done something really stupid - took some money from work

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i have been so stupid and i dont know what to do. I had some petty cash expenses to bank at work and I stole £30 of it. I cant even believe I am typing this but I did take it, i meant to pay it back but didnt. Now the treasureer has realised the money is missing. I feel sick. If I could pay the money back I would but she knows its gone now. She thinks its a probelem with the petty cash. I dont know what to do. I feel so awful and sick about it I cant believe I did it.

please please help.

"i meant to pay it back but didnt. Now the treasureer has realised the money is missing. I feel sick."

but if they hadn't realised?

Hmmm, sorry, not much sympathy coming from this quarter I'm afraid.

There's no point in losing your job over it, but hopefully you've learned a lesson. I certainly wouldn't start story telling you'll just get into an even bigger mess.

Sorry but you STOLE from your company and now you post because there's a chance you might be found out and you are worried about the consequences because 'I meant to pay it back'

well quite honestly you stole it, you didn't pay it back and you have one option IMHO

to confess, repay the money, apologise and take whatever consequences happen.

if you lie or make up a story noone will believe you completely, if you tell the truth you may be given a 2nd chance

if it was your child and it was something like taking another child's toy what would you advice them to do?

I am not a troll. I havent posted much before but I have changed my name for this for reaseons I am sure you will udnerstand...anyway I put the money back in, plus a bit more and they now think it was an error which is sorted now. i know it was a stupid thing to do and I am trying to work out why I did it... i did something like this once before in my teens but never since then...trying to get to the bottom of it.

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bleat, despite not giving you much (any!) sympathy, I am glad it has worked out for you. I think as you say you need to seriously examine the reasons why you did it ... people do all sorts of strange things for reasons they don't fully understand, and you certainly don't want to go through that again. BTW I thought you were brave to post in the first place.

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She has paid it back - give her a break.

why, she's a theif who didn't get caught - why should she be given a break??

Because she gave it back. It doesn't exonerate her, but it makes her better than if she had not. Also, she seems to have a fair amount of guilt for what she did.

To err is human, to forgive divine.

Mud, people do things for all sorts of reasons. I expect bleat has punished herself enough.

oh get off your high horse, the only people capable of offering forgiveness are those who put their trust in this poster with their company money, their misplaced trust as it turns out. don't think we should be applauding someone because they got away with it and posted about feeling guilty on an anonymous website with an anonymous name

what do you suggest then?

admit to it and apologise to people involved or live with the guilt. people used to have more self-respect and more sense of personal honour. don't see why this is even an argument or a question. seen a number of posts here that equate to 'I have stolen this, what should I do' from unsuspected undercharging to duplicate goods delivered - what a sad indictments of the moral standpoint held by so many people today.

I am not applauding her, but just as I am not the person to forgive her, neither are you the person to condemn her. She is only asking for advice, perhaps trying to expunge her sin through public confession and why shouldn't she use this forum for that if she feels she can?

And I am not on a high horse believe me. Horses small or large frighten me!

but I'm not condemning her - whoever she is she's condemning herself. I'm just commenting on a situation that someone has posted about. it takes a strong person to confess their misdemeanors and take the consequences, it doesn't take as much strength to try to get away with it. a life lived in guilt is a sad sad thing

like the horse comment though

Tell me about it!

I still don't understand why people bother posting if they can offer no advise or suggestions; if the post is so awful then why not just ignore it?

bleat - you have now put the money back; I think it is time to move on from this and make sure that, regardless of any reasons behind it, you learn from this gross error of judgement and never do anything like it again. The consequences of being found out could be devasting in future - sack, fraud, theft, dishonesty, etc? Npoot worth it, as I am sure you are realising now.

Good. You usually stick up for me so i don't want to fall out with you!

oh ffs - why do people bother posting if they can offer no advice or suggestions? because they have a point of view on what the original poster said which is different from the 'don't 'fess up, you'll get in trouble' stance that others have posted. just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean I am shit-stirring - I have a strong pov about dishonesty, it sickens me and it hurts innocent people

i thought you were connected withthe legal profession in some way to hulababy

I am. My Dh is a solicitor; I work in a prison. Not sure what that has to do with it TBH though.

I am not saying what bleat did was right. But s/he has now done something positive in returning the money, and I sincerely hope that s/he learns from this gross error of judgement, as I wrote.

People do make mistakes. People do all sorts of things for all sorts of reasons. Some people are genuine crooks - I know, I deal with several every working day.

At this stage there isn't the evidence or facts either way. Therefore, I am not going to judge without knowing all the facts.

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