of all pregnant women would be excluded by the use of this "additive" and "kind" language for the sake of making one in far less than 1000 pregnant women feel included.)

drum123 · 20/11/2021 16:36

izzy24 - thank you for that. Maybe you need to ask Mumsnet if you can change the wording in the OP?

drum123 · 20/11/2021 16:41

radishrose, the same thing happened to me 37 years ago, the midwife closed the doors because I was 'scaring the other mothers'! I certainly wasn't listened to then, or 3 years later when they didn't believe I was in labour until the machine told them I was having major contractions.

Oftenithinkaboutit · 20/11/2021 16:58

@MaddieM

No need to be sarcastic and defensive with poster

I agree. Short and snappy generally is way forward initially to engage Interest for a campaign

Izzy24 · 20/11/2021 16:59

@drum123

izzy24 - thank you for that. Maybe you need to ask Mumsnet if you can change the wording in the OP?
I didn’t have any part in the OP so I don’t think that would be possible?
RedDogsBeg · 20/11/2021 17:00

The answer of course, CharlieParley is that those women who you so eloquently wrote about in your post don't matter at all, they are acceptable collateral damage, it's all their own fault, not that those who push and agree with these language changes will ever have the guts to admit that out loud.

It's the same with all the other language changes being forced onto women, it's acceptable to exclude and dehumanise women, dismiss out of hand the objections of the majority of women. Contempt for women is endemic.

Oftenithinkaboutit · 20/11/2021 17:03

Bloody hell just read all the organisers posts

Sounds like it’s going to be more of a bitch fest than a campaign that actually makes strides

Over and out!

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/11/2021 17:04

There's a reason midwifery services are underfunded, and we all know that's not because of our identities. It's rooted in the way that women's healthcare has been treated as a secondary matter. Including pregnancy and maternity care. Because we are female.

This. I mean come on, people need to join the dots.

FemaleMule · 20/11/2021 17:08

I can't support a campaign that uses the ridiculous term 'birthing people'. It's WOMEN. Sounds like the organisers are too tied up with virtue signalling which is a shame because it's a good cause.

AnotherEmma · 20/11/2021 17:17

I think 'birthing families' is even worse than 'birthing people' tbh. Now I'm not even a person who gave birth by myself, apparently my whole family did it Hmm

Oftenithinkaboutit · 20/11/2021 17:24

@AnotherEmma

I think 'birthing families' is even worse than 'birthing people' tbh. Now I'm not even a person who gave birth by myself, apparently my whole family did it Hmm
Shudder

There needs to be a campaign against the language being used in this campaign

PerpetualStudent · 20/11/2021 17:25

radishrose I was told to be quiet whilst crowning with DC2 ‘in case I scared the other ladies’ FOUR years ago!!

FooFooFloofyFoof · 20/11/2021 17:36

I'm a midwife who left my job in 2017 at the end of my tether as a result of the chronic staff shortages and daily stress. It was making me ill. I hear all the time from my NHS midwife friends about how much worse it has become since then and during Covid they have often been 50% short of staff on shift. This situation cannot go on. The chronic underfunding of the NHS by our government is designed to make it appear to fail so it can be sold off to private healthcare providers. We must protect our midwives and support staff from this and ensure safe, effective care is delivered free at point of access to all women and babies for generations to come.

MsGoodenough · 20/11/2021 17:46

There's a reason midwifery services are underfunded, and we all know that's not because of our identities. It's rooted in the way that women's healthcare has been treated as a secondary matter. Including pregnancy and maternity care. Because we are female

This. I had a horrific experience with birth, labour and breastfeeding. It wasn't because of how I identified. You have been utterly dismissive of women on this thread. If you won't listen to us, it's hardly surprising you're not getting the traction you wished for on mumsnet.

PriamFarrl · 20/11/2021 17:55

Women are not being erased when we use additive language

The word woman has been replaced by ‘birthing parent’. It’s not additive language it’s replacing the word woman. If women aren’t being erased then what is happening?

Walesrecommendations · 20/11/2021 18:07

Joined the Facebook group, left pretty quickly after, like many others, seeing the language used. I personally find it offensive to be referred to, even indirectly, as a 'birthing parent' but as I'm a woman, no one cares about that.

FooFooFloofyFoof · 20/11/2021 18:32

I have to agree regarding the language around women on this thread and in the FB group. We are not "birthing people", we are women. Most midwives are also women too. This is a sex based issued, not a gender identity issue.