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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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2 Miscarriages - Is there any hope?

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Amo101 · 12/10/2009 08:54

I've never really posted before but have been reading all these messages for a very long time!
I've had two early miscarriages in the last 6 months and am feeling a bit lost.
We had been TTC for 11 months when I got a BFP in April but in May it ended - I cried loads but think I dealt with it ok.
Then in September it happened again and I'm now finding it harder to be positive that it will ever happen for me.
I already have a 12 year old dd from a previous partner but would love a baby with my current partner of 11 years.
I suppose I'm just looking for some stories of hope to keep me going.

Thanks

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stuffitllllama · 12/10/2009 09:07

I'm so sorry, you must be devastated. I have no advice but can tell you that I had two early miscarriages within seven or eight months, then a successful pregnancy, then another miscarriage, then two more successful pregnancies. I felt at the time that my three babies were gifts from those I had lost, that it was impossible to regret the losses because without them I wouldn't have had the children I did. It's too soon for that sort of comfort for you, but I wish you all the very best. There seems to be wonderful support on mn for miscarriage and ttc and I hope you find it.

10krunner · 12/10/2009 09:15

Sorry to hear that your going through such a hard time. I had 2 miscarriages after my first son and went on to have 2 other children so please don't give up hope. Good luck.

lynniep · 12/10/2009 09:16

I really feel for you Amo - I'm fortuntate enough not to have suffered a miscarriage, but I can tell you that there is hope no matter how it seems at the moment. My step-sister suffered four early miscarriages before a succesful pregnancy. Whilst each one was devastating for her and her DH, it makes the existence of her DD even more precious. Good luck to you.

stinkypinky · 12/10/2009 09:25

I had a miscarriage at 26, and was told it was highly unlikely I would ever concieve agin due to extensive damage. Fell pregnant at 36, and now have delightful 3 yo DD. Am pregnant again - due just after my 41st birthday.

My Aunt, who is a midwife had DC1 with barely a thought, then had 9 miscarriages, then had DC2 - a spoilt little shit darling, but very precious. I admire her so much - she has delivered over 1000 babies, and never lost one, and yet lost so many of her own.

Wishing you all the very best

OurLadyOfPerpetualSupper · 12/10/2009 09:30

I had an early mc, then a live birth, and the same pattern went on to repeat itself twice over.
So I now have three DCs and three mcs behind me.

Someone said to me that sometimes your body needs a 'trial run,' don't know how true that is, but SL's idea of the babies as gifts from the ones who didn't make it is lovely - though, as she says, too early for you to feel that way yet.

My sister had 3 mcs one after the other then went on to have two babes.

It's an awfully sad thing to be dealing with and I hope you feel you can always look for support here.

stinkypinky · 12/10/2009 09:31

Oh yes, in addition, my Mum lost the baby before me (boy, at over 20 weeks) She already had two, and had agreed on three - if my big bro had not died, I would not be here - cold comfort I know, but I do honestly believe things happen for a reason, even though we may never understand...

kateecass · 12/10/2009 09:32

My sister had 2 miscarriages and is due next month.

I had 2 ectopic pregnancies and a miscarriage and then my DS and DD. Found out I was pregnant with son just as we got to top of NHS IVF waiting list.

Anything is possible!!

TwoManyFallsAndYouGetABadScore · 12/10/2009 09:42

So sorry to hear that Amo, a friend of mine had one DS, then had 3 early miscarriages and is due to give birth on on Friday to DC2 so there is hope. It must be so tough though - i know my friend really struggled with it.

lucykate · 12/10/2009 09:48

yes, most definitely hope. i had dd, then 2 mc's before having ds. exactly a year to the day after my second mc, i gave birth to ds.

sakura28 · 12/10/2009 22:54

Hi Amo,
I've also been reading lots of messages on this forum for a while but only posted a few times.
I;m really sorry to hear about your experiences, they sound similar to mine.
I had an early mc in June this year after TTC for 7 months (for some reason I put July in another post - sorry for any confusion caused!) and then also had another mc last month.
I know for me it seems that each month that passes makes it harder to stay positive, however out of the few friends and family that I have spoken to about it, all of them who were trying to conceive have ended up doing so. That thought definately gives me hope!
So I hope that this message makes sense and helps in a small way, best of luck to you for the future xxxx

Georgimama · 12/10/2009 22:57

I've had 2 miscarriages within 6 months. Like you I feel very raw. Take it easy. There are no words to make it better.

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Amo101 · 13/10/2009 08:25

Thank you all for your words of support. I have days where everything's fine and then days where my world feels like it's falling apart and just hearing other people success stories helps. I know I'm lucky I have a supportive partner but he doesn't quite understand, it all happened to quick I was the only one to really grow attached. And although I have two sisters who are great, my nephew has a brain tumour and I lost my Mum to Leukemia last year so the people in my life are not always the easist to turn to lately - they all have there own issues. So thank you all again.

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ScaryFucker · 13/10/2009 08:32

so sorry

my first two pg's ended in a miscarriage

my second two are currently eating their brekkie in front of me, and they happened after I was told I would never conceive naturally

I had help though in the form of treatment

have you asked to be referred to a specialist ?

all the best x

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Amo101 · 13/10/2009 08:42

I have spoken to my doctor who says she won't refer me to the recurrent MC unit until I have had 3 in a row but she has said she will refer me to haematology if I get pg again as I have the factor V leiden problem and to gyane as I had treatment 10 years ago for pre-cancerous cells. But to be honest if I MC again then those appointments will be too late as my MC's have both happened in the first 8 weeks.

Thanks you all again and I just re-read my previus post and I'm not as much of a depressive as I come accross

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GHOSTLYPRessenceofSES · 13/10/2009 08:48

Really sorry you're going through this but yes, there is hope and MN gave me so much hope, advice and encouragement.
I had 2 mc in 2008 (April & June) and then had a 3rd BFP at the end of August that stuck! Now have 5mo DS
It is tough and the pregnancy was filled with concerns and worries but so worth it.
Good luck!

ScaryFucker · 13/10/2009 09:17

amo, you be as fed-up as you like !!

it is horrible going through this

if we only had a crystal ball !

boodleboot · 13/10/2009 11:50

i had a MMC at twelve week scan in april and just had a tubal ectopic in september where they took both baby and tube. Gutting. I am trying to get the courage to contemplate trying again after christmas once fully healed....its so hard isnt it.

i remember about two years ago before DH and i was married i was at a party with him and there was this tiny little woman there who looked at my palm and said that we would get married but she didn't see any more children for me....i can't stop thinking about that....its silly isn't it....i should just ignore her shouldn't i.....

cathers · 13/10/2009 12:02

Don't give up! As you have one child already there is a good chance of you concieving naturally again.
I had one DS very easily, then 3 M/C in a in row, all at 8 weeks within 18 months. It was hell and utterly draining.

After the 3rd M/C I was allowed to see a specialist who took bloods and discovered I was pregnant again. The pregnancy was horrid, living with uncertainity for nine months but I now have our beautiful 4 month old son sleeping in his moses basket beside me and all the heartache is worthwhile.

gorge2003 · 13/10/2009 15:54

hi sorry to hear about yuor losses,

there is hope, i have a 3.5 year old ds and a year after he was born i suffered two miscarriages 6 months apart in 2007, one at 11 weeks and one at 6 weeks. we gave up for a while and then started ttc again last june. I fell pregnant in december 08 and now have a healthy 5 week old dd! there is hope, i know it seems like it will never happen but it will!

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