Diddlydude2001
Thanks for replying people, lost my password, so reposting!
the story starts many years ago, but to make it short,
I have been suffering from chronic depression anixety attacks for yrs, then in 2007 i had pneumonia 3 times in succession, so I had an mri to check my chest, that resulted in them finding 3 broken, collapsed dics, arthritis and spondilitis in my neck! My mum died, my sister took me to court to try to overturn the will, the dwp decided I was fit for work and I had 3 tribunals in one year,then I had a total breakdown. I was assigned a mental health advocate who helped me with paperwork and benefit claims. The govt has since removed the funding for that, and as I find it hard to deal with paperwork etc -things are not easy.
During the same year my then hubby, also lost his job due to sickness which resulted in ccjs and a reposeesion order, which got to 4 days before eviction. At that point, neither of us could cope so we decided to go our own ways. But since we had a joint mortgage he refused to leave. Thats what I mean as quietly.
All the bills are in my name , the bank account/ the car / i alone is on the electoral role. During and since all of the above I had to prove to hmrc that I was single 2x and the council compliance visited 2x in all of this i was declared single and no further action.
Now, back to the boyfriends mum, the Hmrc people are only asking for me to prove single since october31 2016 to december 31, just abaout the same time as my daughter got the bf! The parents regularlt question both my daighter and their son as to what 'mum and dad' are doing/ where we worked, what we did before etc.... Hmrc want me to write a statement about who my hubby is, am i associated, prove with certs, the kids birth certs, all bills, benefits, council tax and car info including insurance?
So, what Is really worrying me is this:
Are they really just looking at tax credits or will this now affect my Incapacity payments (support grp) pip and ct?
I am so angry, and stressed, my anixety levels is thru the roof, i cant talk properly i have a stress induced stutter, so cant call them and ask for info.
I dont know whether he would be deemed to be living here, our money is seperate our lives are seperate, but he pays the mortgage in lieu of maintenance, and i do not claim housing benefit, but since he owns half the house is he not legally entitled to be here? Does that make me not single. Im so confused and feel overwhelmed im not sure i can cope with this and they want all info by the 9 feb
Lots of stuff is online and i dont have a printer, my aniexty makes it hard for me to go out so i usually do it all online!
Any advice would be grateful as i need help