Partner needs to pay more?

[Minnie41]

I’m not sure if I’m being “greedy” or if he’s being tight so opinions please! Partner lives in my house (5 years) have a child together (and I have 2 of my own) I’m now 2 days a week earning £490 pcm he’s earning £1500 pcm. He pays me £1000 towards bills, shopping etc but that’s only just covering everything. At the end of each month I’m about £100 short. I’ve asked him for help but he said he needs the extra £500 he gets paid so he has savings!?! I have to borrow off my children for food and fuel to get us to the next pay day. I’m so stressed. He is unhelpful in the house, moody. My parents look after my little one when I work so no childcare costs. I’ve tried cutting back but I have teenagers and uniforms etc.
I keep thinking I’d be better off a single parent :-(((((( but then feel guilty that I have to ask for him to help me :-(

I highly doubt that he’s squirrelling away £500 a month when he’s earning £1500 and paying OP £1000 a month. Presumably he needs to pay fuel /transport for work and other daily expenses.

£1500 a month is a very low income also - is your partner working full time?

Firstly if you ex has never provided for your two older children then this is money you are entitled to and you should claim for it (I’m not sure if you can make a backdated claim however you can definitely claim for anything from now onwards). CMS will take the money directly out of his pay and could make a significant difference to your monthly income - this is money you are entitled to to cover the cost of his children.

Then maybe you and current partner need to look at ways to increase your earnings between you. Could you increase to 3 or 4 days per week? Has your partner got any more earning potential?

I think you are being unreasonable. I know you probably only work two days a week due to your shared dc but you also have two children who aren’t your partners. The ultimate financial responsibility for those two DCs rests with you and their other parent. Less than £500 per month just isn’t enough money for you to be bringing into the household, especially when your partner is also a low earner on £1500 per month. The answer to your financial issues is surely to increase your hours at work.

If the older children mentioned are still children in full time education then the child benefit would be 200 a month (24 + 15 + 15) x4 roughly. If the older children are legal adults then they should be paying board if their mum's that badly off they aren't his responsibility.

As a household, you’re not earning enough. You need to work more.

1. You need to go to CMS and make ex pay towards his DC.

1. You need to go back to work full time and put you get DC in nursery for a couple of days each week.

1. Can either of you get a better paid job?

1. Are you entitled to UC as a couple with 3 DC living at home?

1. If your elder DC are finished in education they should pay towards their keep.

1. If they are still in school/college are you borrowing money from your elder DC's savings? If so you shouldn't do this.

Minnie4
Just to add that’s my income of £1490 (plus child benefit) I have £1200 of bills and £450 on food and fuel each month. Nothing spare :-(((( and he never offers to buy anything else

His money is covering almost all the bills. Presumably your older teens work, since you borrow money off them. So you're not supporting them. Do they pay towards the household? This man is giving you 2/3 of his wage - Im curious what you, and other posters who seem to think the mere £500 he has left over monthly is a massive amount, expect him to do, above what he's already doing. Is he allowed no personal expenses, treats, new clothing etc?

You get £1490 + child benefit monthly, bills are £1650, he gives you £1000...

If he posted here as a woman he'd be told to leave you.

You earn £490 a month for 2 days work

So just under £125 a Week so £65 a day ish

So if on nmw around 5hrs a day twice a week ?

What do you do

You need to work more hours or days