D'y ever wonder how many of the multi mums are pregnant again?

[MarsLady]

Happy Birthday HM(Her Majesty), I hope you have had the most fantastic lovely day, the 23rd is my lucky date. We got engaged on the 23rd Dec, married on the 23rd Sept, moved into this house on the 23rd Aug, Matthew christened on the 23rd Sept and embryo transfer was the 23rd June!

Trying to keep cheerful and calm tonight, feel shattered after being up at 5am yesterday then not going to bed until 2am this morning, I was dragged behing the sofa by Rubester late last night and sort of got caught up with a few more late nighters inc the newly married Popa! Anyway woke this morning to sunshine.....yes you heard.....had high hopes of a normal w/end til I saw H, he looked dreadful. After breakfast he went back to bed and didnt get up until 1pm. Then he said he would take me to my mums, then he would go to the allotment for an hour. By 2.30pm he phoned me and said he had gone home and was going to bed. I got back at 6.30pm, he was just getting up, he looked awful poor thing, then he was very very sick and went back to bed. He has lost alot of weight again this week, I am soooooooooooo worried, my stomach is in knots. Its very hard on the kids, they keep asking him to do things with them when he just cant. There must be some light at the end of this tunnel.

No one behind the sofa tonight? Oh well I am off to bed, can hardly see I am so tired. Kale Nits xxxx

Oh Trips, how can I help, how can I make it better? Not a good end to the day here either. Tom and my friends son, Matthew have had a bit of a set too!! H came and picked us up from friends house and started ranting and raving about how I was a crap mum who brought up soft boys...told tom he should always fight back. Commented about how fat I was and how fat Tom is. Feel very sad. Em and Dan didnt leave Lewis with us. When I questioned why Dan eventually said that Em thinks that leaving Lewis with me will mean that something could happen to him because of Gareth and Matthew.

All a massive horrible mess. Feel like running away but will stay and face tomorrow.

Oh Shabs. I dont know what to say, but sending love your way. You are in no way a crap mum and you know that, from what I know of you you are one of the most loving, caring people and who could want more from a Mum.

Morning girls.

Thank you HM.

Another day in paradise?

ha yes you can tell its not my birthday anymore. I got up with the kids and did their brekky etc whilst DH got a lie in! Charming as of course am as hungover as a b*ard having thought my bday was a day when I could drink a bit too much!

Shabs as soon as my bike is sorted I am coming up to kick H's arse!!!!!

You are a wonderful mum,to me as well. Your boys are not soft,they are caring lovely lads who will end up with good relationships because of everything you have taught them. Fat? Such an easy put down babe,takes no brain power at all. I have told you a million times you are a beautiful lady inside and out,he is lucky to have you!!! You know your pulling power How many people can say they have a bronzed God at their feet!!!!!!

Come and spend some time with Tiggs,you and Tom,you can put on my combat gear and go back fighting!!!!!

Nutter

I should NOT post on here when I have had a few drinks cause I wear my heart on my sleeve at the best of times.

All will be well

LOL when you said bronzed God - I looked down at my feet just to check - no buggers there Tiggs

Aw sweetheart didn't realise you had been there all that time!!

Shabs Agree with Tigs, his comments are cheap. He must be struggling with some feelings of inadequacy to attempt to pull you down somewhere beside him.

And Em.........unwell yes....but maybe it would have been best just to say that she is struggling to let you/anyone babysit rather than try to bring Gareth and Matthew into it. Thats hurtful

Personally I felt very possessive of my DD1 when she was born and didn't like anyone else holding her let alone babystitting. I'm still like that!!!!!

Trips, sorry to hear H is not feeling so good. Especially when he is trying so hard to be normal. I guess the chemo attacks the good and the bad bits. What stage is he at? Has it finished for the mo?

HM, lie on the couch with the telly and let the kids keep you warm Always helps a hangover I find

Hiya frumpster - everything will work out ok - not sure when but I know it will.

As for H - have had 30 years of crap - used to it now!

Morning all,

oooggs... WOW!! Congrats... I would love another one but I can barely cope with the 2 I've got now
Plus we live in a 2 bed flat so not exactly ideal!

Welcome back double

Shabs... whose arse do I need to come and kick? How dare he!!!!!! You're a wonderful mum and the proof is in the pudding. I hope that Em continues to heal. I'm sure that those comments were out of context and more to do with her fear of how she feels rather than what would happen in your care. After all you grew Dan for her didn't you?

HM... day after birthdays... sigh

Shabs, I was thinking about your H when I was in the shower.......NO NO NO, not in a Paolo way but in an irritated for you way

You can't raise 'soft' boys.

(WTF, can't stand that attitude)

And there are two strong reasons why.

(1) My mum is adopted. She has been brought up a certain way and yet she remains very unlike her adoptive mum in so many ways. This is think argues the nature/nurture debate very well. And proves your H wrong in his statment. You cannot make a boy soft (whatever relevance SOFT has in the normal world!).

(2) Bringing up twins shows that you can treat two people exactly the same at exactly the same time with exactly the same exposure to all things and with exactly the same family dynamic and end up with two different people. As my HV said, "same recipe, different cake".

My point to your H is (and it aint my argument it must be remembered), is that no matter how you raise your boys...........ultimately it has no bearing over what nature that person has. That was pre determined at the cell stage, a long time ago.

And I have a nasty period.
Again.
And my body aches.
And I am pouring like there is no tomorrow.
And I slept badly on top of two bath towels.
And I have fallen out with DP.
And I am having a laundry mountain moment.
And I have a work dinner to go to tomorrow and I am trembling about it.
And I don't know what to wear.
And I am nervous and filled with self-doubt and no self-confidence.
Again.
And everything.

And breathe.
In and out.
One foot in front of the other.
And breathe.

Shab's, gona crash me some of the happy pills?

Thanks Mars!! Trying to read back but have missed sooooooo much that I've now given up on that and will try and keep up from here on in

Good girl. At some point soon her Frumpiness will do a roundup, but given her current body pouring we should probably wait another day or two!

Afternoon! I have not forgotten about said roundup........it will come.........eventually

Ruby, the doc will say what she said the last time..."the pill", "the mirena coil", "normal for you", "I can prescribe painkillers". Helpful Love doctors [sarcastic blowbag] DP says I should get a referral to a gynaecologist. But I tend to think the doc is probably right.....its not life threatening and likely normal albeit a PITV.

Why is it I always choose to eat at the wrong time? Sympathy to Frumps,but also cheers for that image PMSL