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The puddytats police problem - long

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puddytats · 07/03/2006 20:25

Hi all

Many apologies for my silence, life has been hard recently. For those of you who are kind enough to remember or might be interested here is a recap:

DH and I had our 2nd child in May last year. After a month off DH returned o work (a company he has worked at for 6 years) to be called into a meeting and suspended due to discrepencies on a client he worked on. In due course he was found guilty of gross misconduct and fired. In the meantime the olice were also called in as it would seem that monies had gone missing. A fake case had been set up and dh had apparently done this, done all the work, written cheques and taken the money.

Everything is in DH name, all the evidence points to him. Some of the money even touched our bank accounts before it was immediatly transferred back out again. DH was arrested and taken in for questionning. I was also arrested and also questionned.

We have been interviewed by the police a couple of times and the case has now been transferred to the cps to decide whether we should be charged.

The bank has done their own investigations and concluded we are guilty and closed our account, refusing to give any further info as we were in the wrong. We cannot do any investigating or prove ourselves innocent unless we are charged as we have no legal rights to anything.

We also have a cilvil case against us trying to recoup the monies we were supposed to have taken.

Neither dh or i are guilty, you just have to take our word for that.

Ds is now 2 and dd is now 10 months. Our lives stopped 9 months ago and we are unable to start living again until all is over.

Someone out there has set us up, we never saw or spent the money. Someone has decided to destry our lives and don't seem to care that innocent children are involved.

DH and I are still together and stronger than ever, They will not destroy us and one day life will be normal again.

If you have got to this point thank you for reading.

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Nbg · 08/03/2006 09:38

Oh Puddytats Sad

Don't know what to say.
How someone has this much evil in them to do something like this is totally beyond me.

Stay strong and I wish you and your dh the very very best.
x

acnebride · 08/03/2006 09:45

Very glad to hear an update pt but Sad that it's such bad news so far. I hope you are getting good legal advice, and maybe writing to your MP? (just a thought, you have enough on your plate). very best wishes.

yoyo · 08/03/2006 09:49

Like so many others I have followed this since you first posted and think of you often. I wish you and your family well and hope this nightmare will be resolved for you soon. Look after yourselves.

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puddytats · 08/03/2006 17:01

Thamk you all for your support. We have no idea at all who has done this, we sociallised with a lot of people there and i used to consider one of them one of my closest friends. Along with a lot of other things that has gone now as I cant trust anyone.

Re money, we are struggling, luckily we have a very nice mil who is paying our mortgage and monthly bills until this is sorted and we are back on our feet. I cannot praise her enough

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HellyBelly · 08/03/2006 18:44

Oh puddytats, I too have wondered how you are and what happened next, got excited when I saw the update - til I read it :(

You sound really strong, I don't know how you are managing to keep the family together.

Sounds like the best thing is that dh/you are charged so that you can get some help investigating! All the best of luck and keep us posted!

BIG HUGS xxxxx

SueW · 08/03/2006 19:09

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ at OP's request.

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puddytats · 28/03/2006 14:27

We have returned from the police station yet again on bail!

Apparently the cps have decided that the case is too complex for them to decide whether to prosecute or not so they have referred it to the prosecuting councul in London.

Another 6 weeks waiting, we have to return to the station on 9th May. Life is still on hold and so the saga continues!

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Nbg · 28/03/2006 14:29

Sad Puddytats.

xxx

foundintranslation · 28/03/2006 14:29

oh puddy - poor you, still no closure.
However, possibly a chink of light that no decision has yet been taken re prosecution? What does your legal representation say?
FWIW I think of you a lot and am praying very hard that your innocence comes to light and it all gets sorted very soon.

oliveoil · 28/03/2006 14:31

oh fgs. I had this on my watch list for today, glad you posted.

Agree with Foundintranslation, could this be a good sign?

(are you sure you can't use a holiday?)

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puddytats · 28/03/2006 14:31

Solicitor was as surprised as us that nothing happened today.

We are looking at it as a good thing as the case can not be as straight forward as the police would like to believe

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foxinsocks · 28/03/2006 14:31

oh dear

I know this means more delays but if it's being referred to people who are more in the know about fraud cases it can only be good news for you.

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puddytats · 28/03/2006 14:31

Thanks oliveoil, I could really do with a holiday just dont think it is possible!

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Hausfrau · 28/03/2006 14:34

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

oliveoil · 28/03/2006 14:38

let us know if we can help in any other way.

xx

LadyTophamHatt · 28/03/2006 14:40

Oh blimey....but I have to agree that if I was in your shoes I'd see this as a positive thing.

Roll on 9th May.

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puddytats · 28/03/2006 18:18

bump for the evening people who might be interested.

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PeachyClair · 28/03/2006 18:37

Puddytats it does sound like a positive or they'd have grabbed you, right?

Keeping everything crossed for the ninth.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 28/03/2006 18:52

Ohhhhhhhhhh I like what I am hearing. Grin

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puddytats · 28/03/2006 19:10

Built up today so much tho and yes it is a good sign but i thought we would move on today somehow. But no, still in the same situation we were 10 months ago!

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satine · 28/03/2006 19:18

Hi puddytats - I've often wondered how you were all doing, and hoped that your silence was a good sign. I'm so sorry to hear that this awful situation hasn't improved or even changed for you. As before, if there is anything I can ever do to help in any way, please just give me a shout. I'd like to be able to help if I can, and I'm very close to you (if you're still living in the same place!). It is so unfair that your lives have been suspended all this time without a trial or a chance to show your innocence. Innocent until proven guilty my arse. Wish I could help in some way.

jambuttie · 13/04/2006 09:38

Hi puddytats

Hows things hun?

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puddytats · 19/04/2006 21:26

Nothing changed, still waiting for 9th May. Just living day to day but is getting harder and harder. Started to have panic attacks. Just want it all to be over.

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mummy23 · 20/04/2006 10:26

will be thinking of you hun. Really hope you finally get a result on the 9th May, and its finally sorted out so you and your family can get on with your lifeSmile

puff · 20/04/2006 10:29

keeping everything crossed for you