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£100k + Universal Credit?

278 replies

NeverGoingToGiveYouUpButIMayLetYouDown · 23/09/2025 15:44

I want to claim UC as I am no longer able to work due to a progressive illness.

Husband and I are divorcing. I owed him money, from a verbally-agreed loan between us both, so I transferred money to him three months ago. Plus, some of his savings were in my account, so I also transferred this back to him three months ago.

Will Universal Credit look unfavourably at all this - that I transferred £100k to him, and have very little (less than £16k) left over for myself? I have never claimed benefits before, so I am nervous this will be seen as deprivation of capital, despite occuring prior to me making a claim.

OP posts:
Soontobe60 · 25/09/2025 19:56

NeverGoingToGiveYouUpButIMayLetYouDown · 23/09/2025 17:36

I am not scared of him, no. There was no abuse of any kind throughout.

He said he will be able to prove how he and his new partner, who is expecting, will need our home more than I. My children are at University.

My deal is to have the car worth 17k and monthly payment of £850.

The turn to us calculator shows that I will be eligible for UC and housing element to help me rent somewhere.

But you won’t get a penny as he’ll be handing over half the £100k plus half the equity in the house.
This situation is NOT what UC is for. It’s fraud, pure and simple.

Kelly1969 · 25/09/2025 19:57

Coconutter24 · 23/09/2025 18:46

Ahh so your ex wants to keep the house and all the money for him and his new expecting partner, he’s told you he’ll give you £850 a month (is that from him in not 100% sure), you can keep a car and then he’s told you you can get housing help from UC……. This man isn’t looking out for you. Go get your own solicitor

Agreed.
also does OP know that spousal maintenance is deducted £ for £ from UC, so even if entitled to UC it will be seriously reduced.
All sounds so dodgy, minimizing marital settlement to claim UC…

Soontobe60 · 25/09/2025 20:04

NeverGoingToGiveYouUpButIMayLetYouDown · 23/09/2025 23:24

3 months ago, my husband said 'You are to return every penny of mine in your accounts, including the XYZ I lent you for medical treatment'.

I am a hypochondriac, so when I got serious symptoms at the end of last year, it sent me into a spiral and thus, he agreed to lend me money. I now realise this wasn't as charitable as he made out. The money was untouched, unmoved and unused as I was seen on the NHS within a week.

What is so difficult to believe about that?

I am not a muppet as someone so unkindly put it. Both of us had these conversations about UC and the settlement infront of the joint rep solicitor who did not say a peep out of turn against my husband. Surely, the solicitor would have said funds in a marriage are shared - despite my belief that as he was earning it all, it belongs to him. In effect, he was temporarily dumping it in my account. Marriage allowance exists for tax advantages which we did previously.

In the case of money being shared, I should have access to half of his personal (multiple!) ISAs and savings, which was never ever brought up in our appointments by our joint solicitor. My husband is wealthy. I do not need UC if what was shared on here is correct - I may never need it if I have access to even one half of one of his pensions.

No one will believe that you had serious signs of cancer, your DH handed over £100k almost the same day and within a week you were seen via the NHS so had no need for this ‘loan’. And that you kept hold of that money for 6 months until such time as you decided to divorce him and promptly handed it back, no questions asked. Plus the ‘savings’ that he oddly put into your savings account (why did he do that), which you more oddly handed back to him.

Rosscameasdoody · 25/09/2025 20:57

Soontobe60 · 25/09/2025 19:56

But you won’t get a penny as he’ll be handing over half the £100k plus half the equity in the house.
This situation is NOT what UC is for. It’s fraud, pure and simple.

If intending to buy a home, OP is allowed six months grace before the money is counted as savings. As long as OP declares everything she’s not committing fraud.

Burningbud1981 · 25/09/2025 21:27

Rosscameasdoody · 25/09/2025 20:57

If intending to buy a home, OP is allowed six months grace before the money is counted as savings. As long as OP declares everything she’s not committing fraud.

Only if the proceeds came from a house you’ve sold. It’s a long thread. Uc it’s not clear if that’s what’s happened

NeverGoingToGiveYouUpButIMayLetYouDown · 25/09/2025 21:33

I am back...

I discussed, at length, the situation I find myself in, with a new solicitor. To those who said the Judge would never have signed off the settlement - indeed, this was the advice repeated today. I was then frankly baffled as to why the joint rep had wasted our time drafting it. A consent order would not be granted on the paperwork so far; it is as useful as a chocolate teapot.

To those accusing me of orchestrating fraud, your fears cease here because I shall not be applying for UC/state benefits. The solicitor does not ordinarily deal with UC anyway.

I am only sharing numbers today as it is fair for Mumsnet to get the whole picture as to why I am not going to claim UC. Whilst we could not go through my entire financial details with a fine-toothed comb today, I was at least put at ease by the solicitor confirming she would fight for a fair settlement for me - meaning our £1.4m (pre-renovation valuation) house and savings of £390k (excluding pensions) would be split at least 50:50. Only, I feared that I spent far too much energy in January, when we purchased our new house, ensuring that it was in joint names, and not doing the same for the savings accounts. Despite having zero paper trail of me contributing towards the £390k ISAs/saving accounts, it does not matter! For reference, £100k of said £390k was in my account to make maximum use of ISA allowances.

I wanted to know if I originally could claim housing element for a 2 bed flat, despite being a single adult, so my children can stay over in between University. That was the worry keeping me up, alongside thoughts of capital deprivation.

Thank you Mumsnet as my worries have changed course, and I now focus on securing better, fairer and a more just outcome from my adulterous husband.

OP posts:
Arlanymor · 25/09/2025 21:35

NeverGoingToGiveYouUpButIMayLetYouDown · 25/09/2025 21:33

I am back...

I discussed, at length, the situation I find myself in, with a new solicitor. To those who said the Judge would never have signed off the settlement - indeed, this was the advice repeated today. I was then frankly baffled as to why the joint rep had wasted our time drafting it. A consent order would not be granted on the paperwork so far; it is as useful as a chocolate teapot.

To those accusing me of orchestrating fraud, your fears cease here because I shall not be applying for UC/state benefits. The solicitor does not ordinarily deal with UC anyway.

I am only sharing numbers today as it is fair for Mumsnet to get the whole picture as to why I am not going to claim UC. Whilst we could not go through my entire financial details with a fine-toothed comb today, I was at least put at ease by the solicitor confirming she would fight for a fair settlement for me - meaning our £1.4m (pre-renovation valuation) house and savings of £390k (excluding pensions) would be split at least 50:50. Only, I feared that I spent far too much energy in January, when we purchased our new house, ensuring that it was in joint names, and not doing the same for the savings accounts. Despite having zero paper trail of me contributing towards the £390k ISAs/saving accounts, it does not matter! For reference, £100k of said £390k was in my account to make maximum use of ISA allowances.

I wanted to know if I originally could claim housing element for a 2 bed flat, despite being a single adult, so my children can stay over in between University. That was the worry keeping me up, alongside thoughts of capital deprivation.

Thank you Mumsnet as my worries have changed course, and I now focus on securing better, fairer and a more just outcome from my adulterous husband.

This is an amazing update. You get what you are owed. You have the right people fighting on your side. And yes, the adulterer’s chickens have come home to roost. Onwards and upwards @NeverGoingToGiveYouUpButIMayLetYouDown

Agapornis · 25/09/2025 21:40

Well done! Finally you'll get paid for your years of free labour and accomodating his career.

Silvers11 · 25/09/2025 21:51

Excellent news @NeverGoingToGiveYouUpButIMayLetYouDown So glad you took the advice here to get your own solicitor.

LondonLady15 · 25/09/2025 21:56

Best OP update I’ve read in a long time! Well done OP and well done mumsnet!!

stick with your new solicitors advice and proceed to claim your 50% share rightly owed to you from your marriage. Don’t feed anything back to your husband about your discussions and just let the divorce and financial order play out.

Hopefully a settled financial future will help enormously with your health battles. Good luck!

estellacandance · 25/09/2025 22:34

Great update!

this is/was clear domestic abuse - financial abuse is domestic abuse. You should maybe even consider seeking advice from women’s aid about pursuing this criminally if it meets the coercive control threshold.

id also hold off on the divorce until the child is born- if his name is on the birth certificate it is proof of adultery- take advice from your solicitor to see if this will help you.

Lougle · 25/09/2025 23:37

@NeverGoingToGiveYouUpButIMayLetYouDown I'm so pleased you've had good advice and you've gained the confidence to follow it.

HellsBellsAndCatsWhiskers · 26/09/2025 06:44

I'm so glad you're not allowing your husband to screw you over. I'd also be putting in a complaint about that first solicitor who was most definitely not giving you sound legal advice. Had he/she been promised a larger % of the overall settlement from your husband for things going his way? Who knows.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/09/2025 06:47

HellsBellsAndCatsWhiskers · 26/09/2025 06:44

I'm so glad you're not allowing your husband to screw you over. I'd also be putting in a complaint about that first solicitor who was most definitely not giving you sound legal advice. Had he/she been promised a larger % of the overall settlement from your husband for things going his way? Who knows.

If that is what happened then the consequences for him would be even more severe. She should definitely put in a complaint to the SRA though.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/09/2025 06:51

Such a brilliant update @NeverGoingToGiveYouUpButIMayLetYouDown. I'm so glad you're getting proper advice at last.

I can't believe your husband was planning to keep essentially all of your ALMOST £2 MILLION marital assets and leave you to claim Universal Credit. What a scumbag. Even his rightful share is more than enough to house several pregnant mistresses in, not that that is your problem.

A word of warning: be prepared for him to get very nasty when he finds out you are taking your own legal advice and going to fight for your rightful share.

What do your children think about all of this?

TheDayWeGotMinnie · 26/09/2025 07:03

None on this makes sense. Everything you have between you is a marital asset. Just because he's wandering off in to the sunset with his pregnant partner doesn't mean he needs property etc more than you. He has future earnings potential so is likely to get less than half and any decent solicitor knows this. And why are you using the same solicitor. I'd get some independent legal representation quickly if I was you. The marital assets pick up your cost of living not the tax payer.

TheDayWeGotMinnie · 26/09/2025 07:05

Apologies OP just read your update. So glad you're getting proper advice and help!

Soontobe60 · 26/09/2025 07:16

Rosscameasdoody · 25/09/2025 20:57

If intending to buy a home, OP is allowed six months grace before the money is counted as savings. As long as OP declares everything she’s not committing fraud.

But the OP isn’t declaring anything, she’s saying she hasn’t got any money!

thejeanjeanie · 26/09/2025 07:27

Excellent update, well done! Sorry you were ever put in the position to think otherwise.

Good luck x

Oldwmn · 26/09/2025 08:07

NeverGoingToGiveYouUpButIMayLetYouDown · 25/09/2025 21:33

I am back...

I discussed, at length, the situation I find myself in, with a new solicitor. To those who said the Judge would never have signed off the settlement - indeed, this was the advice repeated today. I was then frankly baffled as to why the joint rep had wasted our time drafting it. A consent order would not be granted on the paperwork so far; it is as useful as a chocolate teapot.

To those accusing me of orchestrating fraud, your fears cease here because I shall not be applying for UC/state benefits. The solicitor does not ordinarily deal with UC anyway.

I am only sharing numbers today as it is fair for Mumsnet to get the whole picture as to why I am not going to claim UC. Whilst we could not go through my entire financial details with a fine-toothed comb today, I was at least put at ease by the solicitor confirming she would fight for a fair settlement for me - meaning our £1.4m (pre-renovation valuation) house and savings of £390k (excluding pensions) would be split at least 50:50. Only, I feared that I spent far too much energy in January, when we purchased our new house, ensuring that it was in joint names, and not doing the same for the savings accounts. Despite having zero paper trail of me contributing towards the £390k ISAs/saving accounts, it does not matter! For reference, £100k of said £390k was in my account to make maximum use of ISA allowances.

I wanted to know if I originally could claim housing element for a 2 bed flat, despite being a single adult, so my children can stay over in between University. That was the worry keeping me up, alongside thoughts of capital deprivation.

Thank you Mumsnet as my worries have changed course, and I now focus on securing better, fairer and a more just outcome from my adulterous husband.

Ah, good news. That all makes so much more sense.
Good luck

HetTup · 26/09/2025 08:28

OP - I am sorry you have so much to deal with. Means tested benefits are not appropriate as with good legal support you should end up with a fair settlement. However there are health related benefits that are not income based and may be relevant. PIP and New Style ESA I will link to the pages to find out more and you may want to apply for those. NSESA is contribution based so if you have paid income tax in the tax years prior to this one you may be eligible.

New Style Employment and Support Allowance - GOV.UK https://share.google/93xTBxpLH74HOlKJf

PIP is related to the impact your health has on your daily life so if you have care
or mobility needs you could apply.
Personal Independence Payment (PIP): What PIP is for - GOV.UK https://share.google/hdLBPY0RYdZNwik4h

Personal Independence Payment (PIP)

Personal Independence Payment (PIP) - how and when to claim, rates, eligibility, change of circumstances, claiming due to a terminal illness.

https://www.gov.uk/pip

MaryMaggot · 26/09/2025 08:52

Delighted! Well done you

VickyEadieofThigh · 26/09/2025 09:17

Soontobe60 · 25/09/2025 20:04

No one will believe that you had serious signs of cancer, your DH handed over £100k almost the same day and within a week you were seen via the NHS so had no need for this ‘loan’. And that you kept hold of that money for 6 months until such time as you decided to divorce him and promptly handed it back, no questions asked. Plus the ‘savings’ that he oddly put into your savings account (why did he do that), which you more oddly handed back to him.

I for one find this story absolutely impossible to believe.

Chewbecca · 26/09/2025 11:11

Well done OP.

Don't forget to include all pensions in the total assets pot too.

Squishydishy · 26/09/2025 13:16

He’s likely to get nasty when he realises you have a proper solicitor and proper advice now. You can do this OP!!