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Mixed raced couple looking to move out of London

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sammy90 · 24/06/2014 20:59

Hi, I have two mixed race children and looking to move out of London but want to move to a multicultural area still. Any areas best known? Please let me know thanks

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sammy90 · 04/07/2014 23:10

Anyone can research the Internet and read statements and statics that are all based on LIES I wanted the real truth from the real living people who live in these parts of the UK.

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DottyDooRidesAgain · 04/07/2014 23:11

Damn autocorrecting pain in the arse!

So sorry for the typos. Angry

HecatePropylaea · 04/07/2014 23:11

We are a mixed race family ( white and black african) and we moved to a village in rural derbyshire and in 8 years nobody has given a flying fuck. I thjnk there are many a dozen non white kids in my kids secondary school and its never been an issue.
so I'd say come here. Grin

HecatePropylaea · 04/07/2014 23:11

Maybe not many

DottyDooRidesAgain · 04/07/2014 23:12

LIES really Hmm.

OK the OP you know best.

Hope you find somewhere that fits your criteria.

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sammy90 · 04/07/2014 23:13

Oh yes by the way I have family who live in rural parts of uk but I wanted outsider opinions , why should I get shouted down for that? Gosh can't have any form of freedom of speech or what?! Just facts what I pointed out. Don't like what you heard make a change.

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yorkshirepuddings · 04/07/2014 23:13

My DS is not a "curiosity" to his friends. You are coming across as the ignorant one with a huge chip on your shoulder.

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 04/07/2014 23:13

Lies?

OP, you're sounding paranoid now.

I really hope you find somewhere you like living, and that you find that people are more open minded than you imagine. I'm sure you will.

Jinsei · 04/07/2014 23:15

OP, I live in a small(ish) town. Don't want to say where it is on here, but it's very diverse. Around half of dd's primary school class are either dual heritage or from a BME background (dd is also dual heritage). All if the communities mix really well, no problems. I did see racism where we used to live, but it certainly isn't the norm outside London and I'm often surprised to see that idea on here.

Can you not visit places of interest to get a feel for what they're like? Have a look at some of the schools?

yorkshirepuddings · 04/07/2014 23:16

You want the real truth - a number of us are living in these areas in mixed race marriages. Why can you not accept what we say?

DottyDooRidesAgain · 04/07/2014 23:16

Nobody has shouted you down for wanting out side opinions. A few have said your wording was a little Hmm.

In fact most have been quite helpful however you seem intent on starting/having an argument so I will leave you too it. I do not wish to be involved in racist goadyness (not a real word I know).

TallyGrenshall · 04/07/2014 23:17

I live in Norfolk and in church/school there are people from, off the top of my head, Portugal, Poland, Malta, Thailand, The Philippines and Bulgaria.

Norfolk is not just a mass of white faces with several generations that have never left the county

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sammy90 · 04/07/2014 23:18

Sometime appearances aren't always the same as living there.

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MyChemicalGerard · 04/07/2014 23:18

This thread has to be a wind up? And I totally agree with gamerchick, it was posed in a very racist regard, It is assuming that 'white areas of England are bad and that everyone is racist and unwelcoming there, as well as saying they would lose their identity? In what way would they lose their identity, if anything it would become stronger surely?

No one can be this ignorant surely.

MyChemicalGerard · 04/07/2014 23:19

FYI I am from London but have spent a lot of time living in Harrogate North Yorkshire and I know a few multi cultural people, and have never encountered racism here.

yorkshirepuddings · 04/07/2014 23:21

But some of us do live in these places. You seem intent on ignoring this fact and carrying on with your fixed mindset about racism in areas that are mono-cultural.

DottyDooRidesAgain · 04/07/2014 23:22

MyChemicalGerard I love Harrogate Grin

Mr Cavendish was at Betty's Tea Rooms today [heart emoticon] Grin

DottyDooRidesAgain · 04/07/2014 23:25

May have been yesterday? Not sure now Confused

MyChemicalGerard · 04/07/2014 23:31

Shock No Dotty I wasn't there today or yesterday!! NOOOO :)

DottyDooRidesAgain · 04/07/2014 23:33

He was all lycra and thighs [dirty grin emoticon]

MyChemicalGerard · 04/07/2014 23:36

Hahaha we actually should have a [dirty grin emoticon]! Sorry not sorry for derailing the thread too Bike

ElephantsNeverForgive · 04/07/2014 23:45

I can, partially, sympathise with the OP.

I live in a very white bit of middle England. DD's Thai freind and her sibling were the only black children in their primary, I think, they are the only Asian, DCs in the 1200, secondary. There are/were (the ones I saw as a barent have gone off to uni) a few black DCs. DD1 shares her lessons with a mixed race boy.

We also have a fair few Europeans, East and West.

As far as I can make out DD2's DF and DD1 class mate don't get any flack/racism, but they can never be anonymous.

That's fine, if you are a stunning musician who clearly loves performing, but for other ethnic DCs at the school it must get slightly wearing.

Scaredycat3000 · 04/07/2014 23:55

We've recently moved from Brixton area to a small town. I never discussed skin colour in any form with my young DC, I mean what's to discuss? He went to nursery with every ethnicity you could probably get, the colour of a child's skin bore no relation to what part of the world they may be from or anything else about them. Now we drive past road signs with 'Go home XXXX' graffiti on it and a month of houses covered in UKIP banners and discuss that we say some one has black or white skin even though we're not actually black or white, I can thank his CofE I so wish there was another viable option school for teaching him racism is wrong, he had no concept of racism before.
I'd stick to big towns, I wouldn't rule out cities, London is quite unique, Bristol seems like a big town to me Confused and yes racism is often very subtle.
To avoid the years of teasing my DC are about to suffer for their ginger hair we would have to leave the country.

FellReturneth · 05/07/2014 08:55

living in a village seems impossible as people will just ignore us and when when other children play with mine it would just be out of curiosity

Good grief. Are you for real? What are they, your children - green aliens with two heads and six legs?

As for your friend and her child in Norfolk, given you've arrived at your conclusions of Norfolk being full of racists based on a survey of one participant, did it even occur to you that perhaps those parents wouldn't let their children play with the child for some other reason than the fact he was mixed race? I've known plenty of children over the years who I've gone to great efforts to avoid my children mixing with, and they've all been white. They just happen to have been horrible, naughty kids.

maggieandannie · 07/07/2014 21:30

Not resurrecting this thread, but read it as after 40 years of being mixed race and living in Northern Ireland, Belfast for 20 of them I would say please stay in London or Bristol. I am just back after a weekend visiting my sister who lives in London and each time I arrive in London I breathe I sigh of relief just to feel anonymous.

Back in Belfast tonight, where in 2014 we have locals only signs on houses, bricks through windows and racist attacks almost on a daily basis. And no I do not live in a bad area at all, but am at the stage where I go to work and back and to shop only locally and back.

I have a dd who is white, and as her mixed race mother am finally making plans to leave the town I was born in and live in London or possibly Bristol.