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Oh dear :( seem to have gotten ourselves in a finacial pickle with Wedding ...

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kitsandbits · 30/08/2007 09:55

and not the kind you would expect!

We havent overspent, in fact we are broke before that! Lol

Basically we decided to do our house up with the money my parents were giving us for the wedding.

We ALL decided that was best as everything we own since moving in 2 years ago was second hand and falling apart. Me and DP arent 'party people' and weren't looking forwards to the reception at all.

So we are getting married and going back to my mums after with small group of people for meal and champers.

BUT - we had a small amount of money put away for the wedding, but when we started to do up the house we got a bit carried away and spent it on flooring for the kitchen and other bits.

Now its 8 weeks till the wedding - and even though were not doing it BIG I hadnt realised how much we do still actully have to buy and now Im panicking!!

Basically i need shawls/boleros for the 3 bridesmaids as its winter and cant have them freeze - (I can do my own make up - but wouyldve liked to buy some new) i have no nice underwear, the men dont have suits, the fee for the church and other bits and bobs!

Oh and the champers and buffet food!
Oh dear

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fussymummy · 30/08/2007 10:31

Where are you?
Maybe MNs live nearby and would rally round with buffet....
Or could family/friends bring bottle/plate food instead of gift?
Any chance of evening job to get extra cash?
Or working from home?

CountessDracula · 30/08/2007 10:31

did you see the 99p pashminas?

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kitsandbits · 30/08/2007 10:33

Oh yes, theyre perfect! thankyou!

Im not keen on the tassels but my aunt can get rid of those!!

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Cowardice · 30/08/2007 10:34

You could get everyone to bring something! Make up a loave of sandwiches, perhaps another could make a dessert? Someone could cook & roast.. it has the potential to be a lovely party if family & friends help to make the day!

The 99p pashminas look good!

bubblerock · 30/08/2007 10:35

Did you manage to sell the big TV in the end, that was £1800 wasn't it? Could some of that money go towards the wedding?

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kitsandbits · 30/08/2007 10:38

i sold it for £250

and that got us a smaller tv

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Peachy · 30/08/2007 10:39

My MIL spent our wedding money 9basically she kept every penny Dh had been given since birth in a wedding fund) on a breast enlargement!!!!!!!

Anyway.

My sister had a reception where everybosy brought a bottle and a plate, lovely it was , people really put themselves out for a wedding.

LIZS · 30/08/2007 10:39

fgs get a grip ! From the sort of things you've listed you don't need to spend very much more anyway. Break all the costs down and if you need to sell more stuff to fund it do so or just cut things out.

bubblerock · 30/08/2007 10:40

Christ, that's a huge depreciation - sorry, you obviously already know that

CountessDracula · 30/08/2007 10:41

Do you really need a church wedding (I mean are you religious). look around at your local reg offices. Ours was stunning.
I totally agree with the bring a bottle and a plate thing

CountessDracula · 30/08/2007 10:42

oh your MIL sounds lovely

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kitsandbits · 30/08/2007 10:46

No, it has to be church, Ive comprimised on everything else, but not that. (or my dress lol)

I will pull myself together LIZ but for the last 4 months Iv not even THOUGHT about this wedding as my mum had cancer, ive spent all my energy just trying to keep it together,

anyway she got the all clear yesterday, and i felt relieved enough to even think about this (i was terrifed theresults would be worse and she wouldnt be there)

so excuseme if im annoying you - or if im panicking, but its not been at the forefront of my mind, and its just a bit of a shock to realise its only weeks away.

sorry not a rant at you, just a rant in general

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CountessDracula · 30/08/2007 10:50

ooh let's see your dress

Peachy · 30/08/2007 10:52

Brides are allowed to panic even without your additional stress- its your right

A friend of mine had to pull her wedding forwards because her Mum didn't get the all clear and only had a few weeks left, which meant they ahd to compromise a lot, but the event became so much more- a real celebration of family. You have extra to celebrate so [lease don't upset yourself over the little things- and enjoy having your Mum and new Dh around you.

LIZS · 30/08/2007 10:53

Take your point about not having been focussed on this recently but still think that the only way you are going to do this is by listing it all out, working out what you have yet to pay for and what is left over, if anything, for the various "nice to haves". From your past threads the MIL funds always seemed in doubt what does your dp say now crunch time ahs come ?

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kitsandbits · 30/08/2007 11:02

heres me in my dress - its not pink, as the crap camera makes it look, but champagne coloured

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CountessDracula · 30/08/2007 11:10

Wow
Gorgeous!

Hurlyburly · 30/08/2007 11:14

You look beautiful and everything will be fine. People will rally round. I want to send you a fancy salad and some cake and we haven't even met!

NadineBaggott · 30/08/2007 11:19

Beautiful dress, really lovely

Dropdeadfred · 30/08/2007 11:39

That is a beautiful dress Kitty - whee di you get it if I may ask...?

I understand about the cost worries..we have just booked our wedding for July next year and although its months away the finaces are already a worry, but we're determined not to go over the top..althogh it will be a special day.

Your dp has loads and loads of collectors item mini figures I belive..could he bear to part with a few on ebay?

Remeber your weeks shopping budget can go mostly on the buffet that week cos you'll beating it for days afterwards no doubt...try saving a bit every week now..have beans/scrambled eggs on toast one night a week and put a fiver in your 'wedding tin'.

ernest · 30/08/2007 12:30

church doesn't mean more (loads) expensive than registry office. Our church wedding cost £50. it's the other stuff that costs.

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kitsandbits · 30/08/2007 13:18

Hi Dropdeadfred,

Its a Mori-Lee by Madeline Gardner-

It costs £1200 in store but i got mine in an ebay shop sale brand new for £300

Yes my DP has ALOT of action figures and I will be pursuading him to get on ebay tonight

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Dropdeadfred · 30/08/2007 13:25

Hi Kitty - the dress looks perfect on you. I ned to lose a couple of stone before i want to buy mine...

Seriously, just having one cheap meal a week and cutting out a few luxuries will enable you to save aconsiderable amount towards the buffet at home.

callmeovercautious · 30/08/2007 13:26

How about a clear out (get family and friends to donate) and do a car boot. Even if you got £50 or so that would get you some decent fizz for a toast.

Sainburys are doing 25% off wine at the minute (might just be on line).

pipsqueeke · 30/08/2007 13:29

try BHS for the wedding clotehs- incl your dress, v v reasonable esp in the sales

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