I’m in a relationship with a man who has two university aged children who I really like but don’t really know that well. My DC are still in primary school and we have no children together, nor are we planning to. DP has recently discussed marriage but there’s no benefit to me whatsoever. I was engaged to the father of my DC but that was different because we were planning on having children and I went part time.
I know it’s very unromantic of me to say, but if I got divorced and had to divide my assets I would stand to lose well over 300k (if the house-which I bought-was divided 50:50). As things stand my will states that my estate should pass to my DC and I would like it to stay that way. I just don’t see the point in getting married as my DC and I stand to lose so much if things go wrong.
His mum and step-dad have made a few comments like ‘being in a relationship should mean you’re all in’ but I just don’t see it that way. I just try not to engage with it and come away feeling like they think I’m a money-grabbing cow with commitment issues.
I don’t know what I’m looking for really, I just worry that this will create a wedge in our relationship that won’t go away.