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The puddytats police problem - long

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puddytats · 07/03/2006 20:25

Hi all

Many apologies for my silence, life has been hard recently. For those of you who are kind enough to remember or might be interested here is a recap:

DH and I had our 2nd child in May last year. After a month off DH returned o work (a company he has worked at for 6 years) to be called into a meeting and suspended due to discrepencies on a client he worked on. In due course he was found guilty of gross misconduct and fired. In the meantime the olice were also called in as it would seem that monies had gone missing. A fake case had been set up and dh had apparently done this, done all the work, written cheques and taken the money.

Everything is in DH name, all the evidence points to him. Some of the money even touched our bank accounts before it was immediatly transferred back out again. DH was arrested and taken in for questionning. I was also arrested and also questionned.

We have been interviewed by the police a couple of times and the case has now been transferred to the cps to decide whether we should be charged.

The bank has done their own investigations and concluded we are guilty and closed our account, refusing to give any further info as we were in the wrong. We cannot do any investigating or prove ourselves innocent unless we are charged as we have no legal rights to anything.

We also have a cilvil case against us trying to recoup the monies we were supposed to have taken.

Neither dh or i are guilty, you just have to take our word for that.

Ds is now 2 and dd is now 10 months. Our lives stopped 9 months ago and we are unable to start living again until all is over.

Someone out there has set us up, we never saw or spent the money. Someone has decided to destry our lives and don't seem to care that innocent children are involved.

DH and I are still together and stronger than ever, They will not destroy us and one day life will be normal again.

If you have got to this point thank you for reading.

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Freckle · 09/05/2006 19:47

Glad to hear about the good news and am rooting for you re the bad. Once you see what they have, you can see what you are fighting which makes the whole thing much more achievable. It must have been so hard trying to prove you are innocent when you don't know exactly what cards they are holding.

Freckle · 09/05/2006 19:48

Marina · 09/05/2006 19:49

Missed this update, puddytats, so pleased that you have some good news at last. Wishing you luck and strength for the court case :)

PollyLogos · 09/05/2006 19:58

Good news that things are finally moving puddytats. I can hardly believe that it is almost a year since this nightmare started for you all. Wishing you all strength to get through this.

satine · 09/05/2006 20:06

At least something is happening and you're a step closer to resolving this awful situation. My offer of help always stands, and I'll be keeping everything crossed for you all. Thanks for letting us all know - I've wondered how you are.

jampots · 09/05/2006 20:11

puddytats - I wasnt suggesting he wasnt innocent but maybe if he'd got himself into something he couldnt get out of.

I really hope you both get this sorted for the better quickly - I am thinking of oyu

drosophila · 09/05/2006 20:18

Puddytats many many times I thought of you and what has happened. This may be a silly question but if the money never really made it into your hands (i.e. there is no evidence of your spending it) how can there be a case to answer? I suppose if it was moved straight out to a Swiss Bank Account they may conclude that it was a Swiss Bank Account in your DH's name. Assuming they follow the money trail until it reaches the final destination then surely it will prove your innocence unless the trail suddennly stops in which case you would look at your spending patterns.

Sorry if I'm rambling but when I think of what you must have gone through it make me mad. My DP was accused of something he didn't do at work and was suspended for 6 mths and that was horendous so I can only imagine how you must feel.

madamechocolat · 09/05/2006 20:26

Puddytat - just to say that I am following your thread and that I send you lots of positive energy. Such a difficult time for you all - but now finally a chance to try and get things sorted out. You must be such a strong women (indeed couple) to deal with this. x

foundintranslation · 09/05/2006 20:38

puddytats, I think of you and this horrendous situation nearly every day.
So glad the case against you has been dropped, and I hope, pray and trust that now your dh's been charged, you and your solicitor can make the case against him collapse.

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puddytats · 09/05/2006 21:19

Again, thanks for all your kind words. It is our daughters first birthday on friday and her entire life has been blighted by this. Jampots, please do not worry, i no longer take anything personally!

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CHICagoMUM · 09/05/2006 21:23

Puddytats, have followed your story but never posted. I am pleased to hear of todays good news, and wish you strength to see this through and hope and pray it all gets sorted as quickly as possible and your family can all get their lives back on track.

Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 09/05/2006 21:24

Puddy - been thinking of you. Glad that you n't been charged. Hope you can get things sorted.

plummymummy · 09/05/2006 21:28

Great news about you, sorry about dh. It must be such a relief to know that your children will be safe and cared for. Wish you lots of luck in the fight to prove your husband's innocence. Hope you are all able to enjoy your daughter's birthday on friday. xx

plummymummy · 09/05/2006 21:28

plummymummy · 09/05/2006 21:30

oops sorry -stupid computer (actually, no it's me that's stupid )

Nightynight · 09/05/2006 21:45

just seen this thread. I wondered often how you were getting on puddytats, am so sorry that you are still in the middle of this.
Am glad that things have at least moved on a bit, and wish you all the best for proving your dh's innocence. Whoever is the guilty party really deserves to suffer what they have inflicted on you and your family.

prettybird · 11/05/2006 09:17

I'm really pleased that you are finally out of limbo and that you can now have access to the "evidence" against your dh.

Have you got a good lawyer and/or forensic accountant (or whatever they are called) to sift through the evidence to eith (or pereferably both) prove your dh's innocence or suggest who did do it?

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puddytats · 11/05/2006 19:50

Yes, we did a lot of research and have got one of the best. Just want to get my teeth into the fight now, show them they picked a fight with the wrong family!!

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plummymummy · 12/05/2006 12:31

Hi, just wanted to wish your dd a lovely birthday. Hope all goes well today xx

YellowFeathers · 15/05/2006 14:53

Just caught up with what happened last week PT.
Hope it goes well tomorrow for your dh.

xxx
(nbg)

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puddytats · 16/05/2006 06:59

Off to court this morning, please wish us luck!!

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pooka · 16/05/2006 07:14

Fingers crossed PT.

LadyTophamHatt · 16/05/2006 07:21

Realy hope everything goes well Puddy.

Sending the very best of luck to you all.

Spagblog · 16/05/2006 07:21

OMG, good luck for today, what a horrific situtation to be in

Blandmum · 16/05/2006 07:23

Hope it all goes well.

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