D'ya ever wonder who put the bop in the bop shh bop, or the ram in the ramma lamma ding dong?

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Come on you multiple mums - there is a 'threatened roll call'

Morning all..............will be in trouble when I get up in the morning, just spent 3 hours and 10 mins talking to my lovely friend in Cornwall.............treated us to a chinese takeaway tonight as I couldn`t face cooking, Mr Grumpy got uppity with me so I came up hear and phoned. he only banged on the ceiling once:o
Sleep well xx

Morning girls xx

Afternoon! Am going to lose my temper with a couple of 12 year old boys in a minute. They're tidying the kitchen and arguing whilst faffing instead of getting on properly.

my sympathies madlizzy, I am just going to lose my rag with 2 13yr old boys in a min if they don`t stop firing nerf guns and get to sleep and stop upsetting their Dad who is very tired and feeling poorly

Morning girls xx

Have had just 2 hours sleep - couldn't go to sleep for whatever strange reason.....Lew is just arriving Arrrrrrrrrrrghhhhh!!

Shabs...........I`m on the coach, give him to me:)

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz see you asap Trips xx

What is it with boys? DH lost his rag with ours over the weekend, as he had asked them to tidy the rooms downstairs of their stuff and take all toys, clothes etc to thier rooms. They said they had finished after about 10minutes, then DH and I went round and filled a big tub, collecting things they has failed to see! DH then threatened to put it all in the dustbin, and they kicked up a stink and said that it wasn't fair, they couldn't be expected to tidy "everyones mess", It was all their things

It makes me sooo when mine say that bubby, after all I spend most of my day picking up other people's mess oir doing things for other people!

I did find a solution though, when they last said it to me. Now, if they say that's not mine or I didn't do that, I offer very kindly to do it for them. My version of doing it ends up creating an even BIGGER mess or job than was there previously. e.g. won't pick up their socks - I empty the whole sock drawer. They don't like me doing their jobs any more.

they stopped leaving their schoolbags laying around when I started throwing them out onto the lawn. ds1's actually ended up in the wheelie bin once

my current bugbear is them leaving drawers with clothes sticking out of them, so now they get chucked on the floor too, they will soon learn!

wahey, we can start a loopy mums club

I'm sure the neighbours think I am loopy, one asked last week why dt1 was out on the lawn crying and claiming we wouldn't let him in the house. He was sat there at the table and looked rather sheepish when I explained to her that he was actually supposed to be hunting for his ds card (lost in the car, parked on the drive) and was howling cos he was being made to hunt for it!

And Me!
I left tidying their rooms /vacuuming and picking up any clothes off their floor (except school wear) for 3 months once, as I refused to go in there and do it for them, when they finally wanted someone for a sleepover, I said "no way" until they did it themselves, I think it also helped that they had so few of the leisure clothes they liked to wear clean, and I would not let them out to play in school clothes, helpsed. But they still are really poor at the job, and also still leave clothes to drop where they stand, unless they really want to wear them somewhere. Oh, and once I sent their packed lunches in a lunchbag that had just been left in the hallway cupboard- it didn't half pong! They now empty out the rubbish put them in the kitchen at the end of the day!

I do struggle with dd and her clothes. She seems to think that the end of her bed is a perfectly adequate alternative to a wardrobe.

it used to be everything chucked into the wardrobe then I did pull out the entire contents of her wardrobe onto the floor once. So the wardrobe stayed tidy, but cant think of a way to deal with the clothes at the end of the bed. Maybe put the contents of the wardrobe with it?

You would think too, that school would wear them out, but they come home so HYPER! They have all been banished to corners now til they calm down.

Do you all also get the "child looking" for items - consisting of a general surface scan the of area, but not going into it, and saying "it's not there"- and the "mum looking"- Go into the area, look everywhere, move things, generally tidy up and usually find what is wanted under a pile of other crap
things!
I often say "did you do a "James/Michael" look, or a "Mum" look.

my lots answer is usually that someone can buy a replacement. dt1 still hasn't found his ds card. Told him u will have to replace it and he doesn't care! I have tried getting them to spend every spare minute doing it for a day or so, but it simply doesn't work! Threatening to turn out every box in their room helps, a little!

They really do have no value of money. dt2 was slightly upset when he lost his ds to pay for the car he trashed. He has the ds back now though, and is still saving, up to £40 now! I'm quite proud of him for that. He was saving for a 3DS, but we've told him he can't have one, so he is going to save for an DS XL instead. I bet that will get looked after far more than the things we buy him!

One of mine has "lost" his ds, prob still in the blackhole he calls a bedroom, but all he does is borrow mine

dh gone away and I am shattered!!!!

God...............has someone been reading my autobiography?? Every word is just life here, it gets me down down down. May I ask, you know mine are 13, is not 9.30pm a reasonable bed -time? They really wind me up by declaring they are hungry and start getting out cereals etc when its bedtime, I am tired and just lose it, get no back up from dh as he has usually had a few drinks and leaves me to get on with it. Everybody seems on edge here atm, snap snap snap. I feel exhausted, have swollen puffy feet, a cold sore and feel as though I am full of niggly pains everywhere. How the hell do you win? My prob is not just the trio but him as well, cancer or not I can`t keep doing it:(

Trips- I really feel for you...what can we do to to help?
Have you told your dh how you feel? Also, have you spoken to macmillan support? or have you been to your GP for help?
9.30 is a reasonable bedtime for 13yr olds on a school night. I must admit my 2 have a 8-8.30 bedtime, lights out has to be 8.30. I do a countdown from first warning of approching time at 7.00, turn off x-box, ds whatever, or put away toys, shower and last drink and biscuit to be done by 7.45, reading to be done before light out. They still do mess about, but at least it usually means i have them asleep by 9.15 or so.

Thank you Bubbly, just abit of kindness makes me feel better. Just hate the way life is atm, the cancer has really knocked our lives for 6. Life has been a struggle for 17 years, and sometimes I just feel I can`t go on, then tomorrow comes and I slap my face back on.

Morning girls xx

aww {{{hugs}}} trips. My dh mostly shouts at our lot, and twice I have had to apologise to the neighbours cos he has woken them in the mornings. And this is the neighbours that live OPPOSITE!

It def must get harder as they get older. my oldest is only 11, so lights out is at 8 for her, 7.30 for the boys. All the kids do half an hour silent reading before bed, and no drinks after an hour before bedtime and no snacks after tea. No snacks at all without asking. I only recently started snacks after school, and cut down dinner size to compensate. Don't really believe in snacks! Maybe put a lock on the kitchen? On paper, it makes it sound like a prison really but if I let them run riot I would go mad.

Anyone else find theirs easier to deal with when they are NOT at school? Mine come home from school being absolute little sods. They were so hyper that yesterday was mostly a screaming match from 3.30 until teatime. Twice they all ended up in corners, dt2 got chucked in the garden to calm down at one point. I don't know what the school do to them!

{{{Trips}}}, hope you feel better about things soon.
Chops - I was like you about snacks until recently, but mine have now got to the age they are constantly hungry, they have snacks, cereal, and eat a really good dinner, and still complain they are hungry! They mustn't take snacks without asking, but they are asking more and more now! I think (and hope!) they are entering a growth spurt, most of their friends have started this already. My SIL said her 2, who are 2yrs older are like a plague of locusts in her house!
Also, I think that age has a lot to do with the behaviour, It has been very noticable over the past year how little control my 2 have on their emotions, especially their tempers, and their friends mums say the same. I grew so concerned at one point that I spoke to the school nurse, and she said their hormones start to flow from about 9yrs, and they don't know how to cope with the feeling they have. She said to just think of it as the troublesome tens, not terrible twos!

Trips, you sound exhausted. 9.30 is very reasonable, and my three will go from 9pm to 9.30 when they turn 13 in March. Can you say to them at 9pm that if they want cereal, get it now as the kitchen will be closed in 10 minutes?