Mixed raced couple looking to move out of London

[sammy90]

Hi, I have two mixed race children and looking to move out of London but want to move to a multicultural area still. Any areas best known? Please let me know thanks

I believe so buzzard ashame as it is really beautiful there.

Not allowing children to speak to a mixed race child is beyond odd though.

That's disgusting behaviour and not typical of anywhere, even with 99% white children.

Please don't imagine that anywhere which is not multicultural would accept that kind of behaviour.

Plenty of white families would like their children to grow up in an ethnically diverse area too. It's a valid question to ask. I have lived in Bristol, Bath, Cornwall and Wiltshire and the only one out of those that I would consider to have diverse ethnicity would be Bristol. It also happens to be my favourite city. London is too big for me!

Thetford is pretty diverse, Norwich isn't bad. Yarmouth is most diverse but deprivation problems. I'm not sure about Lynn. I'm white and I've not witnessed bad experiences at all for non-white kids BUT I would feel conspicuous if I weren't white. Friend (Indian Sikh) refers to North Norfolk as "brownie-free zone" and her white husband was pretty peeved about their mixed race children getting stared at there. I am foreign & that makes me stand out as things are.

Do you want big city, small city, big town, small town, village or hamlet? I think there are a lot of culturally diverse places of all sizes & flavours up north, Yorkshire, Lancashire, parts of Scotland nr the big southern cities.

my DS is mixed race.

We have lived in a few different areas of a large town in W Yorkshire - no issues whatsoever. A few years ago I met my 'new' DH and moved to his town - which is a little more conservative - but I can't say I have noticed any reactions towards DS.

I would imagine that most large towns and cities have a very wide mix of nationalities and races nowadays.

We caused more confusion last summer on arrival at our french holiday rental. The owner of the property couldn't quite place my DS -seeing as me, DH and DSS are all white- DS is mixed white and black caribbean. I guess they don't see that very often in very rural France ;)

Thank you ladies for joining the conversation

Gamerchick - how can the OP be racist when the question was about areas that are multicultural ie. black and white ?

I live in rural Lancashire, a sprinkling of kids from other races in our school, two dual heritage kids in my son's class. I have never heard any racism from the kids or parents (which of course isn't to say it doesn't sneakily exist).
My eldest son (white) brought his Asian girlfriend home from University and she felt quite uncomfortable to be the only non white person in the pub. So yes, I can see where you are coming from.

Thank for that tinkly and everyone else for answering and understanding my question

Gamer what on earth are you on about, how the hell is it racist to seek to live in a diverse city? Quite the opposite in fact.

No, the third post by the OP was.. reverse it and it would have been stamped on all over for pages.

The double standards is laughable.

I do understand where you're coming from, I like living in a multicultural area, but please don't assume that if you moved to a village in Cornwall, your child would be called blackey, that would just be shocking.

I am in a mixed-race marriage with 3 mixed-race children.

We are also looking to move out of London. I completely understand your dilemma.

Smaller cities seem a good idea to us.

We are wary of living rurally, my mum lives in Dorset now and although her town is more mixed due to London influx DH has still had negative comments from people in the local area. DH has also experienced racial abuse whilst working in some areas of the country, Harrogate in Yorkshire was particularly bad, bananas being thrown from passing cars and racist verbal abuse. Mind you he has also been racially abused in London where we live.

Bristol would be a good choice, still loads going on so not too much of a downsize from London.

I'm not from Bristol but have visited loads, maybe someone else could suggest some areas within.

Sheffield is very multicultural. Very diverse and has lots going on.

I think if you stick to a city you are fine anywhere - even in Devon these days :) (maybe not a village though). But if I was looking for somewhere very multicultural I would go to Bristol or the midlands.

My great great uncle was a well known (& still celebrated) mixed race player for Plymouth Argyle in the 1920's. I can't begin to imagine what that was like for him!

I understand what you are saying. You can add Worcestershire to your list though, it is lovely. :)

DH has also experienced racial abuse whilst working in some areas of the country, Harrogate in Yorkshire was particularly bad, bananas being thrown from passing cars and racist verbal abuse

Fucking hell! Was that recently??

These day unless you go right into the back of beyond, pretty much everywhere is fairly multi-cultural and multi-ethnic.

If you only move to places where you think there will be other mixed race families then you are the one stropping an area becoming multi-cultural and keeping it white.

People like to sneer at all white areas as though it is somehow the fault/doing of the people who live there, but if you think about it, it can only be the fault/doing of the people who don't live there.

stopping not stropping

If you'd like to know about Hertfordshire, pm me. I've lived all over the county and experienced lovely multicultural places as well as places where we experienced open racism.

I appreciate that you want to live in a diverse area. Your choice, but it is sweeping to make the assumptions you have.

I'm going to side a bit with gamerchick. I live in a very white area. My husband is the only black person where we live. He has never encountered any racism here.

My son (mixed race) has never encountered racism, other children and families are inclusive. Teachers have never treated him differently.

You might think I am naive - I'm not. I know racism can be a problem, but in nearly 20 years it has never been a problem for us. My DH's family have encountered more racism than us and they live in much more diverse areas.

Also don't assume that my DS has lost his identity due to living in very white area. Nothing could be further from the truth. His identity is incredibly strong.

I'm mixed race and my DH is non European.

Don't assume that everywhere outside London is racist because it isn't.

This.

There's a lot of racism on this thread, lots of nasty little comments that make unpleasant negative assumptions based on skin colour.

I live in one of the places you dismiss so ignorantly, OP.

It's gorgeous and friendly.

Maybe because I've got the right attitude and I didn't move here looking for racist neighbours.

I'm hiding this thread because I agree with gamerchick

FWIW I'm reporting the thread because I think it's a wind up. Nobody is that ignorant.