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devondoris · 01/01/2008 21:16

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walkie · 15/01/2008 10:06

Morning all, my dts are starting nursery this week, so they are being "weaned in" as we speak - I am in floods! It is far too quiet in the house. I have a pile of ironing to do - but coffee in the pot - anyone fancy one?

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walkie · 15/01/2008 10:49

Happy 20wk birthday to your dts! Mine will be the big "one" at the end of the month. I cannot believe it. I keep checking for them, and cry when I find another toy on the floor.

largeginandtonic · 15/01/2008 13:18

Good grief Walike have a coffe and pick up a Grazia, sit down and RELAX...

Twinkle excellent news on the scan my lovely! I have id boys, great fun!

Trip i cannot believe your husband, can you sit him down and tell him how this is making you feel? My ex would also bury his head and generally be at work till late or faff about doing something very trivial important when it was bed time\bathtime. He just didnt see what was going on and i got so fed up of nagging telling him... I think you need a holiday! Come and stay here, not very quiet though Book yourself a week off somewhere and see how he likes the kids all on his own. Probably not practical though is it? Bugger it all, we have so many musts in our lives...

Kat hope the babies turn for you, how very exciting! More ickle babies soon

Meeley??? Was that you i saw fleeting on sreen and off again?

DingDong excellent summing up

Egg · 15/01/2008 14:12

Hello ladies! Sorry for delay in coming back to you all, I know some of you have seen the long and detailed birth story but if not here it is.

Have not had chance to catch up on thread so hope everyone is ok. Oooggs how are you doing? Hope you have been managing to rest. I should be resting now as didn't get much sleep last night (babies decided two-hourly feeds are necessary at night).

Am formula feeding . I told myself beforehand that if it was like last time and didn't come naturally then I would not put myself through the trauma. I managed to persevere with DS1 as he was the only one around but these two only managed to latch on three times between them in the first three days and even then it was not properly and was PAINFUL. Was spending 15 mins with each one trying to bf, then up to an hour cup feeding each one (they were a bit slow at first). Was ok in hospital but not practical at home. Bottle feeding is going well though and they have passed their midwife checks today.

Right, really had better go and lie down while I have the chance. MIL has left this morning, it was NOT helpful having her here on my return from hosp, just bad timing as they let me out sooner than planned.

Thanks for all lovely messages of congrats!

estar · 15/01/2008 14:24

Wow, Trip

What a nightmare. I think several years ago, nine/ten year olds were still just kids - now there is huge pressure from those a few years older, plus media messages, that wants them to grow up too fast. So they get all worked up about demanding independance but without the maturity to handle it.

Haven't read the 'How to talk' book yet but have read some material by Townsend and Cloud about Boundaries with Kids (think one is called 'Raising Great Kids' or something) which I think is good for that age (although I'm not there yet!). They talk about getting kids to gain independance by accepting responsibility for some stuff while re-establishing boundaries. It sounds like Rebecca is wanting to grow up in some ways but not in others, so maybe there are ways to trade off stuff like that (more priviledges in return for more responsible behaviour, that kind of thing). Anyway, I can't believe I'm giving you advice when you've achieved more than I could dream of!

Just one more thought - it sounds like Tom and James are going through a period of being sick of each other. Is there any way to give them a bit of space for a while? Like let one of them sleep in a camp bed in the dining room for a week or something. It might shake things up a bit and help them get perspective.

And do you ever ask DH exactly how he thinks things can be improved by doing it differently?

estar · 15/01/2008 14:27

Ooo, hi Egg

Well done you! Hope everything's going well - just soak up these first few weeks, mentally photograph all the good bits, and use the mantra if things get tough.

MarsLady · 15/01/2008 14:43

Egg I'm sorry! For no other reason than I know it was what you wanted. You can still call if you need any advice etc and of course you know how fab these ladies are.

Kat.... how long does it take to get to Peterborough? I woulld love to see a footling birth in the flesh. If you do go into labour before hand and they decide to let you progress naturally remember this; NO ONE TOUCHES YOU WHILST THE BABY COMES OUT AND NO ONE TOUCHES THE BABY. No bum wiping (causes your sphincter muscle to contract), no directed pushing etc... just hands off calm. Check out Mary Cronk's website.

triplets · 15/01/2008 14:48

Thanks everyone, feeling a bit better today, took a bracing walk in the rain, nearly got blown into the sea! Told DH this morning that I was sorry I said I hated him, dont, but just felt pushed to the edge, he did give me a very much longed for hug and say he was sorry too. He puts it all down to us being too old, well, thats not going to get us anywhere, we have to get on with it. Thomas looked a right sight going off to school with his black eye, everyone was tired this morning and wouldnt get up for school, Becca went off looking such a mess, and for once I thought, let her get on with it! Estar, you have given me an idea, and also what you said about the boys being sick of each other, had never occured to me, good point. We have a z bed, it might be an idea to try putting one else where, its worth a try, thank you. We so need a bigger house, we are going to put this place back on the market in the Spring, but feel sad that we really dont want to move, but realistically we have to have more space, well see. Right, better move, school, time, bought the necessary bits to "bun" Becca`s hair for the show tonight, never done a bun before! Thanks everyone, nice to know I am not going mad.

accordiongirl · 15/01/2008 15:07

Yikes, my twins have become weapons of mass destruction, waging biological warfare on all who cross their path..

Accordiongirl walking wounded (flu) says hello and belated happy new year. This is a question for MarsLady, cos I know she's another islington-er like me... thanks.

Which is, know of any spare nannies / mother helps to give me a hand with the DTs who have been ill all through December and are using up January in the same way... And killing off nannies along the way, and us well I fear.

We're looking for help for the tea-bath-bed stint, early mornings when DP working abroad (one week a month, next time's Monday), plus additional babysitting hours and help when things get crunchy!

Sorry to just ask questions all the time, you guys are so good at helping each other out and saying good things at the right time and I'm of no use to anyone at the moment

TripleyTigger · 15/01/2008 15:23

Ohhhhhh I need help too!!

Sorry accordiongirl I don't have any advice

Is it o.k to let me girls sleep together or will it cause problems in the long run?

Every time I go to check on them Molly has snuck into Poppy's bed and they are snuggled up fast asleep together.

They have bunk beds which can be taken apart(but make it quite small in their room)so I didn't know wether I should just give in and push the beds together or be strict now

They are five and have just started doing this since 'big school' so I guess it is a comfort thing?

Chopster · 15/01/2008 15:36

Im sure they'll stop of their own accord once they are ready, tripley. I wouldn't be worried personally, I think it's quite sweet!

I've added hol pics on facebook.

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Chopster · 15/01/2008 16:10

aww, all this twin love. Mine are up there with trip's lot though, shay went back to school with a black eye courtesy of ravi, now turning a lovely shade of yellow.

accordiongirl · 15/01/2008 19:43

It sounds cute and nice... Let the wee girls snuggle I say!

inamuckingfuddle · 15/01/2008 19:56

triplets sorry to hear about your rotten evening, hope it goes well tonight

nice to see you egg congratulations on such a fab birth!

momma I remember when mine first held hands, it was so lovely and they still do it now, walking down the street hand in hand (of course at other times they're tearing each others' hair out )

tripley let them be, in a few years' time you'll be longing for them to snuggle up together!

oooggs · 15/01/2008 19:57

hi all

Egg - I'm good thank you - your new children are lovely - those b&w photos are great

triplets - I hope things improve soon x

chopster - holiday photos are ace

dts due to start nursery on 2nd April just after their 1st birthday see profile for their new nursery bags

MERLYPUSS · 15/01/2008 20:09

TRIPLEY - I am (or was til xmas and will be going back to it God willing) a cub scout leader. We had ID boy twins who would always sleep together when on camp. 2 nine yr olds in the same sleeping bag. Must have been very warm. They started off apart and when we went to them in the morning they had snuggled up. Cute.

TripleyTigger · 15/01/2008 20:34

You lot are sooooo right, I spend so much time worrying about wether it is the right thing,when in fact I should be enjoying the cuteness!!

O.K so I have taken the bunk beds apart and put them side by side!!!

There is even enough room for Brandon now!!! So I said on the weekend he can have a sleep over!!!!

Fingers crossed they will all stay where they are tonight

Thanks guys.x.

PazzaPlusTwo · 15/01/2008 21:14

Hello multimums

Phew finally caught up with the emotional rollercoaster thread ...

Congrats Egg, that's SOOO exciting! Thanks for putting the birth story up it's been v empowering to read it.

Hello to Millie - I'm just a week ahead of you (due May 21st) isn't that great!

Oh yeah my 20-week news is that it's two girls!!! Am SO pleased!!! Everyone laughed at work cos my business partner and I set up a women-in-construction network a while back called Chicks with Bricks, and we run an all-woman architecture practice (nothing against hiring men, just the women have been way better at interview). DH over the moon too.

Am glad we found out, I was totally adamant I wasn't going to but couldn't resist in the end. Same legendary willpower that keeps the choccy box empty around these parts...

Pazza x

inamuckingfuddle · 15/01/2008 21:19

congrats pazza I have 2 girls too and the pinkness only overwhelms me occasionally

Mommalove · 15/01/2008 22:06

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PazzaPlusTwo · 15/01/2008 22:06

Heh heh - before I found out what flavour they are, MIL was saying 'oh it's a shame you don't want to find out beforehand, I'd like to get some clothes for them' and I said 'well I'm really not into the pink/blue thing anyway' and she said 'oh I'm looking forward to buying nice pink frilly things if there's a girl' ... I just thought, er, are you not listening to what I just said?!

PIL's house is hideous kitsch palace so I DREAD to think what she will get...

But then I talked to SIL (bro's wife) who has 1-year-old and plenty of relative-bought monstrosities hidden away (including no doubt some from me!!!) and she convinced me there's no point getting mad about it, they will buy whatever takes their fancy and the easiest thing is to smile sweetly and say thank you! MIL has 2 sons and a grandson so this is her big chance, why rob her of the pleasure?

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PazzaPlusTwo · 15/01/2008 22:09

Triplets - sounds awful what you're going through. Hope it gets better soon. Any chance of getting some counseling with your DH?

Good news tho about his health. A shock from the doc doesn't always work anyway ... FIL is has had 7 operations over the last 2 years on bowel, liver and lungs + chemo, but STILL chainsmokes and drinks maybe 1/3 to 1/2 a bottle of whisky a day plus beer & wine. And smokes around his pregnant DIL unless asked not to!

Big hugs, thinking of you, you're so brilliant coping with all this and also dealing with loss of Matthew which must be really really hard.

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