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done something really stupid - took some money from work

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bleat34 · 14/06/2005 15:24

i have been so stupid and i dont know what to do. I had some petty cash expenses to bank at work and I stole £30 of it. I cant even believe I am typing this but I did take it, i meant to pay it back but didnt. Now the treasureer has realised the money is missing. I feel sick. If I could pay the money back I would but she knows its gone now. She thinks its a probelem with the petty cash. I dont know what to do. I feel so awful and sick about it I cant believe I did it.

please please help.

OP posts:

Flossam · 15/06/2005 19:31

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Mud · 15/06/2005 19:32

yes people make mistakes, like adding up 2 and 2 and getting 5, or tripping over something but stealing off your employer is hardly a 'mistake' now is it

Hulababy · 15/06/2005 19:32

Looks like she posted yesterday...possibly looking for any outlet????...and then paid it back today. First post Tuesday; update Wednesday.

Hulababy · 15/06/2005 19:33

But we don't know any mitigating reasons. I know it doesn't make the actual crime any better, but even in a court of law mitigating reasons are submitted and considered!

giraffeski · 15/06/2005 19:34

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Aragon · 15/06/2005 19:36

Just read all this thread. Glad you returned this money. Sounds like you gave yourself a real kick when the reality of what you'd done hit home. Look into it, examine why you did it, make contingency plans to stop it ever happening again but then put it behind you and move on. It's scary when we behave in a way we wouldn't normally but we all make errors of judgement at some time or another. Learn from it but don't let it haunt you.

Mud · 15/06/2005 19:37

Hello, I'm sorry you know that £30 you thought you'd lost well in a moment of madness I took it and I don't know why. I am truly sorry, I have replaced it as you can see, with interest and I am devastated that I have abused your trust in me. I am seeking counselling to find out why I did such a horrendous thing and can guarantee that it will never happen again

that kind of admission I would consider having a mitigating circumstance - just putting it back and praying I'd get away with it for the next god knows how many years I would still consider theft

giraffeski · 15/06/2005 19:39

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Hulababy · 15/06/2005 19:39

Ok Mud. I have my own opinion too and I am also entitled to it. I am not going to start arguing with you over someone else's crime. I come on MN for chat, a laugh, advise and support - not disagreements. I have given bleat my thoughts...I am moving on.

Hulababy · 15/06/2005 19:41

And by mitigating reasons I did mean something a little more thought provoking - desperate need for money, some real hardship, a cry for help, etc. But I suspect you knew that already.

Anyway, off to nicer threads now.

Mud · 15/06/2005 19:44

girrafeski - personally I think she's harmed the 'innocent people' who put their trust in her by abusing that trust

hulababy - if that's the way you feel then why do you always try to temper other people's posts by doing your 'advice / sympathy or be damned' posts - this isn't the first time I've seen it.

Aragon · 15/06/2005 19:45

Hmm! Difficult this. Don't really want to get into a moral and ethical discussion but my thoughts (for what they are worth) are....

This is still theft (even with the cash replaced the theft still took place)

BUT

How dreadful to lose your job and possibly your only income because you had a moment of madness and which you corrected. It would cost far more to support bleat on benefits. Theft is theft but there are greater thefts and much more harm done in other cases. I think bleat has done the right thing. She now needs to make sure it doesn't ever happen again.

Just my opinion FWIW

Enid · 15/06/2005 19:47

mud you are harsh!

I agree that it seems a bit odd that it was all sorted out so quickly but I've seen worse (IMO) admissions on here.

She sounded genuinely heartstricken though didnt you think?

QueenEagle · 15/06/2005 19:54

I have personally been in exactly this position my self when I was 16. I was working for a High Street shop and lost my job, I was prosecuted and I did community service. I had extreme mitigating circumstances in my defence, none of which I will bore anyone with right now. I have a few questions if bleat is willing to answer them:

How old are you?

You talk about working out why you did it - are there things still going on now?

As a teenager, my theft was a cry for help - bleat, why do you think you did it?

If you want to CAT me about these things I am quite willing to chat with you. If not, I understand.

One other question is nagging at me though - you say you put back a little more than you took, but surely this is still going to make the books wrong?? How is that goiing to be explained?

dejags · 15/06/2005 20:16

Mud, that's a bit on the harsh side dont you think? Whilst I agree with you that dishonesty hurts unsuspecting people, life isn't black and white. Why attack other posters? I wouldn't normally say anything but the tone of your posts too me aback a bit.

Hulababy · 15/06/2005 20:21

Whatever Mud; maybe I just like to see the better in people. Besides, the crimes I see and discuss each day at work at, in comparison, so much worse than this. I don't like to see other posters, who offer advice, etc. critisied for doing so. Maybe I am just too soft at times

albosmum · 15/06/2005 20:44

well done for giving it back [nothing else to say]

Mud · 15/06/2005 22:14

I haven't attacked anyone I have made comments about something I feel quite strongly about which is the way society nowadays accepts petty crimes and asks you to sympathise with it. if you see my comments as harsh maybe that's because you don't see it as a criminal act because its so little money what if it was 300,000 instead?

Hulababy - you are not soft at all, maybe I'm mistaken but you seem on lots ofoccasion to be mumsnet policeman telling people how and when to post and that if they can't say something nice not to say anything at all. belies the whole concept of discussion board

Hulababy · 15/06/2005 22:17

Mud - I was a moderator until recently. I asked to have a break, partially due the the amount of unpleasantness occuring on MN and being at the end of some comments at the time when defending a friend. Habits take a while to go I guess. But I still hate to see the amount of unsupportive, or maybe rathe rtactless, posts that seem to occur far more often o n MN recently. That is not a dig at you, or anyone BTW - just a general feeling over the past few months.

handlemecarefully · 15/06/2005 22:51

Bleat - well done for putting it back.

Don't go there again!

jambo1707 · 16/06/2005 12:15

well done for putting the dosh back but how WILL they balance the books now if you ot more money back???

Mud and hullaby kiss and make up PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!

jambo1707 · 16/06/2005 12:15

well done for putting the dosh back but how WILL they balance the books now if you ot more money back???

Mud and hullaby kiss and make up PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!

Cam · 16/06/2005 12:24

Agree with Aragon

Confessing now will have too many far-reaching consequences that this misdemeanour does not warrant

wordsmith · 16/06/2005 12:26

Bleat - you sound as though this has really got to you. Are you in a position where you have to handle petty cash on a regular basis? Would it be possible to avoid having to do it without raising suspicions? If so I would try and avoid temptation. Please ignore the moral high ground on some of these posts - they obviously know why you did it even less than you do yourself. I hope you can find help to sort yourself out if you feel you have a problem.

Tortington · 16/06/2005 18:40

close one eh bleat?

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