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How difficult/easy is it to get an injunction/restraining order after sexual assault?

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assdoc · 18/05/2008 15:23

DD1 (13) was sexually assaulted by an older boy from school whilst travelling home from school. The boy was arrested, admitted to the offence, he was convicted and reprimanded by the police. I was confident that school would expell him and DD would be able to return to school and try to put it behind her and move on with her life.

I was stunned when last week the head master phoned to say he'd decided the boy could return to school and did so last Friday.

I'm doing everything I can think of to make the school/governors etc see sense and in the mean time DD is staying at home.

Would it be realistic to try to get an injunction with powers of arrest that would make it impossible for the boy to be in school with DD and if so how do I go about it?

DD is genuinely terrified of the boy and I feel like the school have totally turned their back on us in favour of DDs attacker who just happens to be the son of a GP and in the Gifted and Talented set.

Any suggestions?

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Heated · 04/07/2008 22:57

Very pleased to hear that the victim in this, your dd, has got the outcome you and she so wanted, but only through your diligence and persistence. You'd think it would be a matter of course and that you wouldn't have to fight tooth and nail to get justice.

I did wonder if there would be internal pressure from governors and teachers (we'd be up in arms). The school should put in place a 'managed return' following such a distressing experience, with a named teacher for dd to go to if there are any problems.

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assdoc · 04/07/2008 23:09

Can't tell you how relieved we are that it's all over Heated. Thank you for all your help.

DDs head of year is meeting us on Monday morning to discus her return and settling back in. I'm going to insist on 100% support for DD, no crap accepted from anyone, be they pupil, teacher or head master!

I'm glad it's her head of year seeing her back, rather than the head as neither DD nor I have any desire to clap eyes on him right now.

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oops · 04/07/2008 23:22

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assdoc · 07/07/2008 09:28

Thanks oops.

Well DD is back in school!!

I took her in and met with her head of year,(lovely lady who was a teacher there when I was a pupil). Lots of support on board for DD if she should need it. No sign of the head master (big surprise, not).

I had decided that if anyone suggested we should meet with him for any reason I was going to say "Is he going to apologise to DD? If not, we won't waste our time, thank you very much".

DD has planned a dramatic entrance, she hasn't told a soul she's coming back today. She was just going to breeze into the form room as if nothing had ever happened. I think she's hoping for a standing ovation.

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BetsyBoop · 08/07/2008 14:12

Hope DD's first day back at school went okay?

vonsudenfed · 08/07/2008 14:28

I haven't seen this for a bit, and I'm so pleased to hear the result - it was one of the most shocking pieces of sexist injustice I have ever heard of in a school, and I think you have done a fantastic job of standing up to them (and, quite apart from the rights and wrongs of it, setting a wonderful example for your dd too).

Hurrah for assdoc.

And I hope your dd did make a dramatic entrance, good for her!

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assdoc · 09/07/2008 10:30

She did make her dramatic entrance and was mobbed with tears and hugs..

Her teachers have been lovely and given her a special dispensation to sit next to whoever she likes and catch up on all the gossip she's missed out on.

The head made a point of ignoring me as I sat in the car outside school on Monday (he walked past on his way to supervise pupils getting on the bus)but in ignoring me and staring straight ahead he made direct eye contact with DD who was walking towards him. He ignored her too. What a nob.

DD is still reveling in the joys of being back with her mates and is a million times happier than she was this time last week.

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Notquitegrownup · 09/07/2008 11:00

I've followed your thread until mid June and just checked in to see how things were going.

I am so pleased for you and your daughter.

BetsyBoop · 09/07/2008 12:50

good for her

I'm pleased she is settling back in so quickly.

Hopefully you can all start to move on now & start putting the incident behind you

kando · 09/07/2008 13:17

Wow assdoc, just read this whole thread. What a truly, truly shocking situation for your family to go through, not least DD. Much admiration to you for seeing it through to the end and so chuffed that your DD is now back in school and settled well.

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assdoc · 15/07/2008 14:57

JESUS do you ever want to get someone by their tie and pull it til their eyes pop out?

Just picked DD up from school. She's going on holiday this afternoon to visit her grandparents in France. Sadly she's now going away distraught.

She went into school this morning full of beans, all excited about her trip. She sat on a bench chatting with her friends when who do you think should stroll past on his way into school???????

You got it. The lad who sexually assaulted her. Apparently his parents asked the head if he could come in to go on the school trip that was planned before he left school and being such a fine and caring man the head agreed.

Now instead of informing us, so that we could have taken DD in later after the trip had departed (or as would more likely have happened kicked up such a stink that the boy would not have been allowed on the trip)the head instead just agreed to this and put no plans in place to keep them apart.

So DD was terribly shaken and upset. She was dealt with by her head of year again who said that this should never have happened etc. but it makes such a mockery of all the plans school said they would put in place to keep the 2 pupils separate if DD had returned to school as they wanted her to with the boy still present.

I bloody fuming at their total disregard for DD and her feelings/safety.

I've rung the head to tell him so. Stupid bumbling fool that he is. Of course he apologised profusely but what use is that now? DD is off on her holidays in a right old state.GGGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

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theITgirl · 15/07/2008 17:09

I am so sorry
That is appalling, I cannot believe the head.
You said the goveners were helpful in the past, can you ring one of them and let him/her know what happened

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assdoc · 15/07/2008 17:27

I'm going to write to them I think ITgirl. They should know what a plank their head is. Again.

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theITgirl · 15/07/2008 17:44

You should, hopefully theu will put a rocket up the arse of the head.

AlistairSim · 15/07/2008 18:04

Oh your poor DD!!

I was just reading the entire thread and was going to post congratulating your DD on the mature, brave way she seems to have handled the whole situation.

I am so shocked and angry on her behalf.

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