D'ya ever wonder who passed the responsibility for starting a new d'ya ever wonder thread...

[curiositykilled]

It was ruby... she passed it to the newbie!

I know, I've dragged myself through this once, I haven't got the internal energy to do it again. Sw was lovely, but she's very practical, which is her job I suppose. All I wanted was to cry and wallow, which she let me do then got all pragmatic with me. There's a local support group for mums struggling with depression during/after pregnancy. She's doing the leg work for me, then I have to find my balls again

Babies have been kind of quiet today, I swear they know when I'm shit.

dizzy - you're probably just feeling all wound up and jiggling them back to sleep all the time

Can understand the wallowing, nothing better than a little wallow. At least sw is trying to help. Can you face the support group do you think?

You can e-mail me as much or as little as you want. I've been through this with my XP leaving me when I was 5 weeks pregnant. I've been through solicitors, family court and mediation. Have had depression although not recently and various episodes of counselling/medications. I might be able to answer some questions or worries you have about how those things work. Only if you like, I realise you've got a few other people's addresses.

Today, No. But I will try and give it a go.

Curiosity thank you, everyone is being so patient with me. I'll whizz you a quick email now, just so we've exchanged.

Don't be silly my love, you've not been a burden for us to have to be patient with you.

You could focus on the group and try to think of things you can do to get yourself there for the next one.

PITA to have to give up the wallowing though

They meet on a Wednesday, that's way too soon for me to get myself there, I need time to prepare myself and get used to the idea first. Cowardly but my confidence isn't all there.

I would never have imagined another pregnancy would end up with me feeling like this. And I was doing ok until a few days ago, ok so I was having the odd wobble, but I was managing to draw myself back out of it. This has really taken hold of me.

yeah, I never imagined it would make me feel how it has done either. I have decided it is normal to feel like that. You just have to get your head down and get through it.

Pick a wednesday that you think you'll be ready for and don't chicken out.

Having spells of feeling 'ok' just makes me realise how shit I am when I'm not ok. If I didn't have help from my family ds probably wouldn't have even got lunch today, I'd have thrown some carrot crisps his way and given him lots of milk

Next wednesday I might manage it, if I've found my balls again.

Thanks curiosity.

dizzy - Pick a day you really think you will go. Think of some things you can do to prepare in the time leading up to that day. Just small things that you feel you should be doing and aren't at the moment. Big goal and some little goals to prepare.

If the day is next week good, but you need to make sure it is a realistic goal or you might feel worse if you don't manage it.

Carrot crisps and milk is much better than what my DS got! I had no help from family, when he was a baby and I was pg, really sick and stressed I used to get him up and then sit him in his playpen with some toast in the mornings. He generally had anything I had in for lunch and it was often worse than carrot crisps and milk!

Whatever gets you through.

I'm the opposite. If I plan I never end up going, whether that be a toddler group, a tutorial or something more serious. I just have to drag myself there on the day, not wanting to but just take a deep breath and take the plunge. Usually it turns out better than I expected.

HM Ouch, missed your sting. I've never had one and neither has dh who is convinced that he'll drop dead if he ever does but still wants to keep the things Is it truly awful?

pixi - good point! I'm just going by what helped me... planning and achieving little goals before big ones! lol

My mum used to keep bees when I was little and one time when they swarmed my sister and I were playing in the garden. They chased us into the house and all got caught in our hair and stung us to death! That was awful but I've never found a wasp sting that bad. My mum spent hours picking dead bees out of our hair and putting anti-histamine cream on the stings that night.

DH found the wasp sting horrible and XP was allergic and might've died had he gotten stung a couple of times. DH's idea of a 'terrible motorbike accident' is skidding his scooter on some black ice whilst parking and bending his little finger back...

I am a weirdo who quite enjoys pain though I love it when you get a bruise or a sprain with that nice achey, pressure from fluid pain!

curiosity swarming is the sort of thing that worries me, like something out of a horror movie. All the bee experts around here seem to think we could keep a hive on the garage roof and they would then fly over the garden to the fields beyond the houses...

pixi - think it would be more accurate to say they would 'probably' fly over the garden. The bees got us in the back garden down at the bottom of the hill when the hive was in the front at the top of the hill (my mum's garden is massive). We both still loved the bees though.

it's quiet on here tonight, d'y ever wonder if the other multiple mums are having a party that you're not invited to?

Yes, often! lol They'll be along when I go to bed (in about 10 mins)!

Have done rather too much today - took DS to school with dd, took dd to mums and tots picked up tired ds from school who bumped his head on the pavement after falling rather nastily, all on buses.`Suffered with nasty Braxton Hicks all evening but had two for tuesday - dirty dominos for dinner! Some you win, some you lose.

Evening my friends xx

evening shabs. how're you?

Fine thanks xxxx

Boo, whassa matter?

you in need of some apple juice?

LOL Got some in front of me thanks Curiosity!! xxx Just pissed off fed up with my lot at the moment xxx

Just drink through it! Lol

I am off to bed before I actually collapse. Stayed up too late last night. Feeling a bit better today, the builders have been pretty good and done a nice neat job, looking at how nice the space will be is making me happy.

Love you shabs, apple juice makes everything better...

Good night all x

Night Curiosity xxxxxx